I started in this hobby a couple of years ago with one purpose and that was to find a escort I could feel comfortable with and to see her on a monthly basis. After being with 6 or 7 ladies I did find a girl who I felt was the one (NC Amber) but I guess due to personal reasons she seems to have retired.

So after a break of a couple of years I came back to TER and found a certain girl who I had wanted to meet a couple of years ago but because of her desire to first meet her new clients publicly I was unable to see her. With my business in the SD area it was not wise for me to be seen with another woman. She seemed perfect for me and someone who I had thought of often.

So a few weeks ago I see her post on here looking to meet new gents. I went to her website and feel for her once again. Contacted her a few times via email and messenger and had great success with her getting back to me and setting up appointments, she had me send a pic that she approved and I thought my dreams would finally be answered. Now here is where the trouble starts.

In a span of a couple of weeks there were 3 appts made that resulted in 3 cancellations at the last minute. She is about an hour away from me and I need to really juggle my business clients to open up free time to visit her and it has cost me mucho $$$ on these 3 cancellations. So now it has become increasingly tougher to reach her and to receive a timely response. A typical exchange will be "I have time this weekend to see you" I will respond with "I will try and get there Sat. at noon....will that work?" Then I will not hear back from her until Monday. I have tried everything with her to ease her mind...even offering to meet in public beforehand but it seems to get me nowhere with this girl.

I guess what I would like to know from other members or providers is if I am foolish to be pursuing this provider after being led on like this for weeks. I know she is one of the toughest out there when it comes to who she visits, is this just something I need to deal with if I want to see the best? I have never met the girl but I love everything about her except her scheduling but I am just about ready to give up on her.

Anyone have any suggestions? Should I give it up or keep trying to set up an appt with my dream girl of a couple of years now. I would appreciate any info for a relative newbie on how is the best way to handle this.

Thank you .... CBB

And you want to see her why.....................?

There are so many nice, courteous, respectful ladies here in SD........but if you still wish to waste your time.........keep doing what you've been doing.

No way! None of my friends who are escorts would blow of a client (in that way). They are all courteous and respectful of people's time!

Have some pride and move on.  Plenty of ladies that would actually want to see you.

But there are so many great providers out there. Try seeing others that might be just as good, if not better. You haven't even met her. How can you be so sure that she's the "dream girl" just reading the website? For all you know, she didn't even write the things on her website. Judging by the way she's been treating you, I seriously doubt her integrity as a good provider.

A while back I tried a few times to see NOSC but could never get by her screening because I refused to give out my real name, home or work info. She was real adamant about having them.  I stopped trying. Then one day I tried again. This time, much to my surprise, we were able to get around that problem. We had an awesome time as I knew she could provide me. Afterwards she said, "Why didn't I see you sooner?". I grinned, said nothing, but thought to myself,"If you weren't so tough on your screening, you wouldn't have missed out on all this fun."

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...that her smoke alarm might have triggered because she is sooo hott!  I just read some reviews, and, if her screening isn't too invasive (and I totally understand the need for proper screening), I might give her a call next time I'm up at Barona Valey Ranch!  NOSC, you sound AWESOME!

One, I have to agree with most of the guys on thier comments.
Two, how can she be your dream girl from a website. Especially when she cancels last minute and costs you money. Then not getting back to you.(?)
Three, how do you know she didn't blow you off for a regualr client or a better offer? Or for that matter is just a bit flaky.
That isn't the ingredients for a on-going situation.
Those actions do not a top provider make. (In my book anyway) I don't care how hot/top she may seem.
To answer your orignal question. NO, that is not the norm for a top provider. A top provider should not only be attractive and personable, but respectful of your time as well. If there is a screening or comfort issue she should come right out and say it.
The only times you should have a problem with what I would consider a 'top provider' are these:
If she is pre-booked with regular clients, so you have a bit of a wait to get 'in'.
(pun intended)
If for some reason you don't have the screening information she requests and it takes longer for her to feel comfortable. (Since she made an appt., I'm thinking you got past that point)
Or perhaps, If you have last minute said something inappropriate in an email that has put her off.
Off the top of my head I can't think of any reason for someone to cancel last minute 3 times.
My guess is your not getting email back now, because they were simply excuses to not see you.
With that said... NEXT... would be the appropriate word.
Hope that helps,
Jai Loren

You talk as if providers were subject to some sort of special rules, or were not normal people.

