The out of no where PM's/emails and texts from girls are really nice! Especially since some of the ladies get close to 3500 inbound texts a month. Seriously, I read that last month from one provider. The ladies don't have time to put a ton of thought into each communication they receive in response; they have lives as well. So when I get one out of the blue, I find it endearing.
One provider emailed and pm'd me over 40 times before we ever met. I am SO glad she pursued me like that. I was glad to be "conquested" like that. Turns out that she is my one and only current ATF.
The ones that don't seem to want me don't reach out to me. Which is cool with me. I try to keep the communications from me to providers to a minimum. Many ladies spend more time in communications as they do is session. Which, to me, makes the out of blue communications even more special.
Dudes that constantly email ladies are kind of lame. If they think the ladies enjoy that, they are mistaken. IMO.
Posted By: BigPeterJohnson
but early on in the summer one lady who i thought was one of my regulars stopped returning my emails and texts. at the same time it was dawning on me to get a clue, i had reached out to a friend of my atf at her suggestion. just as i closed the mental door on my first gal who refused to answer my communications, these new lady returned my email and said she'd love to see me. we set up a date and it was fabulous, one of my favs ever. tho she's a bit pricier than the girl i gave up on she's far more reliable and even sexier! seen this new gal 2 times now and hope to see her plenty more! she's rapidly moving into atf territory for me!
plus she's very happy to stay in constant and immediate email contact, even for a quick "how's things when are you available" sort of thing. i like that.
so ladies, pls keep in mind, prompt (ish) communication is a key to good business. (punchline: the first lady returned a pm about 3 weeks later, saying she hadn't refused to answer any emails or texts, was i sure i had the right lady? (i was, i checked the email addy several times). she then proceeded to not answer any of the 2 follow up pms i sent her. so, duh, i took a hint). new friend can have my repeat business now!
new lady = sexy times-a-mundo! don't know if she was my conquest or i was hers, tho...
Good post. I never get an unsolicited text/email etc. from my fav. Makes me think?
Probably me just being too open? umm
I would guess you are not being open enough, maybe. But you are right to being a little more closed. I have been on the wrong side of that, it's not worth it, usually.
I think I just picked correctly and mostly got lucky. With no SO, I think things work a little differently for me, not knowing if you have an SO or not.
i also personally don't communicate w/the ladies unless it's about business, ie, are you available, when can we meet, are we on for such and such, etc.
i know most of these girls have lives outside of this hobby and really don't need to carry on extraneous conversations w/guys just to keep our egos inflated.
so it bugged the heck out of me when the first lady refused to answer my emails about her availability. but i soon got over it when i met the new girl!
stay safe and have fun!
