Thank you, incallman. It seems like OP might be presumptuous...

We have a whole life we are living filled with family members and other kinds of obligations that don't have anything to do with seeing clients.

The only time you should be concerned about is the time that you spend with her.
What she does with the rest of her time though is really none of anybody's business. If she is or isn't seeing more clients, it shouldnt matter.  

I agree that if she can't see you you should find somebody to see as a back up. There are plenty of awesome ladies to see in San Diego.  And if you are no longer satisfied with the time you're spending with her, maybe take a little break and go back and see her in a few months or find somebody new altogether.  Sometimes a break is helpful

Good point.  I will try to book early in the day (I can do that, luckily).  Based on the feedback, I will say something.  I just didn't want to sound like I was complaining.

He should not be wasting your time with trivial conversations.  Either schedule an appointment or stop talking.  You are absolutely in the right to feel the way you did.  He should know his place.  By the way, I love your attitude...just move on.  

Posted By: ariel.IV

dealt with the exact question from someone I've seen before. I've only seen him once, almost 2 years ago. He occasionally will contact me to get together, in his emails he always requests a half hour appointment incall (I have an hour minimum for incall) I have let him know this. His emails get longer and more rambling as our conversation continues. After I stop the convo because I see it's not leading anywhere- he hits me with 'Have you gotten less nice since you've become more successful? Can we book a half hour appointment, I really liked when we met." WHAT?!  
   
 TBH it kind of irked me. I am not obligated to carry on a long ass conversation about how nice our half hour appointment was 2 years ago AND how your last 3 relationships haven't worked out! I'm a really understanding person and can put up with a lot of shenanigans. But at some point you need to know your boundaries.  
   
 OK RANT OVER SORRY  
   
 Maybe something happened and she no longer wants to see you, its OK!  Ladies fall out of 'like' with a client all the time. These relationships aren't meant to last forever! lol You will find a new ATF I promise  
   
 I NEVER put my opinion on here about these issues but this just happened to me and I felt like I needed to say something!!

turn more "favorite" customers into former favorite customers that just about anything else.  

Timewasters are the scourge of indie providers.  Agency bookers don't tolerate any of that stuff.  If you waste their time, they will quit responding.  Then the offenders do a post here wondering why they don't get a response.  When they say what they did, its pretty obvious why they're not hearing back.  

Its human nature to want to make your time investment in cultivating a customer pay off, but if you can't close the deal quickly, the law of diminishing return sets in and you need to cut your losses and stop communicating with a timewaster.  Just my opinion from a business standpoint.

Ariel, please take this seriously .... The guy that wants to see you for a half hour - Do NOT see him again. Ever. Too many red flags. Keep his number but flag it so you know to never reply. If you have a smart phone, be sure to set your text and email settings so that someone that sends you mail/texts does not get an auto reply or any sign you received the message. Ignore this guy. As I said, too many red flags. Potentially more dangerous than most.

Be safe, girl.

...I'm wondering the same thing!  

xo, Mia

no credibility when you post a negative comment with an alias.  It is cowardly to hide behind the wall and pitch stones at the neighbor's house.  Why not man up?  If you're afraid to say it to someone's face because you're afraid to take the blowback, then its better to remain silent.  I have an alias, but never use it.  I will take any heat for what I say.  That's what men do.  (I give a pass to Captain Renault, because I know his situation, but you don't usually see him throwing the slings and arrows.)