So that post about the proliferation of 10s has brought me to another question: What to do when someone shows up at your door for outcall and you feel like she just does not do anything for you?

Without being rude or being a cad, how and when do you tell a provider "thanks but no thanks"? Now, this girl has driven out to see you at your hotel, so an investment of time has been made on her part. But at the same time, I don't feel like forking over 4-5 bills or more to someone I honestly would not even try to pick up at a bar etc.

Also, it's one thing to tell an indie girl "no" because you can inform them of your intent at the outset before they come out, but how do you do that with an agency?

Like all hobbyists, I have had more than my share of mediocre and unmemorable experiences from just a sheer physical attractiveness perspective. Luckily I've had my share of fun experiences too, but I've forked over a lot of $ to girls who simply are mediocre attractive at best who I would not really even give a second look at in a public venue ...sometimes it is my fault for lack of due diligence but there are times when it's a not just lack of DD but a combination of fake reviews and/or bad reviewers....

In any case, just want to hear if other's have a good strategy for saying no as necessary without coming across as a scumbag...

what a great post, if more of us had the BALLS to walk away ,the practice of not meeting the expectations of what we see in their Ads and in their reviews would change dramatically .I havent walked away in that sense but on more than one occasion left the envelope and gone on my merry way .I have been concerned that a boyfriend (pimp) maybe lurking outside or close by .I fellow hooyist I trust and pm a lot had that happen to him and was physically threatened ,it's not worth taking the risk .I now only see ladies that I have previously met or ones that are highly recommended to me by other hobbyist I,ve learn to trust in the past .
So please guys let's all try to be a little more objective in giving high scores to people who don't deserve them

If I'm not doing it for you PLEASE ask me to leave or leave yourself! My one "so so" review claims he wasn't clicking with me the way my other reviewers had. I would have preferred him take off and have a better day alone than keep smiling at me faking his way thru the appointment. It cost him 200 for a massage he didn't fully enjoy and it cost me a sub-par review. Who won? Nobody. I'd rather have handed back 160 of it and said thanks for the mini make out session for 40. Fair, no?

If you're not getting into it or the chick you're meeting with is NOT nearly the caliber of her photos just say as politely as you can manage that you aren't sure if this is what you were looking for and say thanks but no thanks. Not every lady will appreciate this but I for one want to see people who really want to see me, not someone who has to fake it or feel like they wasted time and money.

I have had someone ask if they can book, come over and if they don't like the way I look asked if they could leave and just leave. Nothing more. I said sure, but that he needed to bring me a bottle of champagne so I could drown my sorrows if he left, LOL. He said deal and we made the meeting. He came and was pleased so we shared the bottle and laughed about the whole thing.

Read the reviews and hope the pics are accurate, try and get some back channel (invaluable in my experience). That said, if she shows up and you're not feeling her, or she's clearly not the lady in the pics or looks nothing like them, you're under no obligation to go thru with the appointment. As far as the 10s, I've never given an escort one for looks (I have for performance)......yet  ( - :

MfSD>>>>

First of all, we are all in this hobby together. The providers make up one part and the hobbyists the other. There is ALWAYS a way to be respectful. Sometimes it does hurt to be honest but it is your hobby and you do have the right to say something.

If you aren't feeling it then you aren't feeling it... You can always say something along the lines of "I have to be honest I'm just not feeling it... I mean you no disrespect, however I choose to for go this appointment..." When in doubt be respectful and say how you feel.

We providers that are accurate and live up to our personal standards deserve the honesty from our hobbyists. As do those whom are less than honest. Please help those of us whom are honest such as yourself, and speak your mind.

XXX
I hope you have a better experience next time!
Roxanne

Just curious, have any of you ladies ever turned down a client after meeting him based on appearance ? I know I probably won't get many responses to this question, that most of you entertain a wide variety of clients (God bless you). I saw Kathy Willets many years ago in Vegas. She told me one of the first guys she ever saw as a client, weighed 400 pounds. She said she always tried to find and focus on one thing she found attractive about a client.

MfSD>>>>

and believe me - there were a couple of times.  In the end - who needs the confrontation or the drama - if the door opens and its a huge difference from what I've been led to believe - the review won't be pretty but I'm there for the count (and in one instance, much less than the count.)

I've gotten much better at research, MnGs and a trusted network of fellow mongers, and thus it's not as common as when I started on this journey . . .

I had an experience where I thought the whole place was kind of dark and creepy. The provider left me sitting in the dark room while she was getting ready. She came out (and to her credit) saw the look on my face and said "this isn't happening, is it". I put 40 on the table and was gone. That's the problem with doctored or old pics. If you are paying the $ and the lady has a lot of extra lbs it's not going to go well usually.

The truth hurts, but helps too!  Tell her at the door, so sorry I have to decline based on inaccurate pictures.  If you had recent photos maybe do not utilize photo shop to be more accurate.  No offense I just prefer to be honest.  Why risk wasting your time & money?

There was only one person that I turned down and he showed up at my incall with a large suitcase, sunglasses, and a hat, he looked like he wanted to stuff my petiteness into that large suitcase so I politely opened the door a crack and told him that I had a serious emergency and I couldn't see him... I had a very eerie feeling and all day thanked my lucky stars I hadn't let him in.

Sometimes what you thought might be extraordinary, you find is just not that Wonderful...
Then again you might try something new that didn't look so good but turned out it was amazing ...
It's hard to tell what you're going to feel in a situation or about a person.
Reviews are for the reviewer only in my opinion, it's in the eye of the beholder, ymmv always.
Any time you see someone new it's about sharing an experience and a chance to grow.
In this hobby we grow sexually.
If you turn away someone based on first impression you may lose opportunity for the best thing you could experience.
I have never been turned away because I choose to make a connection first before we meet, it's anticipation and delicious!
Whether you choose to send a gal away or not is each man's choice ...
Just remember sometimes we let a coincidence pass us by that could change our life ....
Hobby responsibly and love your lover!!
Kissez that make you surrender,
Chloe


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because those on your side of the table are not typically known for rational behavior or better business bureau practices - and I know "we" have our own stereotypes and baggage.  the reality is though, if someone knowingly misrepresents themselves, do you really think they'll be open to constructive criticism or a loss of potential revenue

suck it up and move on - that's my motto

it's easier said than done , I had a provider I tried to walk away from years ago come after me ......I will leave it at that .I now do as much due dillegence as I can ,but even with all that expectations are not always lived upto .