I just got back from a 2 1/2 week vacation hiking in the beautiful hills of France and Switzerland (called the Huate Route) and seems that I have come home to a 'shit-storm' when reading the discussion board.  In doing my catch-up reading I discovered some things that surprised me about what a provider finds offensive and the lengths she will go to to defend her position.  I am interested in getting feedback on the following and I will offer my input first.  I was wondering a couple things.  1. If you are considering seeing a provider, do you exchange a few emails to fnd out the best date/time or do you just demand a date/time.  2. How do you decide who to see?  Is it based soley on reviews or do you consider her demeanor on this and other boards.

By trade, I am a scientist and I guess I am overly analytical so I tend to research the lady as much or more than she may research me.  I have read some stuff in the past week that makes me question why I would ever see a provider based soley on her reviews.  Yes ther may be some really good-looking experienced ladies in our fair city but then when I read board comments from them, I think I would have been better off married and never considering the company of a "smart-mouthed" provider.  

I have been on this board since the beginning and would really love the input of some seasoned hobbyists.

Thanks in advance!

OS

I have to say I still look at pictures first and then reviews.  When I look at reviews, I also look at who has reviewed the lady and how their experience was.  Some reviewers tend to score all ladies high and others score them way too low.  Therefore, I will look at a good sample from the body of reviews.

While I always enjoy nice pillow talk, I am not looking at this as a long term relationship.  I think there is a common expression that goes someting like "F'd in the head but great in bed".  That being said, a negative attitude expressed on the board in a frequent manner would cause me not to look further if that provider was not already on my radar.

Pics, reviews (I also like to see how my reviews match up with providers we have both seen), price and location.

1. I always try to find the best date and time for her. The easier I can make it for her, the better for me.
2. It is not based solely on reviews, but they are a major data point. I seldom see anyone with no reviews, and never one with lousy or even moderate reviews. Pictures are important but I know they are not always accurate. From the reviews and from her website if she has one, I try to get a feel for her attitude. I find attitude is as important as looks. A fu sexy attitude can make the experience.

1 - pictures, are they proffessional and appealing.  i dont see ladies who "bare" it all.
2 - reviews, both quantity and quality.  i sometimes hesitate when too many or old, like 1970.
3 - age, 30+ is a deal sealer.  i like MILF's, those with experiences of life.
4 - how quick does she respond to my initial contact. signals either a flake or too busy to bother.

all this is very subjective do to my taste.  been burn though when i didnt pay attention to the "ques" in the reviews.  usually guys give hints as to negatives without acutally saying it.

Thanks for a great post - my partner & I are new to the hobbyist world and are looking for our first professional. I'm also a researcher so I totally understand your preference for getting more info before making your decision!

That said, we're for looking for advice from you, the more experienced hobbyists & contributors to TER. We'd especially appreciate recommendations: who do you think might be good with us (a middle aged couple, me bi & him straight)? We're looking for someone 25+ with a great playful attitude, comfortable being bi with couples. We would welcome other advice, too - pointers to best links online, etc. - you could help us avoid unnecessary mistakes and misunderstandings!

Any providers reading this, please let us know if you'd like to chat?  We're in San Diego with a lot of flexibility in our schedule & openness to incall or outcall.

 ~ Prof Bea

I think it's a great question, and I know you asked the hobbyist but I really think that if you get some provider input, it will help too!

This is what I think when it comes to find miss perfect...

Discussion board:

Dont base your choice on this, come on now
Some of the provider get some serious provocation, get batch at, get insulted...
So obviously the type of answers from the providers in this case is usually raw, It's easy to snap when you have a group (hidding behind aliasses) against you.
Also, written text can be misconduced, people extra polate what you say and often, it's under frustration that we try to make a point.

Everybody have their good/bad days, I say stuff in the moment that is not necessary what I think, stress, anger, PMS or impulsion can make a woman say stupid stuff (just like a man actually, disregard the pms lol)
I had hobbyist who would not come see me cause they think I'm too opinionated
Some will see me for this exact reason...
I say, test the water with her, cause when you are with a provider, its you and her, no one else is there but you 2 so I would advice tou to go feel if the connection is immediate or not by emailing first and asking a lil chat over the phone to have an idea...

-Reviews:
They are relevent to a certain extend, because we all different the date is different each and every time because if one thing worked with one, it might not work with all so reviews tells about a PERSONAL experience vs this is EXACTLY what your are going to get if you see her...

I have gentleman who enjoy a nice conversation some other only want to focus on the fun part...
A REAL professional will know, she can read you, anticipate and be pro active vs some who need guidance or doesnt take initiative and make the date awkward...

