San Diego
I thought it would be interesting to just sit back and watch this thread for awhile. I appreciate and needed some support regarding this past review. I felt terrible that night. Not when I arrived, but by the time I left I sure did. I feel this guy should have just told me I was not what he expected and ask me to leave vs. working me like he did and then trashing me. I have had one other occasion where a guy told me I was not what he expected and handed me the envelope and politely said he declined. Now that is a champion of a gentleman. I have also chosen to leave when I realized within minutes we were going to have a terrible time, without asking for show-up fee. His viewpoint is no doubt entirely valid to him, but hopefully he will read this and learn. I think it is very wrong for him to go forth as he did, and then order me out as if I had done something really wrong to him. I could not help but notice his lack of response, after quite a bit of effort. I have had other times where a guy for whatever reason could not rise to the occasion. This happens once in awhile. However when that has happened, I have had the gent say that he was tired, or that some medication has some sort of effect or what ever and then a massage, or just lying together and talking and being kind to each other. I have never been attacked for it before like what occurred here. I did ask him for guidance, and was told I was doing "fine". I finally gave up when it was obvious I was beating a dead horse so to speak. I then got myself a glass of water (which was never offered), and I did ask him if he was tired, had taken some medication or had had some drinks. He then got very angry and belligerent. And told me to leave, and I had to demand some compensation for my time. It was just a real drag. We all have our bad days, and IMHO he was having a bad day. I am sure we have all had the experience of meeting someone in all sorts of random situations and for some reason was completely repelled by that person immediately, no matter what. For no real reason. That just happens. This guy should have acted appropriately at that moment, and as far as I am concerned violated me first, by going forward, second by treating me as though I was some sort of criminal rip-off, third by cheating me on my time, and lastly for writing in such of a mean way.
For him to make me seem like a dumb ghetto bitch that was out to get him was ludicrous. He wants to snivel about smoke smell; well my profile reads that I smoke. Yep, one of my vices. I try very hard to make sure I don't have that residue on me when I meet someone, and my reviews will reflect that with the exception of one or two, and then again, I say read the profiles. If I go overtime which occasionally I do, for instance had a 3 hour date the other night and going into the 4th hour with this very fun party animal if I choose to stay longer, and they want me to and I am not asking for additional compensation I will do that with or without permission. Or if someone tells me to relax and do that, I will. Otherwise I do not. People who are that sensitive, have the option of reading the profiles and booking according to that. Truth is, this guy never said anything about smoke smell, not once. He could have backed out the minute he said I kissed him, not kick me out after I had made good effort with him for over half an hour and tried to be creative, flirty, tried to get him to participate (in our game of twister), and yes, got discouraged after another 10 minutes of him laying there doing nothing but communicating hostility.
Just to say it, this was another example of someone who was very resistant to valid screening. It never fails, high maintenance in screening always ends up being that during and AFTER the encounter. That will never happen again. One thing I think I will mention is that he does not realize that his name and home phone, and his address are listed. Yes, matched his ID too. He is lucky I am not so vindictive as he is, as there are some ladies who would be so angry or hurt by his treatment, that his e-mails could easily be printed out, and mailed to his SO. Particularly when it is very clear that he was trying to impact someone's livelihood which he has no incling of who else might rely on and and may even be in grave need. Most would never imagaine who else us ladies might be helping believe it or not. I would never do anything like that because I would not want to bring pain to his unknowing family. But, there are some that would, and feel justified by the way he treats what he considers just a whore. I hope you are reading this sir. This is not a threat, just a reminder that you are in a playing field that could just throw you a curve ball and YOU should be more careful and protective of your family. I hope you take this seriously, because there are some that would do that. As I said, I would NOT, I have got alot more heart than that, but the idea that I thought of it is not limited to little ole me...you should think twice before you treat a woman so badly, just because you didn't like her look, or she didn't measure up to your high and mighty expectations. The only reason I am telling you this, is because YOU need to learn too. This is a gift from me to you. You need to be careful out there. If I was a girl that totes a thug around, you could have been in even more serious trouble. It is important to note that I never did feel physically threatened or afraid. I don't think you are dangerous, but your actions can be dangerous to yourself. Wake up man! Get a grip!
After reading his other reviews, I did notice that he consistently scores lower than reviewers of same girls. Although all got higher scores than me, lol...some of his may have had a glowing text, but scores are consistently lower than what he reported in text, on most accounts. This guy is a very critical person by nature. I just got to be the one that showed his true, nasty, passive aggressive side when at his worst.
I am content to know that most of you guys are so generous in spirit it truly moves me. I have received reviews that surprised me immensely. I find that most are so kind and nice during our date, and even more so when they write reviews. There have been a couple of occasions I should have gotten a bad review! And didn't, and was relieved, lol. I have never had more affirmation in my life, than I have found here in this community, and that has affected my life so positively. It has bolstered confidence that I am grateful for.
My biggest point I hope to offer here I suppose is that if you don't like someone, don't go forward, and then try to get over on someone as if they were at fault after they tried. None of us ever has to do that. Just be gracious about it. It would be alot nicer for all concerned. Also, read the profiles as well as the reviews and select accordingly whether it be age range, physical preferences, and our VICES! 
Now, let's all just have a great Super Bowl weekend! I LOVE you man! Got any more of those Maduros?
