I've been seeing a provider for a few years.  Up until recently, I never expressed any feelings to her. Then I guess I blew it.  Something happened and I told her how I felt about her (that I liked her a lot) and she has quit communicating with me.  Worse, I keep sending emails which I fear has made matters even worse.  I know I crossed a line I shouldn't have and made a mistake.  Anybody have any ideas on how I can make this right? I'm a little bit mad because I feel like if you see somebody for such a long time that it shouldn't be the crime of the century if you make one mistake.  Are providers really this cold?

I've had similar experiences.  Some of these girls are really terrific: not just beautiful on the outside.  
I firmly believe there is a difference between prostitution and escorting.  I think with escorting, it works best when both the provider and the customer are able to enjoy it.  It gets complicated when the feelings come into play.  But these are very intimate acts...how do you not have feelings? My heart isn't made of stone.

sounds like you crossed the line between fantasy and reality.  remember, you are just the client.  If she is not responding to you anymore, leave her alone and move on.  you don't want to come across as a stalker, which you may be on the verge of becoming.

From your description, it appears that the lady does not want an emotional relationship with you at this time. For both her and your sakes, respect her wishes and move on.

However, there are ways to leave the door open. Send her a nice "thank you" note in which you express appreciation for the time she has spent with you and apologize for, as you put it, "crossing the line".  End the note with a simple, "should you feel differently in the future, don't hesitate to contact me".

Warning: IF she does contact you down the line, you MUST be very careful to determine whether she was a "relationship" or a "payday".
Good Luck

it does not mean she is cold..she is scared..I had a client do the same.. it was a major reason(one of them) i moved clear across the U.S.except they said they wanted to marry me  have babies..that all they do is dream of me blah blah..all kinds of crazy stuff.then they ended up stalking me turning very mean..it totally sucked...you need to take a break from seeing her..for your sake and hers..see someone else..a few times..then have that provider get in touch with her..and give a reference(that you have been really seeing another provider) and maybe she will see you again..you have to understand..all the horror stories of people freaking out and killing others because of unrequited love..you may argue' she knows I am not like that" but she thought she knew you..then boom.. you spring this on her..she is going to wonder what else she missed about you...it is a very scarey concept for providers..they have a nice life..maybe married whatever..and they keep a line mentally for themselves..and she thought you did the same..the worst thing you can do is obsess..keep calling emailing sending gifts..dont do it..it will push her further away..everytime you call..she is thinking "what now" "not again" believe me..i am sure at one time in your life you or a friend has had a crazy girl obsess over them..remember what that felt like? she is feeling exactly like that..plus 100..she is probably worried about what info she gave to you..if she let her guard down..if you would turn her in..or try and wreck her life..its a very scary thing for her..so I am sure she is not meaning to be cold..I dont know her so I cant say for sure..but try and put yourself in her shoes....

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Everyone- I appreciate the advice.  I will back down.  I am not a stalker and don't want to be preceived as one.  Thanks again