This was brought up on another site I frequent

Say you prebook the night before or even 2 or 3 days in advance.
You wake up the morning of and have caught a cold, sniffles, cough, possible fever.

Do you call, text, email and cancel, risking possible blacklist for canceling last minute.
Do you call, text, email and say willing to come but, giving her the out but save the possible blacklist.

What is the right way to cancel if legitimately sick?

There are probably several "right" ways to cancel, but personally, I would call (no text or email) and let her decide. I would venture to guess that nearly every provider (if not all) would want to cancel and not risk getting sick. Also, I'd let her know that I'd want to re-book the following week or the next time she's in the area and definitely do everything in my power to make that appointment. That may just make her feel that you genuinely want to schedule with her and not use the 'I'm sick' excuse to blow her off.  

But don't cancel that next appointment or you will probably be blacklisted

You text her and tell her your sick etc but you're still willing to see her if she doesn't mind but you'd rather see when you're well again. Let me know what you think?  and wait for  her reply

 
 

First of all, even the high end ladies get tons of cancellations. Many times people don't show without even canceling. It just doesn't sit well with them. Of course they've heard every excuse in the book. And this is a hobby that just doesn't engender trust and honesty. Nevertheless, you have to be honest, and cancel. Especially if it's with someone you've seen many times, she has to believe you. If she doesn't, she runs the risk of losing a long term client. She won't put you on any black list. However, if it's a new lady, you run the risk of losing her because you haven't built up any trust. I don't think she'll put you on any black list because you took the time to communicate, but she might take you off her own personal list. That's luck of the draw. But let's say you don't cancel, you get her sick, and somehow she's able to pin it on you. She just lost about ten days work, or several thousand dollars. She's not going to be happy with you. That could get you blackballed.  

But what if the situation is reversed? She's sick, and she doesn't cancel? It just happened to me. Two Saturdays ago I didn't notice her symptoms until about halfway through the session. Sure enough, 72 hours later, I was sick. I know it's Christmas, the worst possible time for someone without sick leave to be out of work, but she absolutely should have cancelled. She did not! Now I was sick, and I had to cancel the two sessions I had set up for last weekend. What about those two ladies? It's Christmas for them too. That's why you have to cancel. It just hurts everyone on down the line if you don't. If someone gets mad for canceling, then I think it's time to move on anyway. Oh, and the lady who got me sick was a lady I've seen regularly for the last few months. So yeah, she got the Christmas session, but now she's on my blacklist, and it's going to cost her thousands down the line. If you're sick, just cancel!!

you got sick, and respect you for not getting the other girls sick.

I'd blacklist the girl that got you sick too.

Kuddos

a reasonable person. I agree that call is better rather than just texting  

Serena x

You need to make a trip out to San Jose or Monterey, California, WOW!

to enjoy your time together & offer to be sure to see her after you're better.  I've had it happen to me with a provider who e-mailed me about 2 hours before appt. that she had food poisoning & was throwing up every 10 minutes or so.  She also promised me an extra hour next time we got together.  Believe it or not, even though it was a year later, she honored her free hour commitment.  She is now near the top of my list.  So honesty is the best policy (really)!