I am officially a San Francisco resident. I have adjusted to the hills and the fog (mostly) but I need a primer on west coast group dynamics. Help me calibrate?

Lead time:
Does the Bay Area plan its debauchery like a board meeting or a startup pivot (spontaneously)? What is the ideal runway to ensure a full roster? Two months or two weeks?

Location:
What hotels offer the holy trinity of soundproofing, discretion, and suites large enough to accommodate a crowd? I need a venue that doesn't require elevator key access and turns an approving (or at least blind) eye to our proclivities.

Density:
A previous event involved 14 gentlemen, with a rotating cast of about 9 active participants in the room at peak intensity. Is there a local appetite for this kind of volume? More or less?  

Viagra:
A question of etiquette: Is there a graceful way to encourage the use of Viagra/Cialis beforehand? I really mean to say, is there a way to ask the question without causing insult or hurt feelings. This is a meaningful question generally, I think.
I appreciate your help, I really do.

West coast eccentricities:
Anything I missed, please pile on. I'm new to the bay.

Not sure what happened, but I think the best approach for Viagra/Cialis is to simply mention it with the other information about the event.  
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Maybe a statement like:
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If you need or use Viagra/Cialis, don't be ashamed!  Be sure to take it {insert here} minutes before to make sure you're good and ready for me!
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Keeps it fun and let's them know you're ok with them using it.  

I would love to participate if my schedule permits.  

I met a provider at the Embassy Suites by San Francisco Airport one time she had booked a suite it would definitively accommodate  your needs.

Great recommendation, thank you!

I host GBs weekly in the bay and have been for 3 years. I rotate between SF, Oakland, and SJ. I used to go to Sac, but attendance got unpredictable, and it's too much of a drive for a dud. I usually have 2-4 women and I cap the guys at 20 so the suite stays comfy. My events always reach capacity, with disappointed gentlemen who didn't RSVP in time. I have curated a group of 900+ interested guys. A lot of guys who wouldn't see a provider feel ok going to a party. So I would say that, yes, there is an appetite for it.  

I do have a list of venues- you can reach out to me if you'd like. I don't want to list my faves publicly- I'd hate to lose them for some reason. I already got asked not to return to a favorite hotel because I can be quite loud when I'm having a blast.

I DM'd you!

It’s happening! May 18th, San Francisco.  

We have 15 confirmed guests so far.  

I’m very excited about the number. What are your thoughts?