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Re:Age difference--provider vs client
Dionisios 22 Reviews 6295 reads
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We're the same generation, but I'm not sure how much help I can be.  Everyone, even people the same age, has a different set of values, emotional needs, etc.  But I'll try.

Certainly there's a comfort level with a contemporary.  But the best and brightest of the youngsters are interested in your experiences.  Especially our generation; they really want to know what it was like to be young in the 1960s.  Or that there are more Mexicans in Chicago than in San Diego (or anwhere but LA).

Personally, I have no problem with "robbing the cradle" in this context.  It's more of a problem with "traditional" dating.  Probably because I'm better at looking 20 years down the road than any 20 year old, and I envision a youthful 40 something woman stuck with a 70 something guy.  Not a problem when you're only going to be together for an hour or two.

Don't get me wrong.  Most of my best experiences have been with mature providers.  I think it's because they've had time to become comfortable with what they do and not confuse that with who they are.  Most (by no means all) of the young ones don't get it yet, so you'll find girls who'll happily do BBBJTC but won't kiss because that's "too intimate".  Huh???  But there it is.

"I know it is essentially about the money...".  Yeah, but the really good ones can make you forget about that while it lasts.

"Am I simply looking for more out of this experience than I should given the core activity is of a s*xual nature."
Nope.  Sometimes you'll find yourself remembering the smiles, or the conversation more than the sex.  No matter how good the sex was.

CatfromHue7218 reads

I have done a search on the topic of age difference between provider and client but it hasn't been very helpful in providing any relevant information.

I'm sure this topic has been discussed before but since I can't locate anything useful through a search I've decided to pose the question once more.


I am in my mid 50's and I have very little experience in the hobby, hence no reviews to date. I am considering writing one but I want to see the provider once more to be sure I can be fair and objective.

My question centers on age difference between provider and client and what impact it may have on the experience.
I am most interested in hearing from those in the hobby in the 50+ age range who have been with providers in their early twenties. Do you feel the age difference was a factor in the outcome and if so in what way(s) good or bad. I would also be interested in providers point of view on this and what the potential pitfalls might be from your perspective.

Admittedly I am a bit apprehensive about seeing such a young provider if for no other reason than we simply don't share some of the same life experiences. Then of course I flirt with the "robbing the cradle" syndrome and how that might affect the experience. I know it is essentially about the money but I would think to enhance the experience it would be helpful to have a bit in common in terms of growing up and experiencing life in roughly the same generation and being able to perhaps talk about issues outside the hobby that both parties have some familiarity with and some first hand experience.

Am I simply looking for more out of this experience than I should given the core activity is of a s*xual nature.

I have to say that I am still a bit tentative as a participant in the hobby but it has that "walk on the wild side" draw to it that I find intriguing.

So if anyone has some advice to pass along on the age difference question I would appreciate your response one and all.

If you are planning a multi-hour date for the first visit with a provider then age and the ability to communicate can make a difference.  However, on a one hour appointment you may not have any spare time for more than just casual conversation.

If I were in your shoes, I would get my feet wet by scheduling a few one hour appointments with ladies that attract you.  If you happen to click with a certain lady, schedule a longer appointment on the next date.  

Even after you become experienced at the "hobby", you may still get a minor case of the "butterflies" before meeting a lady for the first time.  I know that the excitement of meeting somebody new still gives me a minor case of "butterflies" and I've been doing this almost twenty years now.

Maybe you should consider changing your guise to something a bit more appropriate, like "dirtyoldman." :)

Pecker

We're the same generation, but I'm not sure how much help I can be.  Everyone, even people the same age, has a different set of values, emotional needs, etc.  But I'll try.

Certainly there's a comfort level with a contemporary.  But the best and brightest of the youngsters are interested in your experiences.  Especially our generation; they really want to know what it was like to be young in the 1960s.  Or that there are more Mexicans in Chicago than in San Diego (or anwhere but LA).

Personally, I have no problem with "robbing the cradle" in this context.  It's more of a problem with "traditional" dating.  Probably because I'm better at looking 20 years down the road than any 20 year old, and I envision a youthful 40 something woman stuck with a 70 something guy.  Not a problem when you're only going to be together for an hour or two.

