San Diego
Someone's doing something right....
Where it has got tricky for me in the past is when I needed to make a moral decision over a selfish decision and end the sexual portion of the friendship when I felt I was no longer enriching his life and in fact doing quite the opposite. When he began booking frequent over-nights I was thrilled and flattered. Some of the best dates in my life were with this guy. But when he asked me to set up a paypal account so he could start seeing me on credit, it was time to draw the line. He felt like if he could hang in there a little longer, that magic moment would click for me and I would want to start dating him for real, off the clock. I had to be honest and tell him I did not feel that way for him and while I still meet him for dinner as friends sometimes, I will not book him anymore.
At the end of the day, this is supposed to be fun. I am not looking to ruin anyone's home life, marriage, or wipe out their bank account and leave them out in the cold once I have sucked them dry. Bad situation #2 happens far more ... a great client becomes a jealous client. Asks you about your weekend and then pouts because you were screwing your brains out and the sex was good! HELLO! That is what we do! And if the sex was bad more often than good, he never would have met me because I wouldn't be doing this!!! And if it is hurtful for a guy I have formed a true friendship with, I would rather not keep seeing him than continue to hurt him. Again ... this is supposed to be FUN! So yes, let feelings develop. Makes for better sex and hot chemistry! But remember what we are all doing here. Sharing the best part of dating ... the fun, the sex, the making out like high school kids ... without the drama of who did or didn't call when they said they would, blah blah blah ... xoxo - Hannah PS. And if You read this, know I would never say your name or handle and love and value your friendship enough to stick to this decision. Starbucks and Sushi forever.
-- Modified on 10/3/2013 2:28:30 PM
At the end of the day, this is supposed to be fun. I am not looking to ruin anyone's home life, marriage, or wipe out their bank account and leave them out in the cold once I have sucked them dry. Bad situation #2 happens far more ... a great client becomes a jealous client. Asks you about your weekend and then pouts because you were screwing your brains out and the sex was good! HELLO! That is what we do! And if the sex was bad more often than good, he never would have met me because I wouldn't be doing this!!! And if it is hurtful for a guy I have formed a true friendship with, I would rather not keep seeing him than continue to hurt him. Again ... this is supposed to be FUN! So yes, let feelings develop. Makes for better sex and hot chemistry! But remember what we are all doing here. Sharing the best part of dating ... the fun, the sex, the making out like high school kids ... without the drama of who did or didn't call when they said they would, blah blah blah ... xoxo - Hannah PS. And if You read this, know I would never say your name or handle and love and value your friendship enough to stick to this decision. Starbucks and Sushi forever.
-- Modified on 10/3/2013 2:28:30 PM
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It is always flattering when someone falls for you. Period. And if there is not mutual chemistry, I doubt the crush would develope in the first place. But there are some situations where I have to call it quits for the good of both parties.
Where it has got tricky for me in the past is when I needed to make a moral decision over a selfish decision and end the sexual portion of the friendship when I felt I was no longer enriching his life and in fact doing quite the opposite. When he began booking frequent over-nights I was thrilled and flattered. Some of the best dates in my life were with this guy. But when he asked me to set up a paypal account so he could start seeing me on credit, it was time to draw the line. He felt like if he could hang in there a little longer, that magic moment would click for me and I would want to start dating him for real, off the clock. I had to be honest and tell him I did not feel that way for him and while I still meet him for dinner as friends sometimes, I will not book him anymore.
At the end of the day, this is supposed to be fun. I am not looking to ruin anyone's home life, marriage, or wipe out their bank account and leave them out in the cold once I have sucked them dry.
Bad situation #2 happens far more ... a great client becomes a jealous client. Asks you about your weekend and then pouts because you were screwing your brains out and the sex was good! HELLO! That is what we do! And if the sex was bad more often than good, he never would have met me because I wouldn't be doing this!!!
And if it is hurtful for a guy I have formed a true friendship with, I would rather not keep seeing him than continue to hurt him. Again ... this is supposed to be FUN!
So yes, let feelings develop. Makes for better sex and hot chemistry! But remember what we are all doing here. Sharing the best part of dating ... the fun, the sex, the making out like high school kids ... without the drama of who did or didn't call when they said they would, blah blah blah ...
xoxo - Hannah
PS. And if You read this, know I would never say your name or handle and love and value your friendship enough to stick to this decision. Starbucks and Sushi forever. -- Modified on 10/3/2013 2:28:30 PM
Where it has got tricky for me in the past is when I needed to make a moral decision over a selfish decision and end the sexual portion of the friendship when I felt I was no longer enriching his life and in fact doing quite the opposite. When he began booking frequent over-nights I was thrilled and flattered. Some of the best dates in my life were with this guy. But when he asked me to set up a paypal account so he could start seeing me on credit, it was time to draw the line. He felt like if he could hang in there a little longer, that magic moment would click for me and I would want to start dating him for real, off the clock. I had to be honest and tell him I did not feel that way for him and while I still meet him for dinner as friends sometimes, I will not book him anymore.
At the end of the day, this is supposed to be fun. I am not looking to ruin anyone's home life, marriage, or wipe out their bank account and leave them out in the cold once I have sucked them dry.
Bad situation #2 happens far more ... a great client becomes a jealous client. Asks you about your weekend and then pouts because you were screwing your brains out and the sex was good! HELLO! That is what we do! And if the sex was bad more often than good, he never would have met me because I wouldn't be doing this!!!
And if it is hurtful for a guy I have formed a true friendship with, I would rather not keep seeing him than continue to hurt him. Again ... this is supposed to be FUN!
So yes, let feelings develop. Makes for better sex and hot chemistry! But remember what we are all doing here. Sharing the best part of dating ... the fun, the sex, the making out like high school kids ... without the drama of who did or didn't call when they said they would, blah blah blah ...
xoxo - Hannah
PS. And if You read this, know I would never say your name or handle and love and value your friendship enough to stick to this decision. Starbucks and Sushi forever.
-- Modified on 10/3/2013 2:28:30 PM