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Re: Question about client "satisfaction"
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Thanks for the feedback.  It's strange.. I've got no erectile issues and I can climax with ease when I'm alone but when I'm with a lady, it can really be a "hit or miss" for me.  I love foreplay and I love giving pleasure (provided I'm able to do so :)) and I just love the intimate moments we share, in general.

It just gets hard for me at the end when I'm repeatedly having to assure her that I did enjoy myself even though I didn't erupt or anything.  :)

Peace...

I guess this is mainly for the ladies but anyone can reply. :)

So, to the providers I've seen most often, it's a known fact that I tend not to climax when engaging in intimate play.  At the end of the session, we tend to go through the "man, you didn't climax and I feel bad" to which I respond "it's ok, I still had a wonderful time" thing.

I can understand the climax being an indication that the client is "happy" but what I don't get is despite my usually NOT having a climax, I will continue to see the provider regularly and frequently and my not having a climax seems to overshadow the fact I keep seeing them.

So, does the fact that a client sees you repeatedly factor in when determining if you're keeping that client "happy" or "satisfied" or is it mainly whether or not they climax at some point?

Peace...

If a client continues to see a girl without ever wanting this type of release... then the girl should know he is still enjoying himself and is happy.

I think, that its more about the girl wanting to make sure that this guy feels comfortable with his choice to not climax. Or let him know that if he wants to try it is acceptable. Yes it is harder to gauge a clients happiness with the session when there is no climax. However a girl with some experience would be able to make a climax to the appointment which would be equally pleasing.

Its ok to leave the door open. But, perhaps just being blunt and forward with your regular girls will take some of the pressure off when dealing with these types of conversations.

Thanks for the reply.  Other than simply telling her he's happy, what other things can he do to *show* or *convince* her all is well?  I'm sure that would depend on the lady in question.  :)

I don't necessarily prefer not to climax, it just doesn't happen.  Sometimes it will but usually it doesn't.

Peace...

Hey Mr. Mystery!  I'm cheered to find a bro in the same situation as I.  I've spoken to my physician about it (well, not the 'escort' angle) and he checked things out finding nothing to worry about.  (Thankfully, no ED here!)  It's indeed a little bit awkward at times, but most of the ladies I meet are understanding and cool with it (and thanks to resources like TER, I'm able to find and meet cool, understanding ladies.)

I usually bring up the subject early on or midway when meeting someone for the first time, and it's an awkward moment, but I find it's better to clear up the expectations and understand how our mutual enjoyment will come about. I usually book 90-120 minute appointments and spend the great majority of the time at creative foreplay - a "climax" wouldn't be at all unwelcome, but IIRC it becomes anticlimactic.

One Very Wonderful Woman (you know who you are, Juls) had the elegant wisdom to conduct a sort of short interview after some initial greetings and ask how best our time together might play out!

Digging the journey - not wanting an end just yet...

Thanks for the feedback.  It's strange.. I've got no erectile issues and I can climax with ease when I'm alone but when I'm with a lady, it can really be a "hit or miss" for me.  I love foreplay and I love giving pleasure (provided I'm able to do so :)) and I just love the intimate moments we share, in general.

It just gets hard for me at the end when I'm repeatedly having to assure her that I did enjoy myself even though I didn't erupt or anything.  :)

Peace...

Very interesting that this has been brought up.  I was just today thinking that we (SPs) try so hard (at least I do) to bring out our profiles and give a sense as to who we are, but session after session I realize how many questions and how much there is to learn.  

These questions help greatly.

I will quote these:

"It just gets hard for me at the end when I'm repeatedly having to assure her that I did enjoy myself even though I didn't erupt or anything."

       ---- AND ---

"I usually bring up the subject early on or midway when meeting someone for the first time"

I think that is what I prefer, if I were told from the beginning then I would know what to expect and relax (and have more fun myself).  If I do not know then I would definitely feel bad.  

Of course if I get a second visit, and then hopefully a third and so on (which has happened) then I have definitely been able to relax and even enjoy more than expected.

Best,
Z

With me, it's usually on the second time around, but it has happened when there was no climax at all. I'm sure in the earlier years, I did frustrate a couple of ladies by not saying that there may not be a finish. I have learned that it's pretty easy to bring it up, and that the ladies seem to appreciate having the pressure relieved from them. Most of my dates are for dinner, and I've found that, when a lady is in agreement, the best is when we can have some playtime, followed by dinner, then return for dessert. Since I enjoy the journey so much, often times, I enjoy the second time around more than the first, even without a climax. I find that the lady is more relaxed, knowing that it really is okay that it may not happen. I also think that the lady will be more apt to enjoy my efforts in giving pleasure with the pressure off of her to make sure that I finish.

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