If there are in fact repeated & unexplained cancellations, then you don't need to wonder why, just deal with the fact.  If you're a businessman, you should know what an agreement is, and what to do when there's a breach.

But if the last word is not setting a definite time, place & contingency plan, but as you say, "I will try...will that work?"  That doesn't sound real definite to me.   I can't say I'd blame her to say it's not an agreement - though if she cancels, it's probably because she thought there was.

Then there is the issue of dream girls.  Sure, humans live for hope, and it's always nice to think there's something special about someone.  The reality is that the only thing special is what you put into it - she squats on the shitter pretty much the same as you do, and  maybe you need to grow up a little here, and stop chasing somebody who doesn't want to see you that badly - OTOH, maybe that's the service she's providing, is feeding your illusions - ?

I guess what I was hoping for was the unlikely response "she will be worth it so do whatever it takes to meet up with her" but what I got instead were responses that make much more sense. I must confess, I have scheduled yet another appt for a week from now and if that one falls through I promise I will forget about her.

I know it must be hard to understand but the minute I read this girls reviews and looked over her website I immediately felt that she was the escort of my dreams...one that I envisioned spending many happy years together even if it was only once a month. Do you ever come across a bio/gallery and immediately form an instant attraction? There is something about her that makes it so hard to give up on. If her bio was truthful we have a lot in common and I was really looking forward to not only the intimacy that a escort provides but to also get to know her as a person. And to be honest one of the biggest attractions is that she  does screen heavily, I respect that and feel it makes the encounter safer for both parties.

I believe Jai hit it on the head when she mentioned the idea that I may be getting blown off for regular clients. Not a very good way to increase her client base like she seemed to be after in her post but I guess I can understand wanted to keep her regulars happy. I do believe I have passed her screening process as I already have her phone (which is not listed on her website) and her location which to me would suggest she is comfortable with who I am.

So I have given her what I hope will be the last chance to make up for the 3 strikes that should have put her on the bench and I will see if she comes through for me. Thank you all for your very informative post that did answer my question about this being the normal procedure and I promise if there is a strike four I will NEVER try again and move on in my search.

Drop her like a cold fish.

First - her photos do not do her justice.  She is what MILF is all about.  If you ever see a "Del Mar soccer mom" that has platinum blond hair, is in great physical shape, looks like she got her Masters before she raised a family, and still fucks her husband's brains out and makes all the soccer dads want her, that is Nicole.

2.  She is a true lady.  She is smart, sensitive, cultured, and sexual at the same time.  If you are remotely open to a middle aged woman, there is no way Nicole will not turn you on if you are sitting with her.

3.  She is just a sweet woman.  I have known Nicole for about three years now, and she has a heart of gold.  

I had the exact same experience as you.  I tried many times to make an appointment and had appointments that she proceeded to cancel.  I was sympathetic to a point ...  Now, little Miss TT has gone from my wish list to my shit list.

It is nice to know I was not receiving special treatment. Sorry to hear you were put through the same ordeal, I guess it is time to man up...move on...and adjust my list accordingly.

Who is the lady you are discussing here?  THANKS!

Yeah, I would like to know that as well. If for no other reason than to know I don't have to bother contacting her in the future.

...RESPECT!

Mutual respect for each other's time is a very key factor in this arena we all love to play in. Not having mutual respect is very unsexy on all levels and certainly takes away from the allure, passion, connection two people can feel for each other, I believe.

Good luck in your search; you seem like the kind of gentleman who deserves the best!

Hugs & XXX,
Layla North

760-815-1006
[email protected]

It's time to move on sweetie. Things do come up and life "happens"....but not three times in a row. I'm curious if you read her reviews. If so did it mention her behavior? I'm sure you are amongst many.
Continue the quest for your monthly GFE, she's out there.