Jenni
-- Modified on 2/5/2005 4:19:27 PM
I thought it would be interesting to just sit back and watch this thread for awhile. I appreciate and needed some support regarding this past review. I felt terrible that night. Not when I arrived, but by the time I left I sure did. I feel this guy should have just told me I was not what he expected and ask me to leave vs. working me like he did and then trashing me. I have had one other occasion where a guy told me I was not what he expected and handed me the envelope and politely said he declined. Now that is a champion of a gentleman. I have also chosen to leave when I realized within minutes we were going to have a terrible time, without asking for show-up fee. His viewpoint is no doubt entirely valid to him, but hopefully he will read this and learn. I think it is very wrong for him to go forth as he did, and then order me out as if I had done something really wrong to him. I could not help but notice his lack of response, after quite a bit of effort. I have had other times where a guy for whatever reason could not rise to the occasion. This happens once in awhile. However when that has happened, I have had the gent say that he was tired, or that some medication has some sort of effect or what ever and then a massage, or just lying together and talking and being kind to each other. I have never been attacked for it before like what occurred here. I did ask him for guidance, and was told I was doing "fine". I finally gave up when it was obvious I was beating a dead horse so to speak. I then got myself a glass of water (which was never offered), and I did ask him if he was tired, had taken some medication or had had some drinks. He then got very angry and belligerent. And told me to leave, and I had to demand some compensation for my time. It was just a real drag. We all have our bad days, and IMHO he was having a bad day. I am sure we have all had the experience of meeting someone in all sorts of random situations and for some reason was completely repelled by that person immediately, no matter what. For no real reason. That just happens. This guy should have acted appropriately at that moment, and as far as I am concerned violated me first, by going forward, second by treating me as though I was some sort of criminal rip-off, third by cheating me on my time, and lastly for writing in such of a mean way.
For him to make me seem like a dumb ghetto bitch that was out to get him was ludicrous. He wants to snivel about smoke smell; well my profile reads that I smoke. Yep, one of my vices. I try very hard to make sure I don't have that residue on me when I meet someone, and my reviews will reflect that with the exception of one or two, and then again, I say read the profiles. If I go overtime which occasionally I do, for instance had a 3 hour date the other night and going into the 4th hour with this very fun party animal if I choose to stay longer, and they want me to and I am not asking for additional compensation I will do that with or without permission. Or if someone tells me to relax and do that, I will. Otherwise I do not. People who are that sensitive, have the option of reading the profiles and booking according to that. Truth is, this guy never said anything about smoke smell, not once. He could have backed out the minute he said I kissed him, not kick me out after I had made good effort with him for over half an hour and tried to be creative, flirty, tried to get him to participate (in our game of twister), and yes, got discouraged after another 10 minutes of him laying there doing nothing but communicating hostility.
Just to say it, this was another example of someone who was very resistant to valid screening. It never fails, high maintenance in screening always ends up being that during and AFTER the encounter. That will never happen again. One thing I think I will mention is that he does not realize that his name and home phone, and his address are listed. Yes, matched his ID too. He is lucky I am not so vindictive as he is, as there are some ladies who would be so angry or hurt by his treatment, that his e-mails could easily be printed out, and mailed to his SO. Particularly when it is very clear that he was trying to impact someone's livelihood which he has no incling of who else might rely on and and may even be in grave need. Most would never imagaine who else us ladies might be helping believe it or not. I would never do anything like that because I would not want to bring pain to his unknowing family. But, there are some that would, and feel justified by the way he treats what he considers just a whore. I hope you are reading this sir. This is not a threat, just a reminder that you are in a playing field that could just throw you a curve ball and YOU should be more careful and protective of your family. I hope you take this seriously, because there are some that would do that. As I said, I would NOT, I have got alot more heart than that, but the idea that I thought of it is not limited to little ole me...you should think twice before you treat a woman so badly, just because you didn't like her look, or she didn't measure up to your high and mighty expectations. The only reason I am telling you this, is because YOU need to learn too. This is a gift from me to you. You need to be careful out there. If I was a girl that totes a thug around, you could have been in even more serious trouble. It is important to note that I never did feel physically threatened or afraid. I don't think you are dangerous, but your actions can be dangerous to yourself. Wake up man! Get a grip!
After reading his other reviews, I did notice that he consistently scores lower than reviewers of same girls. Although all got higher scores than me, lol...some of his may have had a glowing text, but scores are consistently lower than what he reported in text, on most accounts. This guy is a very critical person by nature. I just got to be the one that showed his true, nasty, passive aggressive side when at his worst.
I am content to know that most of you guys are so generous in spirit it truly moves me. I have received reviews that surprised me immensely. I find that most are so kind and nice during our date, and even more so when they write reviews. There have been a couple of occasions I should have gotten a bad review! And didn't, and was relieved, lol. I have never had more affirmation in my life, than I have found here in this community, and that has affected my life so positively. It has bolstered confidence that I am grateful for.
My biggest point I hope to offer here I suppose is that if you don't like someone, don't go forward, and then try to get over on someone as if they were at fault after they tried. None of us ever has to do that. Just be gracious about it. It would be alot nicer for all concerned. Also, read the profiles as well as the reviews and select accordingly whether it be age range, physical preferences, and our VICES!
Now, let's all just have a great Super Bowl weekend! I LOVE you man! Got any more of those Maduros?
Jenni
-- Modified on 2/5/2005 4:19:27 PM