There are several types of guys from Hope's perspective.

* guys who wanted to see her but she wasn't interested in seeing.  She didn't see them.

* guys who she saw once, but she didn't like.  She never saw them again.

* guys she met with and liked.  They became regular clients.

* a few clients she liked enough to become personal friends with.  They stopped being clients and became friends.

* a handful of friends that she was close enough to to keep in touch with now that she's retired.

* the one man that she'll marry.

Your placement on this list is completely up to her.  Your desire to move closer to the bottom of the list is irrelevant.  Read the list, make an appraisal of your where you fit in and deal with it.  I'm not saying this to be mean, I'm just telling you the truth.