San Francisco

So I Posted A Request For Advice Vis-aVis Hosting (Not On TER...Probably My First Mistake)
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But instead I got insulted and bullied.

I suspect that my visit to San Francisco is going to be an interesting one.

A little excerpt:

My admirer, "Union Square is probably the best for naïve tourists. Your fees are way too high. You're competing with beautiful Asian ladies that go for 120/half & 160/hr . We have an incredible choice and your tattoos are a turn off That's my opinion."

My quaint (I thought) reply: Your opinion is one of many. But it is just that, one.  Have a great day."

My admirer:  "I'm sure the majority agree with me. Then again, a fool and his money are soon parted. Asian women are much better in bed and don't have the hangups and drama of most Caucasians.  Besides, you're obviously pimped big time and that's a deal breaker also."

My Reply (no I never learn):  "So let me get this straight, I finished my undergraduate degree (verified and verifiable) 8 months ago.  I also just earned pretty solid scores on my  GRE (Verbal: 158, Quantitive: 164, and Writing: 4.5).  But I'm being pimped big time?  And you say that while comparing me to Asian companions, some of whom we all know are trafficked.  You sir a bully.  And I suspect that you know you are.  I'm sure everyone else does.  

Again, I thank you for your opinion. Have a great year.

 
Yes, it just gets worse from there.  I'm sorry. I know I should have been the mature one. And he, like everyone is entitled to his opinion.  But why the insults?  Besides, he really pissed me off.

hobby a lot with Asian providers, I appreciate that all providers deserve respect.  Sorry you had this experience and hope you don't judge all of the bay area by this one jerk.  There are many respectful hobbyists out there.  

This guy probably doesn't care that he is seeing trafficked girls, which at that price point, many, if not most, are.  The Asian girls that tour and work voluntarily, but still with a booker, usually run $200-250/hr, and none of them are being forced to see anyone they don't want to see.

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I realize he was just a creep.  
But I'm angry with ME for allowing myself to be baited and drawn in.
I was just really tired after my trip I guess.
Thanks for the support!

in my old age i have found a good way to deal with the internet is:  write your response, then pause before you hit "submit," and ask yourself, is this going to add anything positive to the conversation, or the world at large?  or am i just writing out of anger?

usually 9 out of 10 times it's the later, so i erase it and don't send.  

life is better this way.

i am sorry this guy bullied you.  all ladies doing this voluntarily deserve respect and admiration. and those not doing it voluntarily need legal help.

...you didn't get a more positive response to your inquiry. I'm not sure which site you posted on but this site isn't the predominant one for the Bay Area.  

I took a look at your rates on your website and it seems to fall in line with the majority of what other providers are listing. But that's just my opinion.

I do hope your visit here is 'interesting,' but in a good way! :

Thank you for the kind words.   I'd ask what the predominant site is here, but I'm not sure it would be allowed.

Your rates are fine and so are you. You should do well in the Union Square area. There's much to see and do there between appointments as well. Enjoy, and don't let the low ballers get you down.

Just so you know, I'm smiling from ear to ear!

Veronica:

Let me welcome you to our fair city by the bay. Most of the natives are friendly and we all collectively  apologize for our rude compatriot. I'm also confident that between your beauty, your look, and the creativity and competence your web site demonstrates you'll be very busy making new friends immediately upon arrival.

If you have questions about SF, please  post here. I'm sure you'll get some good replies, though hotel names are probably best handled by PM.  

And as for hotels - yes, most women end up around Union Square because it's the most convenient location. I've had some great experiences at Fisherman's Wharf and love the atmosphere (strange mix of tourist carnival and real SF). Many think its a bit too far out, though.  

Best of Luc

I almost booked a hotel down by Fishermans Wharf.
I still may though, despite your caution.
From what I've seen of the neighborhood I would enjoy my time there.

I notice that no one has really talked about the suburbs.
Are they just a no mans land as far as the hobby goes?

Are you at all familiar with Tysons Corner near DC?
Or maybe the Rosemont area right outside of Chicago?
What would be the closest to something like that here?

Also, I see that there is no separate board for the San Jose area.
Why is that?

Is the relationship between the two cities kind of like that between Boston and Cambridge?
The distance between SF and SJ would seem to belie that though.

I looked at the demographics and stats for SJ and it's "ring" cities.
The area doesn't seem like it should be a backwater.

Anyway, thanks for the support.
Just so you know, I'll likely be in the area for about two weeks or so.

Veronica

Hi:

If Fisherman's Wharf speaks to you, I say go for it. This whole city is so small that it really doesn't matter that much where you are so long as it's reasonably nice and safe.

There really aren't "suburbs" in SF in the conventional meaning of the term since it's a narrow, little, peninsula. If you want to cross the bridge, there is Emeryville where many providers are, though I don't think it's terribly convenient for anyone. And of course lots of people spend at least a little time right by SFO in Burlingame.  

Love Tysons Corner! There really is no parallel, though Union Square would probably be closest.

There really should be a separate board for San Jose.  

Boston and Cambridge is not a bad analogy in terms of feel, but net door-to-door time for most SF/SJ commuters is probably 90 minutes or worse. Some providers will do say 3 days in SJ and then come to San Francisco for a week. San Jose is not a backwater at all but SF is the cultural center of gravity for the Bay Area.

Hope this helps!

One reply is to many. He wants you to reply and what really upsets these types is when you don't. Btw, as others have mentioned your rates are very reasonable.

I for one, think your website is great, and you're adorable, and will meet amazing people on your trip here.  

Best of luck to you!

As usual, I am late to the party.

I think I saw your original post on the other board.  Unfortunately I am distracted so I didn't reply.   But now you've found the right place to ask about the bay area.  There's another board which can't be mentioned so I will send by pm.

"Asian women are much better in bed and don't have the hangups and drama of most Caucasians" uhhh, someone must not know many Asian women. And for what its worth, all those 120/160hr Asian women are pimped.

ps. I like tats :)

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