In reference to a previous post, I would like to ask the providers out there how do they distinguish between a potentially good situation VS a potentially bad situation? I assume that the provider in question (Lisa Foxx) must have thought this guy was a potential risk, but how else can you tell? Actions do speak louder than words, but over the phone or email must be tough to tell.

There are a lot of possible answers to this one.

I do not answer my phone while I am working, while I am in a situation where it would be inopportune (ie: on a date, at the dinner table with my family or friends, etc.) and the best idea is to just leave a message with a name and a telephone number or email address where you can be reached or, if you can not be reached by telephone for whatever reason, a time when you will be calling back.  If, however, you call back several times in the course of a day/evening while I am unable to answer leaving meessages (or not, I have caller ID) I begin to worry that I may have someone obsessive or overly agressive on my hands.  

If your phone messages or phone presence are threatening or agressive, I will not return your call and I will end the call if we are already speaking.

If you email me repeatedly in what I consider to be an unreasonable amount of time (I once had an impatient client email me 9 times in the same day asking why I hadn't returned his initial contact email yet.  This is, obviously, an extreme case.) I will most likely choose not to see you.  This is for multiple reasons, most notably that I am by this point irritated by you and I can't have a good time with anyone who I am mentally condemning to years of charm classes.

Finally, if you:
A) ask me either in person, via telephone or in an email to me about my services, I will not answer.
B) say something explicit to me via telephone or email, I will not respond.  Not only is it unsafe, it is an indication that you see me as something less than a lady.

If Ms. Foxx was unjustifiably rude to the potential client, then fine, she should be making amends.  However, in light of his post and the mentions of repeated calls and uncomfortable questions as well as the agressive tone of his message I have to say that I probably would have abandoned manners in favor of expasperation as well.

No offense to the potential client in question, but when one is continuously on the telephone with people who could be a danger to your health and or freedom, one tends to be vigilant.  You seem to have given off a lot of the warning signs of the kind of angry person one wouldn't want to be alone in a dark alley (or small room, for that matter) with.  Hopefully it was just an off day.

Enough rambling, I think I'll retire The Escorting Miss Manners to her closet again.  :p

Be well, play safe--
=jahnava=

I wanted to "shed" some light on this situation.  By absolutely no means am I any kind of risk at all.  I was a corporate financial analyst for 10 years with an MBA from a top 10 school and come from an extremely educated family of PHd's and am an attractive, polite, clean cut and fit man.  

I left her 4 voicemails (maybe called a total of 8 or 9 times sometimes with no answer) - I know an inordinate amount - but I was very interested in seeing a provider one particular day - what can I say I got "the itch" that day, but when she picked up the phone she was screaming at the top of her lungs rudely.  Then I called back to apologize and she kept yelling and swearing and swearing.  Clearly, a person who's anger got the best of them.  If she had talked to me and said she was busy and call me on XX date I wouldn't have had any problem with her from the beginning.

By no means was the tone of my voice rude, condescening or in any way threating.  She calls me a tattle tale, because that is the absolute TRUTH and she's upset, because I posted on this board and this may have hurt her business.

Actually, I'm sorry about 2 things:  1) calling her too often which I learned a large lesson about 2) I shouldn't have posted, but now it's too late and I have a right to tell what happened as dictated in the Constitution as free speech.  As everyone can clearly see Lisa (Maya) is a bit angry at me.  It's not at all like I lied and posted a terrible review on her and said I saw her.  She never even saw me and has spoken 2 sentences in her life to me and they had swear words in them without ever giving me a chance to speak.  Other than that we simply traded voicemails.  She probably is a great provider from the reviews - obviously I wouldn't see her because of the way she treated me.

FYI: in your post you said that Maya and Lisa Foxx are the same person. Maya is the owner of a very reputable agency that has been around for 8-9 years in the Seattle area (EP). Obviosly you have NOT been around the "scene" for very long to make an assumption such as that! LOL LOL LOL

He's a moron !  You're correct, I have been in business EIGHT YEARS in Seattle.

I just want to say that it's been a LONG LONG TIME since I've gone a round or two with someone on the boards and it "feels good" to be back in the saddle again.  LOL

xxoo MAYA

MA--

I just wanted to clarify something.  I have not accused you of being dangerous, I'm just trying to enlighten you to the fact that the behavior you exhibited (both what you have said you did in trying to contact her and your tone on this board) is the sort of thing that will make any provider who cares for her safety wary.

You may very well be a calm, genrous, warm person with the best of intentions, but when you do the things that I listed in my first post to this thread you will immediately seem agressive and threatening.

Better luck contacting the next gal, hopefully you (and she) will have an easier time of it.

xoxo,
=jahnava=

Thanks your advice is known and respected.

Of Maya and Ms Foxxx being the same person?
One thing I have learned about these boards (or in anything really)is that you had better do your research before you start "pointing fingers".
Good luck to you in your start of hobbying