You should only do what you are comfortable doing!  There are plenty of people in the community and each one has their particular likes, dislikes and ways of doing things.  I entered this hobby in big cities, like New York and Los Angeles and did extensive research before doing so.  The reality is when a girl invites you into her private space, she is risking a continuum of things....her personal safety (murderers, rapists, violent people), her privacy (her home address or a place that she can be found regularly), her trust (being robbed of her possessions or ripped off of her donation), her health (disease)....and her future (being arrested, outed to her possible coworkers at her regular job).

I take my personal safety and future very seriously and I learned from the top girls in this hobby that screening fully is the only way to minimize these risks.  I also realized that I was never cut out to be a high volume girl and that passing up people who do not want to be screened was fine with me.  Needless to say, I have never had one unpleasant experience and the type of men I meet are complete gentlemen.  If I am trusting someone with my life..my wellbeing...then they have to trust me with their personal information.

There have been countless debates on screening on all boards...ultimately, you have to do what you are comfortable with

Happy hunting!

Thank you for your perspective - some of those aspects of the payoff make perfect sense and didn't occur to me at all

In terms of references, I avoided them initially not because of competition in the pure business sense - this hobby is not like straight buisness, you can be SURE no matter how much a guy likes a provider...he WILL see other girls and be continually interested in the new one on the block  Where there is brand loyalty in business (for instance I will never choose diet pepsi over diet coke)..it doesn't really exist in the hobby.

I always thought references would be bad in terms of inciting those jealous/crazy providers that i would read about on the boards and watch the cat fights that ensued....but in screening sometimes you are on the fence or have a bad feeling, by having a reference from a reputable girl, it allows you to meet someone new with a MUCH decreased level of stress (at least in my experience).  I still get girls emailing me pretending to be a client (I know from the cell phone registered in a girls name, lol!)  - to see where I am or what my phone number is to threaten me or simply to be able to write a fake review and show backup for it -- so there are drawbacks but overall the good far outweighs the bad.

I also thinks it keeps in real in terms of keeping it in perspective each time you get someone requesting a reference that men move around as much as girls see different people in this hobby)

Not all men look at hobbying as sport. Therefore, they aren't looking for a different girl, so the lastest and greastest all the time
(married or not)
Many really do enter the hobby for companionship as a whole, or something special they need.
If in the course of finding an ATF they have made some sort of arrangement, then seeing another girl may make them feel awkward or like they are cheating. He may have gotten jealous over reviews or wants to try something new.
Who really knows when thinking with the little head.
But either way, he can't or doesn't want the ATF to know. She may be perfectly fine with him exercising on the playground.
It could just be a boy thing to avoid any conflict , or not lose a security blanket...

One side....


PS. As a side note. For some of you, it may help to know that although the screening info is requested. You can request to not have your job called. Most girls will work with you on the screeing and understand discretion.

-- Modified on 8/20/2007 2:30:30 PM

lol - i guess the payoff for the guy would be he likes having his junk in a jar)  i have heard about this for several years so i know there are many men who do agree to be faithful to one provider (i've read a lot about it here and on other boards).  i could only come up with a few reasons in my mind why a guy would do this..so it stumped me.

i hope we all stay safe, sane and have FUN!

Good point..but as the saying goes, "Different strokes for different folks".

Some men like to have an exclusive arrangement with a woman that does not involve normal "civie" relationship issues like jealousy, long-term commitment, marriage, children, expectations, nagging, insecurity, calling you constantly, needing to see you constantly, whining, etc.

Some men have "exclusive arrangements" with a few women at a time..which I guess makes them non-exclusive, eh? Point is..some men prefer these relationships over girlfriends because there is less stress, anxiety, and/or annoyances that may accompany a "civie" girlfriend. Or perhaps they are married or have an SO, so this arrangement is most convenient.

In the end, you are still paying for the ladies time; and as such, are also paying her to come and go as fits into your lifestyle (and hers).

On the other hand, many men enjoy the variety of hobbying with several different ladies at any given time. That is also a person's prerogative. They do say "Variety is the spice of life".

The point is, there is no "right" or "wrong" way of playing in this sport. What works for 1 may not work for another; Overall, do what makes you happy.

Tyler

-- Modified on 8/22/2007 4:59:28 PM