I'm into women who find some way of being genuine in the session.  By this I don't mean they are ACTUALLY into me -- I know that's not happening.  Rather, I mean a woman who manages to put a part of herself into it; who becomes engaged as a real person; who finds some part of herself that is able to actually be into me in that moment, for that time.  I understand that this is performance, but I am in a service profession too, and while I  too perform for my "customers" [not disclosing actual relationship], I do so in a way that comes from my center; it is a role and not the whole of me, but it is at the same time genuine;  I truly give myself and truly enjoy the connection with the other person.  

This (along with beauty) is what I look for in a provider.  And mostly I have been deeply disappointed.  Some extremely highly rated providers have been, in my experience, plastic; their performance is so detached and distant, even if energetic, that it feels as if I am simply using their body for a time.  I exaggerate a little, but not much.  There is a descent into the most gross as substitute for a sliver of the real.  They are not really there, or not really into it if they are there.  

I have had two exceptions.  One, Celeste, actually seemed to truly enjoy me; her orgasm was probably unfaked, her liking of me apparently real. She thanked me at the end of the session, which was probably going beyond the real, but she did it in such a way that I felt she dug me.  That was cool. I would say that in fact she found me easy to relate to, liked me, was a bit surprised by my own genuineness, and had a reasonably good time herself. She really left me almost convinced that if I came back, she would be excited to see me, and would personally enjoy the sex.  That is presumably a fantasy, but she was sufficiently real that it was an easy fantasy to sustain. If she were more my preferred body type, I would keep seeing her as a pretend but believable girlfriend.  

Another, Luka, also found ways to be into me as a person also, and embodied her role as courtesan with obvious pleasure and playfulness.  I will be seeing her again, because I suspect she will gradually tune into me and the experience (which was quite wonderful) will become even more so.  She seems to be a professional, not in the hard meaning of the term (technically proficient, polished, in charge) but in the sense of professional courtesan; she seems to have a talent for liking, for connecting, for finding a way to make the moment real.  I cannot yet imagine her as a pretend girlfriend, but I think we might get there, and even if not her playfulness makes her at least a truly enjoyable person to have sex with.  

Thoughts?  Suggestions?  I don't want to badmouth any providers who don't live up to this (admittedly high) standard; rather, I would like to sing the praises of those who do. It can only be a challenge, and it requires some kind of talent.  Providers to whom this makes sense: feel free to contact me

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Go See Ceroni or Claire.
Both great & get into the session & make u feel like a king.

I reviewed both her on TER.

Sparky: are you referring to clairegfe?

So, you've discovered the Holy Grail. That has become my mantra too. In fact, I pretty much visit only genuine friends. The standard is so high, new ladies are rare. My screening technique is so honed, I can tell by her first response if there's a chance she'll meet the higher standard, and I don't mind waiting if I have any doubts, nor if old friends are unavailable. I wish I could give you a recommendation, but alas, our taste in women, other than genuineness, differs. Best of luck in your crusade Sir SubtleApprec.

My tastes are very eclectic.  Feel free to make a recommendation!

I believe he meant Planet Claire. She's currently on vacation, but should be back in February.

I can say a lot about myself but I will not.
I have looked at your reviews.  
I am NOT 20 something. I'm in my late 30s and much more to talk about.  
I believe we may have a connection.
I will not talk more here. Read my reviews and if you are interested send me an email for more.  
I liked your post so far.  
Up to you.  


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I just figured it out. Based on the two ladies you wrote about, you like your ladies young. That's why Zayla mentioned her age. She's not sure you'll go for a thirtysomething. Strictly based on averages, although it's possible, it's far harder for younger ladies to display the genuineness your looking for. They don't have enough experience. Also, not sure how old your are, but again, based on averages, the age difference in this hobby can be huge. The bigger the age difference the more difficult it is to connect with a young lady. Most guys don't care, because all they want is to f*ck young pussy. On the other hand there's me. Since that genuineness is really that important to me, I seek out ladies whose age difference isn't so great. Connections happen much more often with more experienced ladies. Even though your tastes may be eclectic, the age factor is showing through in your post. That's why a recommendation from me wouldn't help you. But tell you what. Go see Zayla. Her genuineness shines through in her writings, so I have plans to see her myself. I can't wait. If her life's experiences charge you with the realness you seek, then I'll tell you about a friend of mine, similar in age, steaming with genuine charm. Funny, but she doesn't call it that. She calls it mojo.

@shwing97 Thanks for mentioning me regardless of whether I was the intended person, haha!  

@subtleapprec I really appreciate your outlook on the chemistry between providers and their clients. If you are interested in swinging my way, I would be pleased as I find it very important to pull pieces of the "real me" into my companionship.  

X's and O's to you all!
-Clair

What you say makes sense; after all, that's how things work in the ordinary world of relationships!  It's actually sort of coincidental that the two women I mentioned were so young.  Those were just the two I had great connections with. But, still, those connections were limited by life experience as you say.  The women I've seen at the more grown up end were a bit jaded, but that was just them.  I've seen young ones who were jaded too.  

Anyway, bottom line is: please, go ahead, make a recommendation! Anyone under about 45 is quite young enough for me!

By the examples I gave, some have thought I'm only interested in very young women. Not at all!  It just so happens the two I had good experiences with are young.  But I have no such focus.  Anyone under about 45 is plenty young, and I can surely see the advantages of seeing a more grown up person!

You should get in touch with Ada Lovelace. I haven't been in touch with her for a few months but as far as I know she divides her time equally between Sacramento and the Bay Area. She's pretty much the definition of what you're looking for, except for the fact that she's in her 30s. But god damn son. I collect pebbles from the shores of her eyes.

Yes, she sounds exactly like my dream girl!  But she also doesn't seem to be taking new clients. You are lucky to be on her list!

Your best bet is with "non-pros".

With the pros, I've found that the older they are, and longer they've been in the profession, the harder it is for them to put on their tired act. Therefore I generally try to stick to providers who are 18-25 and who have seen fewer than 100 different men

Makes total sense! I enjoy this hobby, I love to socialize, I often orgasm during sessions and sometimes I don't. I strive to make a connection and cater towards repeat business. Neve been a good actress though so you can see in my reviews that, naturally, I connected very well with many, and did not with others.

Anyhow, faking something is not my strong suite