You have almost 3K in #'s (good & bad) in your phone. I toured lots & had an adult entertainment agency back in the day...

I have been in this hobby land for well over a decade now.  I took my # offline about 3 years ago, and evolved to email only to regained my sanity.  

Lol Smile 4 US!  I enjoyed your post.

when you can spot a hobbyist or provider in person
when you've seen providers rise to the top, then retire
when you've seen all of the providers on your to-do list
when providers in your city no longer interest you
when you're waiting for the "next big thing"

When you are at the drugstore in the condom isle and you identify the lady buying the economy size box as a provider.  

- When your girlfriend brings home a porno and you have seen all the porn stars in the movie

- You drive by motels and scan the parking lot and the balcony for possible provider sightings.  

- You can drive by any hotel in your area and know the fastest way to the elevators.

- You leave an envelope on the dresser of your girlfriend's apartment.  

- Your girfriend says: "Let's try greek tonight" and your eyes pop open wide and say, " I have always wanted to try that with you."

- You take your girlfriend to Victoria's Secret and the sales clerk greets you by your first name.  

- You write a rip off report then realize it was your girlfriend you saw last night.  

- When your buddies talk about porn stars they want to meet and you have their phone numbers in your cell phone.  

 
I have been in this for 10+ years now

you forget that this is a unique community and the rest of society has a vastly different view on what we do here.  you take it for granted, you get loose with information and protocal.  you think you're invincible - that you are indeed all that and a bag of chips . . .

and then it rises up and bites you in the ass and your world comes crashing to a halt.  and if you're lucky - you get to hit the reset button, start again, and learn from your mistakes.

interestingly enough - this "time period" is different for different folks.  for some, it could be six years, or even decades.  for me it was less than 12 mos. before I hit the iceberg.  hopefully smarter and wiser this second time around.  guess we'll see about that . . .

you meet their grand children in the hobby

when you've seen different providers at the same hotel and the same room!

1 hr becomes 4 hr meets becomes 4hr duos becomes...

overnites becomes duo overnites becomes weekend encounters,  and those longer engagements now become  
fewer & farther between but more rewarding.

When once upon a time if...

... you'd seen a older man and a hot twenty-something girl you'd have thought to yourself "how nice it is to see a father take his daughter out for lunch" but now you smile to yourself and think "I wonder how much she's charging an hour."