You know I was tring to keep my "hobby budget" from going into the 4 digit range per month so i can catch up on the visa balance ...aw who am I tring to kid I was lookin for love....so I messed around on the personal dating sites for a while...what a pain in the a%$%.....gosh you gotta spend so much time chattin and e-mailing and weedin out the "not so good lookin ones"  Im freekin tired! The ones I want to call me back dont.  but Thank god providers say yes ...I get to go all the way on the FIRST date with just a phone call and a little $$ ..for now I can live without being in love but I cant live without getin laid.

It's all about the sex.  If you are looking for love in this arena you should get out know.  Granted, I have some ATF's that I would consider friends (and I belive the feeling is mutual) and our meetings are more like dates than sessions...BUT, I don't delude myself for one minute thinking that our time together is anything but business for them.

I am a super busy businessman and escorts are a great way to have sex and fun without all the hassle that you metioned.  Besides, in the finally analysis, I think the hobby is cheaper for me than dating.  Albiet with no prospect for a long term relationship.

EA

Amen.... both of u!right on(eom)

Did you ever consider that you look like a troll

Yes, our "fantasy girlfriends" we meet through TER address certain needs in the overall scheme of the human male psychosexual being.  For some men, those needs are as far as it goes.  However, for most men, just having the physical needs addressed eventually becomes a phrase I used in a different post one time:  an external bandage on internal bleeding.

You said you were "looking for love" when you looked into the Net dating sites.  If this is true, and you were seeking someone for more than just dating and sexual gratification, then it is a much more difficult quest that will take a lot longer to fulfill.  I have met people through the personals (both on and off the Net) since before the Net existed.  It is time consuming, yes, and you have to do a lot of weeding out of people.  Many people in the personals could be considered "second tier relationship material", so it is a lot harder than just popping on TER and looking for good reviews.  There isn't a dating service equivalent of TER yet, unfortunately.  Also, many Net dating sites post a lot of "stock" ads to make it look like there are a lot more (mostly female) prospects on their site than there really are.  I have seen the same picture of certain women with ads on several sites under completely different names and descriptions and backgrounds.

However, as you know and the other posters here have intimated, TER should be viewed as fantasy gratification only, no matter how nice or real or intelligent some ladies may be.  If you are married, or not looking for a real relationship, that is one thing.  However, for those of us who are single and still looking to meet a woman to have a deeper relationship with, it is a tool to be used, that bandage I referred to earlier, while we go through our lives, attending to other matters and keeping our eyes open for someone who we will want to be a larger part of our lives than just as a "provider" or, if lucky, a friend.

It all comes down to priorities.  If having a relationship is a priority to you, you will be receptive to spending the time weeding out people on the Net, or meeting people your friends might fix you up with, or getting involved in social groups, or asking women you meet out in creative ways, or whatever.  I would assume you are fairly good looking, as you made mention of Net women who are "not so good looking" (remember, you need to have the tools... looks, money, attitude, whatever... if you want to attract "hotties"), so if you are patient and apply youself, while spending time with our kind fantasy ladies here at TER as a "bandage", you should eventually meet someone that can be a bigger part of your life.

In the meantime, it is a good idea to put yourself in the place of the type of a woman you want to attract and ask yourself if YOU possess the qualities that SHE would be looking for in a relationship.  It takes two good people to make one good relationship.

I guess a "troll" would be a bad thing to you.. but I do feel like Its ok to talk about my feelings on this discussion board so If you have no feelings of your own to talk on this matter why dont you just comment on other matters like condoms slipping off or just read and move on ....you see I have spent  $$$$ plus the last few months on providers and submited a few reviews so I get to talk about what I want too and of the women that ive seen Ive cared about being sweet to them just cause thats who I am ...Just cause Im doin this lately doest mean I have to drop my ability to love a woman ..Im fully well aware that I have to look elsewhere to find love....but while im in this arena i still will care a little with whom im intimite with no matter if Im paying for it or not

Aside from the fact that this TankEQ "person" doesn't have the cajones to step out from behind an alias when putting someone down, I think this post certainly falls under the "posts that are just being mean" category that it says right on the DB rules will be deleted.   Come on, moderator...if this post, which adds NOTHING to the thread, doesn't come off as just being mean (and I am not going to buy an excuse that TankEQ might have been  posing a question as to whether Nice thought he was attractive), I don't know what does.

Totally unnecessary.

spaceymc, you are correct and TankEQ's post should have been deleted.  It was one of those posts that I consider borderline, in that it was kinda mean and didn't really add anything to the thread, but basically harmless.  And by the way, TankEQ is not hiding behind an alias (I know cuz I can see the real handles of people that are using alias's).  That's his registered handle.  Thanks for calling me out on this one.  Sedagive.

I always noticed that when you stop looking for love, that is when you find it. Maybe its about being comfortable with yourself.

I'm a pilot, a ship's captain, and was married for 25 years!  After a nasty (and pricey divorce) I found out the following -

If it floats, flies or f*cks, it's cheaper to rent!!

Well, paying for it is the only way I'll ever get any.  That's my two cents.....

I appreciate the thought you put into your post, spaceymc.