-communication
SO SO SO important!
To me, It's easier to make a connection over the phone than trough email, I used the email part for the verification.
The tone of the voice, the wording used and the way the conversation goes is very helpful
I have gents I click with over the phone and I all ready know the date is about to be exiting cause the chemistry all ready started.

I would advice you to make the nessacery research about her but you can't go wrong trying to find out from the provider herself, right?

Trust your intuition!
Just feel...it you cant feel anything, try another one!


Voila, hope this helps

-- Modified on 9/6/2012 4:33:00 PM

Thanks very much - I do value your input.  I tend to agree that the phone is a much better way of doing things for the reasons you point out.  The way I figure out if I will call a provider in the first place is a combination of her reviews and then her demeanor on these discussion boards.  I definitely like ladies who want to be helpful and are not looking to stir up trouble. Thats just my personal guide but it has worked for me and has eliminated a couple higher priced ladies recently.  Bottom line to me is I am not interested in drama or ladies airing their laundry.

OS

SORRY, BUT I DON'T THINK YOU CAN RELY ON WHAT THE PROVIDER SAYS ABOUT HERSELF
No guarantee that she is honestly portraying herself.  Blowing their own horn is getting information from the horse's mouth.  bUT HOW DO YOU KNOW IF SHE IS A BROKEN DOWN OLD NAG? Many providers use bookers, so you never get to talk to the provider.
I have been ripped off by a provider who makes out that she is God's gift to men.  Certainly made me a pessimist.  I look at pictures, read reviews, look at the average rating number ( a few low ratings may be the client's fault (smelly, unkempt, pushy, rough, etc., etc.).  ALL THE GOOD LOOKS AND SEXY BODIES DO NOT EXCUSE A POOR ATTITUDE.

in helping me find what I am looking for.  With the 4 ladies I culled from reviews on TER, I have found them all to be damaged.  Two had drug/alcohol abuse problems, two had abuse problems (in that they had been abused), one ran away from home at 14 and life got no better from that point on, one had a mid life crises and abandoned her family and children and ended up in prostitution, which seemed to be a catalyst of psychosis, and she needs to be institutionalized.  Two were uneducated, read nothing, paid no attention to current events,  couldn't have a remotely intelligent discussion, and wildly misinterpreted things I said/wrote to them because of their illiteracy.

None of that comes out in a reviews.  They are all marvelous, sexy, intelligent, and real pros in the reviews, but nothing like that in real life.

I don't have an answer to this.  Lately I have been visiting with chicas in Tijuana through an agency that treats me very well.  I can take the recommendation of the madam without concern, because the service levels are awesome in every experience I have had.  This is purely a physical experience as I am not fluent enough in Spanish to have good conversation. If the world were perfect, I would prefer to have the rocking sex with someone with whom I can converse with.  So either I get fluent in Spanish, or I figure something else out.  

I know this won't work for many so I don't suggest it as a general solution, but it is what is working for me until I figure out a better way to connect with a lady and not walk away from the experience either burned to a crisp, bored out of my mind,  or disgusted.

But I don't think TER reviews are going to solve any problems for me, and I sure as hell don't want to push my luck and send too many emails or have too many phone conversations trying to qualify a provider, as one can see how that can blow up with a little reading on this board.....

I read close to 30 before my last "date", didn't help. Especially if guys are going to just follow the herd and hand out 10 10s simply because she's attractive, when the criteria for a 10 on performance, isn't even on the menu. You can't predict chemistry, or the lack thereof, and I'm not heading to TJ anytime soon, but I've already done the back channel for my next tryst....hoping this one turns out better than the last one.

On a similar note, the last time I used one of the agencies here locally, that specializes in Asian ladies, I had a blast, without being able to exchange more than five words in English with her. And dealing with any escort's "issues", lack of education, or awareness of the time of day (as long as she's on time for our appt) is not something I want to get involved with.

MfSD>>>>

Gents - Thanks!  Truly!  I appreciate the feedback - we have all been here a long time.  Others - Thanks for your input as well.  I will also rely on BC and discussion threads rather than reviews.

OS

I have heard and seen many who use alcohol or drugs in order to loosen up for an appt. It's great that I attract sober gentlemen.   I'm glad to say my financial drama is coming to an end.  I do not have to get loosened up with any mind altering substance.  I just love great sex! And kissing is important to me!  I never get upset with reviews because when you read my "6's" they are still good reviews.  I'm mature but luckily I don't look my age.  I always hope they "get" my sincerity and sexiness through my website.  Have a great Fall season!  Kalina