I've never seen Bexy, but Amber is far and away my favorite. She could teach them young'n's a thing or two about sex.
Assuming you are a normal man of 50 or so, who is average, healthy and of sound mental capacity, it would be a loosing battle to wish to acquire a lover who is in their 20s. That is unless, of course, you are looking for a trophy chick or want constant battle, frustration and ultimate failure.
See the youth hasn’t reached the ripeness, wisdom and experience, that 50 plus should have supposedly acquired. There is going to be a generation gap, which may be unbridgeable. Older men are attracted to their youth, the vitality, and the suppleness of body and mind that the young possess. But the young lack the maturity and state of mind that is so crucial for chemistry and compatibility with the old. Youth offers tremendous values to the old but not visa versa. What old has i.e. wisdom, knowledge, or experience or even money, young ones do not value or admire as much yet. In turn, after the sex and infatuation gets old, mature people rely on communication and commonality. The young have completely different interests and priorities than the old. While the youth may be focussed on matters of life building and savoring the youth, the old are more focussed on money, family and other worldly matters, alien or unattractive to the young, with exceptions, of course!
There is something just not right for an older man wanting a young woman in her 20s romantically. It’s a misguided desire at best and a perverted at worst. It is obvious that he is ignoring all the principles and premises of life, which point towards incompatibility due to age differences. He is most probably attracted to her for the wrong things.
Similarly the young girl who wants a man twice her age is also not thinking right. She too is attracted to him for the wrong reasons. Any superficial scrutiny of such mismatched people would reveal their true intent and thus expose the superficiality of such a union.
u dog u !
You know When I was 21 I had sex with a 15 year old that was great That P#@$% was so tight ....now Im 38 and I saw this provider who was 20....I felt too old for her.....
I agree that there is a mismatch if you consider a long term relationship or commitment. Quite the opposite for what we do in our hobby. A large percentage of the providers I have been with prefer a man over 40, due primarily how well older clients treat them. I also think that the communication you mention plays a part as well, since, speaking for myself here, I like to get to know the provider and most like to talk. Seems a good match to me.
Being a very fit and good looking guy in my mid-30's I wouldn't even attempt to have any type of relationship with someone in their early 20's. Why would you want to be romantic with someone that is old enough to be your daughter? There is nothing wrong with someone that is 10 years younger, but why on Earth would you want to have a romantic relationship with someone that is 30 years younger? (50 vs. 20) How would you feel if your little girl was dating an old pervert? (I don't have any kids and the thought makes me angery) Sorry to be so harsh, but that is just another guys opinion. There are plenty of sexy ladies out there that can rock your world and know a little bit about the world as well!!!!
(Bexy and Amber can rock your world!!!!!!!!)
I've never seen Bexy, but Amber is far and away my favorite. She could teach them young'n's a thing or two about sex.
the way you worded this
....."How would you feel if your little girl was dating an old pervert?" ...........
makes it sound as though everyone that desires the company of an escort is a pervert. or are you saying that you are the pervert? but to answer the question i don't think anyone in the right mind would want any perverts dating anyone.
Geeez, I was refering to the point that if you had a daughter that was dating a guy that was 30 years older than she was you would think the old guy was a perv...that's all. I'm no pervert, but I do enjoy the company of someone that is within the same generation or two.
Recently had confirmed appointments (email confirmation after much correspondence) with two different 23 year olds (one highly rated and one newbie). In both cases they were no shows, apologized profusely, rescheduled and you guessed it.
As contrasted to a highly rated lady in her 30's who when she didn't show for an appointment made up for it gratis.
Time is money!
It is not unusual for an older man to to marry a younger female simply because he does not want to outlive her. This scenario usually takes place with men who have lost a spouse. Just some input.
I've been romantically involved with a few very nice young ladies 15-25 years younger than me. In only one of the cases did we contemplate marriage but in all cases, we had a great time for one to three years. Though the relationships were deemed "unusual" or "perverse" by some people, we didn't care. Yes, marrying a woman 20-30 years younger can be problematic, but what relationship does not have its problems? In the end, I say "to each his own". If the two people are of sound mind and want to get married, go for it. Who cares?
When I was 21, I dated a 40 year old for awhile, mainly because he was very wealthy and that was a relief compared to my impoverished college boyfriends.
I also admired his success, life experience and wisdom. It was fun for the first month.
But after a short while, the "generation gap" did become obvious. We had widely different interests and opinions in everything from movies to music to politics. He was interested in retirement and pension plans, all of which was boring to me.
Eventually, I got tired of his somewhat condescending attitude (i.e, he "knew it all" because he had been there and done that, which is true, but still, a patronizing attitude). I felt like I was there only as a trophy--a young, cute college girl whom other guys wanted, not because I was his true equal in intelligence and achievement.
After we broke up, I stuck to guys my own age and it was so much better (although I did miss those 5 star restaurants, LOL).
OH UDOGU,
Are you one of those people that find it easier to just tack a label on people based on their age or for that matter sex or race or religion?
My nearly 40 years of wisdom has shown me that all people are different. Should we engage in the practice of putting people in tidy little categories?
If I were to find a girl in her early twenties that shared some of the same interests as I should I abstain? F$%^ no, life's too short.
I don't know about the rest of you old farts but if I meet such a girl, I'm going for it.
Thanks,
Tired of Prehistoric Paradigms
Tidy little box? A 40 year old dating a 20 year old is hardly putting you into a box. Maybe more like putting you into the craddle!! You robber!
Please excuse me, SurfNaked. At first I thought you said "tiny little box." You sure caught my attention with it!!
Well put, TIREDOFBS. I am surprised men participating in this hobby would be prejudicial about anything, especially on this issue since I presume most of us who are over 40 are having sex with women half our age.
Having "been there, done that" I agree that it is a rare case when the May-December relationship will work in the long term... but these days, ANY relationship that lasts is rare. If two people can be honest with one another, enrich each other's life, I for one would not let age be a deal breaker.
Well, I am in my 60's and used to be fairly active in the hobby until I met and fell hard for a non-provider in her mid 20's. We have been going strong for nearly 3 years now and the only complaint either of us seems to have is not enough time together. We are different generation, different culture and yet share many of the same interests, likes, dislikes, etc. It is working extremely well for us. Will it last? Maybe, maybe not. But we do give each other experiences and pleasures that we'll never forget and we're having too wonderful a time to not have tried. We've always have a great time together, no matter if it's just a dinner/movie "date" for a few hours or a wild week out of town. It works for us because of the intensity of feelings we have for each other. There is genuine caring, concern and respect.
I know several of you will blast me for this. Go right ahead. It is, after all, your right to do so, just as much as it is our right to be together if that is what we choose. And, so far, it IS what we both choose.
Having spent several on again off again years with someone quite a number of years younger I can tell you that I had some of the best times of my life and would not have traded those experiences for anything.
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