About 4-5 weeks ago I had a fling w/a gal(total stranger and unprotected. Though I felt something different w/urinating..I thought I was good to go since I did not have any discharge...
Exactly 1 week ago I had sex w/my wife (who believe me guys,she is like a nun).  
Well,you guessed it,this morning a full blown case of discharge,etc..my doctor said it's chlamedyia, and my wife  likely has it..
What do I tell her...the reason for seeing a doctor????
I'm dead.

Unprotected sex with a total stranger...you're lucky all you got was 'chlamedyia'.  What were you thinking?

Two questions-

Where does one go to find a totally strange woman to have unprotected sex with?

How drunk or high were you?

Bottom line here is you may have contracted things far worse and given them to your wife. The odds of HIV infection are low on one unprotected encounter but the risk is there. You will have to wait 6 months before you know for sure. But you need to get tested for everything.

Actually, you came to the wrong board for help. I'd say 98% of the hobbyists (sp?) and providers engage in Safe sex. Of course I have no idea what people have caught from BBBJ and DATY!

Im sorry for your situiation. If you gave her an STD, you have to come clean with her. Tell her you were drunk or tell her the truth. Hey! At least you didn't pay for it! Or did you?

well I know some people this has happened to and there were various outcomes...one acted like he didn't know why he had it and his girlfriend freaked and confessed she was sleeping with her ex...the guy that told his wife so she could get treated ended up divorced and one friend of mine slipped the meds into her coffee everymorning and got away with it...the trick is no drinking allowed or the meds don't work...

I can guarantee you that 49 out of 50 people on this board are turning down BBBJs or DATY.  49 out of 50 might turn down bareback intercourse, but throwing around those numbers can be misleading.  As I reported on this board a little over a year ago, I contracted a non-specific UTI (though the nice folks at the County Health STD clinic though it might gonnorhea which tested negative because I did a standard Chlamydia treatment first, and that could mask it).  The symptoms weren't too bad -- lots of dripping but little discomfort -- but it was hard to shake.

I had definitely contracted this from a BBBJ.  I was probably lucky I didn't get something in my throat, because I also did DATY on this provider.  The bottom line -- know the risks you are taking, because these things can happen.

As far as this character goes, this "with a total stranger" line is an excuse often used by remorseful hobbyists who have crossed that bareback intercourse line with a provider in a moment of passion.

If you are in a relationship and choose to engage in the hobby, you really, really need to be extra careful, because the consequences of catching something (even as benign as chlamydia) are much greater.  You blew it; time to fold.  You have no choice at this point but to come clean with your S.O., and face the music.

thanks for pointing out that chlamydia can be spread through unprotected oral sex (as can most other STD's)....this is what I harp about all the time...think about it ladies do you kiss your children with that mouth?....

It was speaking of the stats for SD county and STD's. It also said that if you go to the Dr with some reportable disease the( Public health workers) are NOT ALLOWED to give out your name as the one that spread it.

It will allow all those you had contact with get treated yet doesn't point the finger at you.


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You have bad trouble.  And your wife could end up being barren if she gets it.

http://my.webmd.com/content/article/1680.50903

I was just trying to say unprotected sex with a provider seems rare to me. I was also letting him know indirectly that BBBJ and DATY carry their own set of risks.