It is especially upsetting when one makes an appointment/ confirms and appointment and the other person pulls a No Show!  How does one deal with such  a thing?  Is blacklisting too harsh?  Shouldn't one be held accountable? Feedback appreciated.

Great insight, Jai. I try to be considerate if I can't make an appointment. I always call far in advance. I usually like to pre-book the day before, giving plenty of time for the lady's scheduling. I like the early AM daytime hours and many times I have not been given the room #, and the lady has overslept or changed hotels or whatever and has her phone turned off. I can list a half dozen times this has happened over the last 12 months.

Bottom line: not good behavior for providers or players.

of the doubt. Because I know how the net has caused a microscope effect. Where you're private life may not be so private. However, it is a bummer when someone cancels an evening together a few hours or less before you are supposed to meet. I think it goes both ways. It sucks, but happens. So, I don't rant or blacklist them. Since I'm not a mind reader and I can only go by what they tell me. Now if they completely blow you off with no reply. Thats a different matter. Just my 2 cents..
OOXOXO,
Jai'

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i'm not sure that you can really count on anyone being on time the first time two people meet.  I once had a very nice time with a San Diego lady and she shared with me that the first time she see's someone she is purposely late because of LE fears.  Once she knows the person she is on time.  Additionally, sometimes a person has a significant other that than change plans or create complications.

I guess I would really consider two things, have I seen the person before, does the person communicate later and try and make up for it.

I think that providers are in a position to do much more damage to a hobbyist than they understand. Hobbyists are required to give enough information to verify their identity... This information can include REAL name, address, job information including address and phone number, residential telepone numbers, etc.
Hobbyists almost NEVER get this information about the provider. In fact rarely do we even know their real name.
To blacklist a hobbyist puts their personal information in a venue (the internet) where it can be used for VERY BAD things.
Its also quite possible that a hobbyist that no-shows had a good excuse. Im also pretty convinced by my personal experiences that providers are more often no-shows or very late cancels than we ever have een.

personal information going out. As far as, possible damage goes and giving that info. to a provider. The other side has to look at a potential night with LE and more. If you want to talk serious damage see both sides.
Not to mention, when a client flakes there is more lost then just a stiffy as well. Less often no-shows, but they often post-pone for business first.
I think in the long haul things somewhat even out. Because the girls buisness is so out there. I don't and haven't seen anyone giving out perosnal info. publically. She would look bad as well by breaking an old unwritten rule.
It truly does come down to a mutual trust issue. That you often just have to roll the dice.
Thats why I feel all you can do is give them the benefit.

'comes down to respect, doesn't it? Maybe they're first timers, nervous, broke, whatever. A phone call would be the minimum courtesy.
 Knowing how you prepare... gawd, what a waste!

In some cases when a provider flakes a client may lose more than just a stiffy.  Realistically guys working for minimum wage can’t afford your services.  The gentlemen that book time with you ladies are in many cases professionals such as attorneys, doctors, etc with their own fairly hefty billing rates.  Depending upon when the appointment is scheduled for these clients may have foregone income that can’t be recovered in addition to being prepared to come up with your donation.  When a late cancellation or no show occurs that lost income is probably still lost.  

Flaking and late cancellations are bad for both clients and providers.