Has this ever happen to you....You meet a provider (or a hobbyist for that matter) and you you see each other a few times and you find yourself starting to care a little to much for that person ....so  whats a boy to do?..am I just a sap? or should I try a new hobby?  or just a new provider I guess that Im kinda still In dreamland about living happier ever after ..is there some medication to take for the romantic heart that I stiil have? I really want to stay in the game coach.......will my lust overcome my love so I can still stay in the hooby?  you vetrens out there tell me how its done.......

Reality check bro - keep your respective roles in perspective.  Your job is, as any client, to pay your bills on time - and NOT be a pain in the ass customer (as in rude, smelly, stupid etc).  Her job is to satisfy your needs during the allotted time.  If she is at ALL professional, she has a grasp of human nature and understands those needs - in your case, emotional as well as physical gratification.  Nothing wrong with this, I also find it far more rewarding than pure physical bliss.  BUT (notice, all caps for emphasis), if you allow yourself to believe (beyond the contracted hour or two) that it's anything more than a service - you're setting yourself up for a BIG fall.  Just an opinion.

I agree with Rugburn's response. Would just like to add that the provider will milk your "love" for all its worth...so that you keep coming back and shelling out the $$$$$$$$$$$...which is the only thing she loves. Remember, if she truly feels the same for you she wouldn't be charging you! And another thing, don't forget that someone probably screwed her 15 minutes before you got there and there will be another guy scheduled 15 minutes after you...so keep your "love" in the allotted time frame and don't even consider it outside of the session.

This is one of the reasons why some younger providers prefer men over 30.   Fewer emotional attachment issues.  I must admit that some of these women make me think a lot about being 10 or 20 years younger (as well as feeling that way) but age does bring on a certain appreciation that we are here for only a short time.  If you click with a provider consider yourself lucky and live in the moment.

if you have these types of questions, I'm guessing you are not seriously involved at the moment in any serious, long-term committed relationship.  Do you want to be?  

As others have already said in this thread, your chances of finding a long-term relationship thru this "hobby" are slim.  Slim to find an all-time favorite (ATF) who will satisfy your needs (not desires) for years on end, and even slimmer near zilch to find a "provider" who will see you in a "civilian" sense.  

For me, the hardest part was accepting the fact that I needed someone to love 24x7x365 and that buying 1 hour at a time wasn't going to cut it.  A few providers are going to be "dating quality" but they have their own questions/issues, and are not always compatible.  So, as a matter of time and resources, this site and hobby is great if you're looking for a few short-term flings or the occassional release, but do you want to make it your lifestyle?  Can you tell your friends, relatives, future girlfriends or wives about it?  Can you accept yourself?  Those are the questions I had after the ones you asked above.  What brought you here in the first place?  

Good luck! and Be safe out there, fahrkle

thanks for keeping me in check....I know your right....On to the NEXT girl and hurry.....

She not only stops asking for money when you sleep together, but also does not ask for cash to "help" with her bills. In other words, you become "true" lovers!

It is a lucky enough scenario that you meet a provider that you really click with and can make a regular, especially if you are a romantic, as you obviously are.  There are many women in this business that aren't as jaded as some of the earlier posts implied, but that doesn't mean that they are looking to find a boyfirend/partner out of this. Whatever the various reasons that women enter this profession, at least in this day and age, I would guess that almost all of them are in conflict with what you propose, unless you are loaded and are willing to eliminate their need to work.  There are some providers who will make their time with you very girlfriend like and who don't always have another customer waiting.  Be thankful if you fine one, and start looking for a
girlfriend either in your normal scenarios in your life, or online.  There are a lot of women out there...even in San Diego.