For many of the hobbyists reviews are a rite of passage. An accension to a higher level. A proof of conquest. But for some of us, who choose not to post reviews some explanation may be in order.
Over the past few months I've seen a few providers who have point blank asked, told, begged, requested that I not review them. Not because they don't want the publicity. Heck, these ladies all can always use a little more business. But to a fault each one said they just prefer being off the radar and want to keep their business quiet. They like the customers they have and they don't need any trouble. Some even go as far as saying the guys who post are the ones who would bring them, not cause them trouble.
Yet at the same time these women have much lower screening proceedures and are much easier to book a session with than the ones who seem to relish the reviews, participate on the boards, seem to be bashed now and then by my fellow hobbyists for not returning calls or just downright being flakey.
My point is that the ladies without reviews, at their request, are often as much fun as those with them. But the best part is that it is easier to get a hold of them than those who want to bask in the sunlight.
Anyone got an opinion ?
MG
Can't say I feel like I'm ascending to a higher level or putting another notch on my gun (proof of conquest). I certainly don't feel authoring reviews are a path to any sigificantly uplifted status and, I'm not quite sure I understand the logic behind one's thinking others consider reviews as a rite of passage (do you mean like our first adolesant piece of ass which made us men rite of passage-maybe?) So, I'm not with you on your opener. I doubt this goes all that intense anyway. If one does not wish to do reviews, that's fine. For those that do reviews, I say thank you for your assistance with providing information.
I agree with you, in part. I would not want to place a person I like in a bad position as a result of my review. If it was a good thing and (after discussing) she does not want to be reviewed. No review. But, If it was not a good thing and she does not want a review, I don't care, she gets a review.
Fact is we live in an imperfect world. There are ripoffs and substandard providers out there and having reviews available helps assure a lot of us that at least we'll get something in return for a substantial amount of our hard earned $$.
If a lady doen't want reviews, all she needs to do is contact TER and tell them so. Then no reviews will be posted no matter how many are submitted. Hope that helps with your first point.
As a matter of courtesy I always ask permission, and tell the lady how to remove her reviews if she wants to.
On the other hand, you are certainly correct that there really good providers out there who are not reviewed, for whatever reason. Those "hobbyists" [God I hate that term] willing to take a little extra risk will sometimes get burned but will sometimes find "buried treasure". Sometimes some of them will share their knowledge on these boards. But there's a catch. Many, including myself, will only trust someone with an established record of posting reviews. I hope you don't need to ask why.
So, in this as in most of life, it's always a compromise.
First off, do you actually ask the provider is she wants to be reviewed? I prefer not to open myself up by letting a provider know that I may or may not post a review of her. I like to be as anonymous as possible. There have been many a heated arguments as to why some people don't post reviews. If a girl is new, a review is in order. That is, unless, a hobbyist wants to keep her to himself. It happens. Personally, I am disgusted by those who take the time to read a review so they can have a better experience, but who won't write a review for whatever reason. Just my .02 cents.
Around or about the conclusion of our time together, I prefer to bring the subject of review up. I, like you, believe the review to be invaluable and required. If she is as advertised (I prefer to stick with those with prior good reviews or vouched for by another respected lady) and indicates a review is okay, then I will do so. If she says no, I will accept that, for whatever reasons, and not submit a review (in my mind, since she has been well reviewed in the past, she enjoys that perrogative). Because I pay close attention to the reviews, I have yet to have an unfortunate experience or meet with a person that did not deserve the good reviews they've received and have not found the need to do an uncomplimentary review. If something went wrong with this well reviewed lady that could not be rectified, I've got to wonder, would I be reviewing myself.
So, thanks to those reviews it has all been great! As to remaining anonymous that is a personal choice that must be respected. In my case, I am not concerned about the lady knowing who I am, good bad or indifferent. But then, I am single with nothing I can't walk away from in thirty-seconds or just really don't care. However, these days I'm thinking of remaining with those that I know, instead of scouting out again. I guess I'm starting to get comfortable. Oh well, Just another point of view.
I don't ask directly. I bring up the idea of the Internet, gain a feeling of whether they know about the sites that offer reviews. Mention I didn't see them on it and the rest comes out rather naturally...
First off, I have posted a few reviews in the past. However, I have always felt alittle hesitent when doing so. I see the need to enlighten fellow gentlemen as to who provides what they advertise they do and who is a rip-off. I don't feel that we need to be as detailed as we sometimes get. But, I've also had 3-4 reviews turned down due to lack of details. So the fight continues, do we review with enough details to be accepted by TER and open the provider up to the probing eyes of Big Brother or do we just not review at all. I have started only reviewing girls who ask me to review them with them being aware of the details that need to be givin to get it accepted by TER.
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