Hey everyone, so this is my third time trying to post this thread, but TER keeps telling me I'm not allowed to. Here's the basic situation: I am traveling to San Diego in March and have been communicating with a provider, but there are some red flags / gut feelings that make me wonder if she's legit. She has no reviews on TER, and is apparently a delisted/banned provider, but I don't know for sure -- she could also be new to the scene.

Hence, I thought I'd post here, but my previous two posts on this question got taken down. I'm trying this time to carefully avoid mentioning anything about the provider, in the spirit of just a long-time TER community member (and occasional reviewer) seeking the advice of the community (both providers and clients) in trying to suss out a potential unsafe situation.

Here's the basic info so far:

- I am about to travel to San Diego in March, and was looking for someone to meet while I'm there. I saw an appealing profile on P411, and the person listed a TER review but the review had been taken down and I got a page that said basically the provider herself was no longer listed on TER.

- No big deal, I thought, provider could have changed names and profiles for understandable reasons, I'd take one for the team, maybe try meeting her under her new alias.

- However, I couldn't find anything about her anywhere else, not on any other board, not on TER, nowhere.

- She has a very nice looking website, but strangely the website doesn't mention anything about outcalls/incalls, etc.

- So I called the number she has on her site, and actually ended up talking with her. She seems really nice, we agreed to talk again over video chat in a week or so, and that way I'd get to see what she really looks like.

- But my nagging worry is whether I'll end up being taken for a ride anyway, if she's not legit or a ripoff in other ways.

- So I tried posting here to ask if anyone knew her. My first post was flagged as an ad, because I linked to her P411 profile. My second post was flagged as referring to someone who was "delisted/banned from TER".

So... I have no idea if *this* post will go through. I guess my question is basically asking if someone would reach out to me offline to give me some local knowledge about this person. I want to respect TER's policies and the safety/discretion of all involved, but I also feel like as a long-time TER member myself this is one of those valuable aspects of this community: how we can all help each other, both providers and clients, avoid getting into unsafe situations.

So, if you're a TER admin reading this and you decide to disallow this post, could you please reach out to me separately and give me some advice on how to proceed?

At this point there are enough red flags and gut feelings that make me want to avoid this provider anyway, so if this post gets flagged I might just decide that's enough of a sign from the universe to find someone else Thanks!

I suggest that you post an ISO that describes the attributes this mystery provider has that are making you bend over backward for. Maybe you'll get lucky and a more established lady will respond.

With all the great REVIEWED providers in San Diego, quit wasting your time on this delisted provider.

If it doesn't feel right I wouldn't waste time or energy stressing over the situation.

xoxo, JJ

That's a great idea, thanks! I hadn't thought of asking for particular attributes, but worth a try!

A lot of provider profiles have been removed from TER in the last few months.  No idea why, but many of the ladies I had in my favorites have had their profiles deleted.  

Send PMs to a few of the more active hobbyists.  If she has been in San Diego a while they will know about her.  Send one to me, I am curious who it is, and will let you know if she is legit if I have seen her

However, there are so many reputable, reviewed ladies here
in San Diego, with transparency on many boards.    

Why would you so diligently pursue someone whom should
just be named "Miss Red Flag" ?

I agree you should go with your got feeling. If you have these kinda reservations they could carry into your time together and cause the encounter to go south. Always do what feel right  

As far as fake profile on P411 at some point she had to be legit. P411 requires us to summit ID, face pic & ID, full body pic, at least 2 reviews and a list of ads we use

Hope you find the perfect companion

well said !

Thank you! I do indeed like meeting companions who are new to the scene, and have enjoyed being among some folks' first "reviews" This particular person did give me pause, though, and I'm glad I posted, got some info from others offline that confirmed some of my gut instincts. It also helped me decide to post a new thread asking for known companions here who might be interested in the specific aspects that attracted me to her in the first place, at least for this trip Good luck with your own debut to the scene, I will look you up next time I'm in town!

Haha! You are right, Miss Red Flag is out of my mind now I guess I was interested in particular aspects that she had to offer (or at least seemed like she did). But, yes, there are many other well-known companions here who might be interested in the same aspects, so I posted separately and let's see what happens!

Thanks so much! Will PM you shortly...

From all we know your no who you say you are....I didn't read your dribble,  more than 2 sentances bore me....it isnt your job to analyze,  just do your do diligence and enjoy....see, 1 sentance....peace, love, and whatever