Don't get me wrong.  Most of my best experiences have been with mature providers.  I think it's because they've had time to become comfortable with what they do and not confuse that with who they are.  Most (by no means all) of the young ones don't get it yet, so you'll find girls who'll happily do BBBJTC but won't kiss because that's "too intimate".  Huh???  But there it is.

"I know it is essentially about the money...".  Yeah, but the really good ones can make you forget about that while it lasts.

"Am I simply looking for more out of this experience than I should given the core activity is of a s*xual nature."
Nope.  Sometimes you'll find yourself remembering the smiles, or the conversation more than the sex.  No matter how good the sex was.

I agree with Dionisios.  
I'm also your age and generally, I'm attracted more to the "older " providers though I've seen some very young ones (18 to 20).  I've had some good times and not-so-good in all age groups.  I have found though that the "older" providers understand us older hobbiests better and generally are more satisfying to be with.  But...like I said, I've had some very nice times with younger providers as well.  I think it just more depends on how you click with the lady you elect to see.

nctyguy8185 reads

I have to agree with the others that it has more to do with the person than with the age.  I have had good and bad sessions in all age groups.  However, the slightly older providers do consistently rank higher.  It can be their comfort level with what they do.  It can be that they understand what it takes to satisfy a man and that it might take a little more time or effort for an older guy to be satisfied.

For a one hour session the age issue is only a minor factor as stated by others.  If I am scheduling a longer session, multi-hour, I am more likely to do it with a slightly more mature provider.  I am also more likely to return for repeat sessions with older providers as well.  There are always the exceptions in every age group.

As for the robbing the cradle issue.  I would not even think about that as anyone that has decided to become a provider has probably already been picked quite a few times before you ever get there.

One of the problems some of us guys have is we think too much about this hobby.  It is best just to let things happen and if it is good do it again and if it is not so good, just move on to the next.  You will learn that even if you find your all time favorite, at some point she may decide to get out of the business or the area.

As much as I like to go back to the same providers, I am still looking for something new and different.  I hope that the best sex is yet to come, so I keep looking.  Remember the most important thing is to just have fun.  We may all reach happiness by a different route but the goal is the same.

Interesting topic... one I have thought about often due to my age (53) and love of young women.

The only downside for me has been the occasional dread that the initial look on the young cutie's face might say, "Damn! This old fuck is almost old enough to be my grandfather!!" Fortunately, I have never seen that look when the door opens but maybe that's because, 1) I casually let her know my approximate age in advance or 2) women aren't as into age and looks as men are or (more probably), 3) I have been with some very good actresses :-)

I agree with the other guys -- multi-hour sessions make for more downtime and conversation is more important. But you may not have a problem there as the young ladies often have fascinating stories to tell and seem to appreciate genuine interest. Doing your own pre-screening using TER reviews and the girl's website is a good way to increase your chances of making some conversational connection.

Probably most of us enjoy the extra-physical relating with a provider when it occurs and don't think it is wrong or silly to seek something more than sex. I agree with one of the other guys who suggested it is often a smile or some snippet of conversation you will remember long after you have forgotten the particulars about the sex.

I would love to read comments from providers on this subject though I understand they might not want to address it... especially if they do not enjoy seeing older guys :-)

CatfromHue7314 reads

Well this pretty much validates my own intuitive inclinations on the age difference issue. I appreciate the insights and comments shared by those of you who took the time to post a response.

It was helpful to have you elaborate on some aspects that should be considered when making a choice of provider. A multihour session vs a single hour session could certainly influence that choice. It was also encouraging to note that there are aspects of this where some little shared moment of conversation for instance might be even more intensely remembered than the s*xual activity itself no matter how great that may be in and of itself.
I actually believe I experienced something very much like that with my first provider even though it was a one hour session
that actually went a little over. It was with a more mature provider who happens to be well reviewed here so I can already see the value of this forum when making those first tentative forays into the hobby.

Once again thanks for the positive response and I'll try and make a contribution by posting my first review soon.




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