these are a few of my favorite things (I am so hard to please)

My ATF:
1) remembers my name
2) listens
3) gives me my space
4) suprises me
5) has an ass like this.... oh man
6) spontaneous
7) makes me laugh
8) kisses with intent
9) inspires me
10) did I mention tits?

and oh - 11) lets me fix her computer, as required.  I'm no good with cars, plumbing, electrical, woodworking, taxes, fashion or much of anything else.  So bless her soul, she lets me help where I can.

oh, I forgot.  12) ....

But I'll try. I do have a ATF. She was my first experience in the "hobby", and the first person I had been with for quite some time. I think what she did was just treat me with compassion and kindness, like a person and not a client. She also did something that not many providers I've seen have done: she encouraged me to stay in touch with her, and I did. We developed a friendship that was seperate from the "hobby".
After spending many years doing this, she's planning to retire, but she says that we'll still be friends, which is all I can ask for.
Sorry for rambling, but that's what made her my ATF. I'm not saying that's what other providers should do, but that certainly what did it for me.

My ATF's have been so into our times together that she makes me feel as if I am there for her as much as she is there for me.  When we really hit it out of the park, it is an incredible blend of sensuality and sexuality that makes time stand still and the outside world disappear.  It usually starts with in incredible and genuine kiss that leaves no question that she is glad to see you and ready for an amazing time together.

What will "instantly" get a provider barred from being considered an ATF of mine?

1. Showing dissappointment (even for a second) when we first meet. I don't dress shabbily and I do attempt to work on my "presentation". I'm not a hunk - nor am I a troll. So, those aren't justifications.

2. Responding to a polite request for a second round (in a multi hour appt.) with "well, OK - but I won't be into it". Actually, having to suggest an additional round is reason for barring.

3. Telling me about the wonderful/awesome looking guy she "just had to have when she first saw him", while she and I are in an initial "get to know" each other conversation -at her request (and of course on my dime).

4. While in an appt. saying she is looking forward to being with her male SO tonight - so she can have some "real" sex. OK. that one never happend to me

What elevates a woman to be a candidate?

1. Wanting to take care of me. period. and is willing to allow me to take care of her needs.

2. Completely unhibited BCD, reserved in public.

3. Presenting an environment where, if I was so inclined to ask for a bizarre fetish (that was safe), I felt I could do so without recrimination or disclosure to others.

4. Honors the sacred COTS (Covenant of the Session) whereby what happens or is discussed in a session STAYS in the session.

5. Can carry a give-and-take intelligent conversation. She contributes, I contribute.

But, this list of "do's" really can't be mastered by study, IMO. The lady must really want to enjoy herself and to provide me with enjoyment. Put differently, she must enjoy her work, love men, - and is not just doing this to pay bills.

Just My thoughts.

PS - and yes, having a great arse is definitely a plus -)

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Not forever.  I don't even care if it's an act (this IS socal, after all, actors are everywhere, esp in politics, why not in the hobby).  As long as I don't walk away thinking, "boy, she didn't like me", or "she really dislikes her job", she's in the running.

None of my ATF's are around anymore. One was crissy from Pacific Beach. She was beaytiful, friendly and was great at her work. Anna from the South Bay wasalso awesome, provided you could get an appointment. I knew a madam in North county for a few years, but she too has moved on. She had great girls that performed well and they were all very attractive.
   Personally, I am not the wine and dine type of guy. I am there for one reason and one reason only. I want to get there, take care of business and have fun. I am not into conversation nor do I want a glass of wine before the fun begins. But, that is just me.