I'd like to know if any SF Bay Area providers reading this regional board have ever been asked to dress to look like a flight attendant or nurse when meeting a hobbiest. I'm considering treating myself to a very special birthday later this year.

provider would honor this request if she had the outfit... if not maybe find one you like and ask if you can bring her the outfit?

I agree.  If she doesn't already have such an outfit, your bringing one shouldn't be a problem.  

Now, would you also expect this "flight attendant" to open the emergency escape shoot too?  

Peace...