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CatfromHue 8021 reads
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For those of you more experienced at this hobby: I have a question about protocol(if there is one) to be followed by the client when the provider obtains the hotel room for a session.

Since this is an expense for the provider is there an expectation that the client will add some amount to the fee to help cover this expense?

This question is posed to both those experienced in this hobby
and have met a provider under this circumstance, and also to providers who have engaged in this method for meeting clients.

I was considering bringing a bottle of nice wine for an upcoming encounter under such circumstances. Would that suffice
to help make up for this expense? I am considering bringing wine anyway simply because I think it is a nice gesture but I'm just trying to understand if there is some established practice
for dealing with hotel expenses under such a circumstance.

I am simply asking for some advice given my almost total lack of experience in the "hobby". If you have no positive advice I would ask that you please just ignore the post without comment.
Perhaps wishful thinking on my part :-)
Thanks to anyone and everyone who might be of help.

bkman6201 reads

The answer is that you will find that it varies with different providers.  Some include the expense of the room with their standard donation while others do expect that you either share the cost of the room or pay for it altogether.  You'll need to work with the specific provider to find out what she expects and go with the flow.

I guess the standard protocol is to communicate with the provider and set expectations accordingly.  :)

BKMan

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memyselfandIandyou7851 reads

I dealt with this recently myself and was feeling very much "on the spot" when the provider told me the room amounted to half of her fee and that she didn't have any time booked with any other hobbyist for the remainder of the day/evening.  I was feeling pretty bad and ready to pitch in but then as we were leaving, she informed me that she had to meet some "friends".  That pretty much led me to believe that perhaps she did have some other clients to entertain in the room after all--not sure that was the case at all, but the way it happened it at least made me feel better about the situation.

I would certainly like to think that the fee is the fee, period.  Surely these providers should be expected to have enough business sense to factor in the cost of the room to their fees.  

For all of you providers out there reading this thread, please take note.  When you start asking your clients to "chip in" for the room, it makes them feel like it's a roundabout way of asking for a tip or something to that effect.  All in all, it would be much cooler NOT to mention room cost, etc., at least in this hobbyist's opinion.

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sedonasandiego7157 reads

And one that does require some consideration. (Still considering writing an SOP thing and having someplace on the NE site..and this subject would be part of it.)

Regardless..ONCE it's established as to who's acquiring the room, and, say, it's the Provider for this occasion, she should let it go at that. IMO, very tacky to mention anything to the Gent about not having booked any other appointments, the room cutting too much into her donation, etc, etc. Not his concern, and should not be mentioned. Tacky. If you've accepted the responsibility of getting the room, then that's it. If it ended up being less profitable than you'd hoped, you suck it up and do better next time.
IMO incall's a tricky thing, and puts you at a much higher risk. I don't like it at all.
Last year, I was actually scoping out some properties to buy for an incall location, before my company downsized, which changed my plans.. Still, someday, my ideal dream would be to have a cozy little place, secluded, and quiet with much charm. There would be a separate entrance, not visible from the main street for the gents to discretely enter. I would have your favorite drink waiting, music flowing throughout, and a bubbly garden hot tub beckoning..each room would be decorated with just the right touch, and 'our' room would have plenty of mirrors so you can get all the visuals you want. I'd finally have a place to hang all my lingerie and fun costume wear and could start collecting an assortment of wigs too..(love to play!)..
Nah, if I'm gonna do incall, I want to do it RIGHT!

xo,
Sedona

Related Link: http://www.seductivesedona.com

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bioguysd8133 reads

I like your description of a dream location, Sedona.  If you ever realize it I will definitely ask for an invite.  I agree with you that motel rooms are tricky to arrange and don't contribute much to the atmosphere of the session.  As a hobbiest who is usually limited to incall, I am always on the lookout for good providers with their own locations.

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sedonasandiego8259 reads

Speaking of incalls, any of you Legit, verifiable, good guys out there that are interested in being informed of whenever I might have an incall opportunity, please email me at [email protected]

They may be few and far between, but if I can remember those who'd like to be kept posted on that, I'll be sure to contact you!

xo,
Sedona

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elegantGFEelise5978 reads

Any of you that might be interested whenever I might have an opportunity to be your hostess *Grins* (what she said! hehehe)

Do let me know!!

*smoooch*

Elise

Related Link: Elise's Site (a couple of new shots)

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sexystephie5670 reads

I rarely write but this is a time I felt I should. I do factor into my rate the cost of an incall location. I, even, go as far as to reduce the rate if I already have an incall location lined up. I just wish some hobbiest would understand that it sometimes takes a while to get an incall location set up. If I knew I wasn't going to be stood up, then I would be more apt to do it.  ALso, and this is a good thing, I happen to be on time when I get the room, Usually.... Imagine that.... No I am really trying to work on that time management thing... single parenthood can be a bitch... Okay... that was all... Have a great day.. stephanie

Related Link: http://photos.yahoo.com/sandiego_stephie

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CatfromHue9300 reads

Good follow-up post(s)that I consider helpful and even thought provoking for both clients and providers alike. Perhaps this thread can in some way incite the establishment of some SOP
for handling matters such as these which sometimes leave the client and perhaps even the provider a little uncertain about
the best way to deal with certain issues.

Sedona I think the SOP idea is a GOOD one and I would encourage you to pursue it.

For those of you who contibuted to this thread with your ideas,
observations, comments, and suggestions I offer my sincere thanks and appreciation. These discussion boards on TER can be, and often are, very helpful and informative and make for a much more positive experience in the interaction between providers and clients when ideas and experiences are shared. Communication matters!!!

Just as a side note I would add that the provider in question, the one I will be seeing has never mentioned that I would be expected to help defray the expense of the room. Although I have yet to meet her in person I sense that she is real CLASS in every sense of the word. She is well reviewed here and others have much good to say about her.

Thanks to all from this newbie!

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insignificant9348 reads

When I set up the appointment I ask for incall.  If she directs me to a hotel I expect her to pay for it.  Otherwise, I would expect her to say she only offers outcall and has a suggested place.  

This is something I would discuss in advance to keep the session positive.  There is nothing worse than a provider feeling like she is being shortchanged from the start.

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