Dear Providers,

Everyone understands the necessity of screening new clients.  But how often do you consider the safety and security of other providers that you meet/correspond with?  This post is a reminder that you could have as much to fear from bad providers as you do from bad clients.  Another provider may not directly jeopardize your personal safety, but they might jeopardize your business.

Unfortunately, in this competitive environment, many providers are all-too-willing to go for each other's throats in order to compete for business, or just out of vindictiveness or jealousy.  As a provider, be very careful of whom you cast your lot with.  Consider these points:

1. Agencies have been busted due to complaints to LE by disgruntled, unstable ex-providers.
2. Providers have passed false referrals to aid LE stings of other providers.
3. Providers have started false STD rumors about other providers to try to trash their business.
4. Providers have complained to web-hosting sites to get other provider's free sites pulled for adult content.
5. Providers have threatened other provider's families.
6. Providers have threatened to "out" other providers to parents.

These are not obscure "back pages of the weeklies" examples, but are all based on incidents involving well-known, "reputable" providers and agencies that many of us men use and enjoy.

Be wary of other providers who reach out to you to be friends or want to do sessions with you, share an incall with you, send you a referral, travel with you etc.  Just like with a client, try to get as much "real info" on them as possible, while giving out as little "real info" of your own in return. (or at least have this exchange be equal). How well do you really know them?  If you are in a vulnerable position, for example, have a day job, kids etc. don't disclose this to them (or at least the details).  They don't need to know.

Don't let reviews serve as a screening tool either.  Remember, we clients usually don’t know and/or don't care about behind-the-scenes politics and infighting.  We just look for a good session, and to live out a nice fantasy.  So you may see tons of positive reviews on a provider that might say she is a sweetheart, GFE, great person, fun to be with, and so on.  Keep in mind that this is how she behaves during a paid session with us, and has no bearing on whether she is a nice person in real life.  She might be, but she just as easily might not.  Don't mistake popularity on the boards and/or good reviews as a sign that she is a safe person to deal with.

I know it is important to have friends in the business, and that a network of providers is positive for a variety of reasons: including safety and camaraderie.  Just tread carefully.  

Sorry to be so jaded and cynical (what's new?), but lately it seems that these "provider wars" have become more and more vicious.  Who knows, maybe politics and cat-fights are unavoidable due to the nature of the biz, and in an economic downturn, they just get nastier.  At any rate, be careful out there, and as always, YMMV.

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Workin' all day for the boss man, WHOA!
Workin' for the company, WHOA YEAH!
Bettin' on the dice I'm tossin', WHOA!
I'm gonna have a fantasy, WHOA YEAH!

iceman




-- Modified on 10/16/2001 6:44:16 PM