I have this question and I am trying not to be rude, A gentleman has been emailing me for several months wishing to book. Each time when its close to a booking something happens and he has to postpone, this have been going on for over 32 emails . He always tries to book at last minute,

TO be quite honest I am sick of it, its just silly and I am trying to avoid even bothering . I now have asked for a desposit for any future meeting, Also he has references but god knows how he got them, it must have taken a year.

Am I being unfair

Tara
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eom

Tara, I would like to think my response is correct, however all I am sure of is that it is honest.
You are are stunning looking provider with great reviews. On the other end of the equation iat the moment he is contacting you is a very horny guy, that's why he is trying to book at the last minute. At the same time he is looking at your face, he is looking at your fee. Your fee is consistent with what you provide, and to a guy that is that horny at the moment, he is willing to pay anything. Then he relieves himself of his issue, and his big head starts to take over the thinking of his little head. He comes to realize (pardon the pun) that he can't afford you on his allowance, and then he is stuck with the fact that for him you are a fantasy, one he will never be able to afford, therefore he cancels. The only other explanation is that many guys are intimidated by great looking women and he has a self worth issue. Either way Tara, this guy isn't going to change.

Yes I think your correct, I like to be polite, but really , 31 emails, give it up, move on, I mean I feel like buying a subscription to a porn website, I am not going to BLACK him as others may put up with it, but he is pushing my buttons.

Tara

He will always be a waste of your time. Simply move on

I have 1 TER guy whom I have seen before only once attempt to book with my twin & a provider friend of mine several times, but always last minute & then cancels on them.  I am taking back a whitelist I submited because I can no longer vouch for this guy since he has proven to waste their valuable time.  I think it is very rude to book last minute & cancel.  We as providers clean our homes, arrange child care, get our hair, nails done, and all to get canceled on with no fee.  Dr's will bill you even if your a no show.  I feel as a reputable, top rated provider deposits are needed to book.

Great ? sorry I am not a gentlemen, but this is why I do require a 50% deposit to book.

Hi Tara:
No you are not being rude.  You are spot on.  32 e-mails is amazing...drop the guy!

Oh, My Dear, I have had the same thing happen....

Some men just want a pen pal, not a real session with an amazing girl....

I can empathize and no, Its not rude at all to just mark that email as junk lol.....

If I understand your time line, I think you were being exceedingly patient and accommodating.  I have had to cancel a couple of sessions over the years for reasons completely out of my control so things can come up.  That said, those same things should not be coming up repeatedly.

This, as you might imagine, works two ways and my approach is contained in the subject line: I'll cut anyone a break one time, a second time, maybe and third time's a charm, you're off my "to-do" list!  Of course, you can go there immediately if you do like one girl did: tell me she had to cancel because of her period just starting and then posted as available in a different city the next day!  Must have been a light month!  I hate liars.

Tara - I think Jezebel hit it close to correctly, however let me say this.  If the guy actually made multiple appointments with you and cancels at the last minute, this is unacceptable.  IF HOWEVER, the guy has asked you about your availability BUT NEVER made an appointment this is different in my mind.  I am speaking from my own personal experience and will be honest from a hoobyist POV.  Many times I will ask more than one provider for her availability later on in the day.  By NO MEANS do I ever imply that we have an appointment.  I check a few premium providers and whichever one is available I will make an appointment with.  The bottom line as Ava pointed out is mark the email as junk and move on.

Jezebel, Ms P and other providers - am I right that there is a BIG difference in checking someones schedule VS actually booking and cancelling?

joe

My dear,

32 times?  Only two reasons for this;
- you enjoyed it or
- you needed the buisness
I doubt either, so the old adage should apply...

    "first time, shame on you, second time, shame on me."  

I think that you should just tell him that he needs to find another provider.  He has "Blown his chance" to see you.  You girls should not have to put up with that.  I can understand once or twice, but 32 emails is rediculous.