On these forums, in reviews and on a lot of girls ads the word connection comes up quite often and I was just wondering what most of you consider it to mean?

For me I am really not even trying to make a connection of course in a romantic sense but at most as hopefully a new friend and or F... Buddy. I really do like most of the girls I have been lucky enough to get together with and enjoy there company along with of course obvious other things and do reach out to them by either mails or these forums just to say hi or ask questions regarding certain things but that is as far as it goes out of respect for both my boundaries and there's.

What I do not understand is connection in terms of a sexual thing as that would make me feel to much like a true date or something that I vaguely remember from my past when you take a girl out and hope you know will I hit a home run or strike out tonight! With this if I have to connect to get what should be expected in a this for that situation then I really have picked the wrong girl and in fact what I find its really the girls who make the connection happen and the ones who are the best at it to me are the truly elite ones and more than likely is why they usually get consistently high scores.

From my standpoint as one of the guys I always approach seeing someone the same way and that is with a open mind, a pleasant attitude and treating them with respect as I hope they would me. Also hygiene is of course is very important and a sense of humor does not hurt.

So if both sides follow these basic principles should not the "quote" connection naturally exist?

Chemistry & compatibility are the most important factors of a 1st date.  The most important component of compatibility on a 1st date is easy conversation, and 2nd is shared outlook on life, 3rd is similar personal styles & habits.  The last is physical comfort with each other.  


Maybe in my younger providing years I would have agreed with you, but now that I am mature I am very picky.  I reserve my time for those who I feel I may have a connection based on chemistry & compatibility.  Anyone can stimulate you, but the entire package with intigue your mind as well as your body.


I recommend M&G's to see if there is a connection.  They do not call it a date for nothing.  Interesting post thanks for sharing!

Great topic.  Hammerhead I have the exact opposite stance  - connection is everything to me.  It's essentially why I am in the game.  It might just be a couple minutes or even a few seconds... but there is that special moment when you feed off each other's energy...and together you get to a place you can't on your own.  Expressions like it being hot, intense, passionate all capture this connection.  A sexual experience/orgasm without connection is essentially jacking off to porn.  My guess is deep down you get some connection or else you would stick to that much cheaper and less risky option

I think the whole idea of YMMV is essentially about connection.  I have had some really hot girls where it looks great on paper, but we just don't seem to connect.  I have also had some girls where on the surface I wouldn't think there is much there, but boy was there something special between us.  And you can obviously have a great connection with a woman one time and not much the next.  As humans, we have a very basic need for connection on many levels - with the hobby providing a very primal one.

Thanks for the topic Hammerhead and comments from MP and John. I think I've been looking for that connection thing for a long time.  Searching for that perfect whatever- pretty sure that is never going to happen. But I've definitely met some great ladies who have rocked my world at times and appreciate that they let a schlub like me enjoy their company and bodies. It would be nice to find someone though who was pretty kinky like me and didn't mind seeing me more than once or twice. Someday maybe

If I feel like a connection is not going to happen, I will not set an appointment. 9 or more times out of 10, this is the case. And the in after conversation that I had with a provider last month where she determined because she no longer felt a connection that she did not want to see me anymore, I explained to her that that is how it SHOULD be. If it's done tastefully and with respect, I take no offense from it. Normally there will not be a connection, and if there is, it's usally short lived. 60% divorce rate in the US. It's not supposed to work. Connections mostly evaporate.

In my case, I have been extremely lucky with providers. But I caulk up some of that luck from going from selective to very selective to extremely selective in a short period of time. And research is key to finding that one that both really enjoy spending time with.

It's all about reading reviews, the ladies stating clearly what they want and don't want and posting their rules on their websites. They might drive some business away by doing so, but if the provider wants a connection as bad as I do, it's worth it for both of us.

Omg where have you been?  I am right here!  Maybe you would have noticed me awhile back at a great TER party we attended if you were not preoccupied pleasuring my friend Goldfinger69.


Lol I did enjoy the show!  Smile 4 me!

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of course I noticed you. I am a big fan of you and your sister. Two sexy ladies!