First of all, I want to say that I am not interested in getting our local Vice really pissed off at me. I don't care what the charge is, if someone gets in trouble, the need for a good attorney is paramount. Regardless of the situation or charge.
I am not a Law Enforcement hater. Quite the contrary. I respect those who daily have to scrap with assholes who would do people harm. I do not envy their position at all. I know there are many who put themselves in harm's way to protect the masses. It would be a pretty sorry place without those guys if they weren't here doing that for us. If someone tries to hurt me, or anyone else around me, they will be the first I call. That being said, I do think it is wrong to humiliate a hard working person who pays big on their taxes and contributes to our society because they want and NEED some sexual comfort, release and yes, FREEDOM.
It is very sad to know that a young man more than halfway through his twenties, who has never been kissed, and has been rejected over and over by his female peers because he does not possess the physical attributes that Hollywood has defined, can be set up and humiliated publicly. He can also loose his career for which he has worked very hard. More young men have found their confidence over hundreds of years through a professional, than most would ever imagine or the masses would admit. Or the man who has been disabled and needs the comfort and vision of a naked woman. Or the guy who is healthy, single, hard working and prefers not to seduce a lady he can pick up only to reject her the next day, so he goes to a professional because he has not found his true mate. Isn't this more honest and compassionate? There is also, the more mature accomplished guy who again doesn't fit the Hollywood mold, but is smart, sexy, well versed, but still does not have the gift of gab for the damn stereotypical women who shun the spectacle wearing hot guys. These are only a few of the scenarios that go on. As for the married gents who for what ever reason seek the company of someone they do not have to be responsible for. The only conflict I hold there are for the ones who are so irresponsible, they may be depleting the college funding of their children, or leaning on the security of their SO. I know this happens, but I cannot help it. And you can pretty much bet, that the typical hobbyist would BALK at his wife's decision to get her satisfaction elsewhere if she were stressed and frustrated because he doesn't try to be creative with her anymore. At the same time, the gambler who depletes his family’s security , has a safe place to do that and it is his business if he does, so in a casino setting. It is so wrong to trash people and their families with public lynchings over this silly issue.
However, and I have said this before, people can speculate, complain, moan and groan all they want. This is a law the people have in place. Most of those who would complain in this forum, would never tell their friends what they did last night. Or that they love to see professional women. Until people quit being ashamed and tell the truth about this issue in a public way, this issue will remain. I don't lie about what I do because I am not ashamed. I tell people what I do when they ask. I have never been treated badly for it. On the contrary, I have been met with curiosity and opinions that would surprise most! The fear is in YOU, more than what LE can drum up here. Those guys probably laugh and get shits and giggles all day long off of this board. I know I do sometimes. It is just another community and lifestyle for some.
I have been to a few swinger parties, which I have found to be much more unsafe and lacking in regards to respecting the need for protection from STD's. I am sure when someone is having an affair it is rare, that they use protection, or get tested prior to going bare back with their lover in order to protect the SO. I believe even the streewalkers use more protection than the average affair or swingers who think they know each other. Many would argue that this is a public health issue. If so, why shouldn't affairs be held accountable in the same way? Or swinging? Doesn't matter really. If we were to change this scene, we would all have to be honest, just like the gays have done wouldn't we?
Parts of the third paragraph read me like a book. Thanks for understanding.
This is probably one of the most thoughtful posts I've ever read on this or any board. I agree, I'm in that third paragraph as well. Thanks for being so understanding, Jenni.
...but a girl with intelligence, street smarts, common sense and a compassionate heart. Jenni, that straight talking, no nonsense style of yours is just so you.
Virtually everything you presented here is so well said but I would like to excerpt 2 comments in particular from your post:
"Or the guy who is healthy, single, hard working and prefers not to seduce a lady he can pick up only to reject her the next day, so he goes to a professional because he has not found his true mate. Isn't this more honest and compassionate?"
and:
"There is also, the more mature accomplished guy who again doesn't fit the Hollywood mold, but is smart, well versed, but still does not have the gift of gab for the damn stereotypical women who shun the spectacle wearing hot guys.
I actually had to edit out sexy in the second. Perhaps smart is a bit of a stretch in my case also. I just find your intuitive sense of what should be a given, simply inspiring. If there were more women like you in this world it would be a much better place.
I liked your comments about law enforcement too because the vast majority of those guys who actually put their lives on the line to protect us are certainly to be respected and appreciated. I've had a rare occassion in my life when a police officer has been there to get me out of a jam. That is not forgotten by me.
Some of the vice nonsense is another matter.
Jenni, you may have already figured me out.
If not, try this: If I would just not talk so much I could get through a complete meal. lol. Perhaps then I wouldn't be so skinny. Actually I'm far more quiet and reserved than you might imagine. 
I could play the wallflower (well flower is not the best metaphor for a guy)in any social setting with uncanny skill as if it were my natural calling.
Thank you for your patience girl, and the times that you got tough.
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“However, and I have said this before, people can speculate, complain, moan and groan all they want. This is a law the people have in place.”
How do we go about changing this law? Has anyone attempted to change it before? Is there a petition we can sign to place an initiative on the ballot? Should we write to our councilman or congressman?
There is the possibility I can lose my job if I get too much media exposure in support of Providers. I’m sure there are others that share this concern. I suspect that there are a large number of supporters who must remain anonymous to preserve their marriages. Is there any way to effect change without revealing identities?
“Until people quit being ashamed and tell the truth about this issue in a public way, this issue will remain.”
Has anyone attempted to organize a parade or event in San Diego in support of our cause? Undoubtedly, the media presence would scare the majority of supporters away.
It is the nature of this community to operate in the shadows. Until we have organized public protest things won’t change. A brave leader must emerge from the shadows willing to devote time and energy to fight the establishment. I hope I am around to see that happen in San Diego.
I want things to change, but I feel powerless to make anything happen. Sorry Jenni.
Very VERY true. This "hobby" is, and will continue to be, an underground arena. The few folks who are willing to go public in their support of the biz come off as being from the radical fringe (anyone remember "Ragsdale" running for state office?).
