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Posted By: Jillian Roberts
Dear Discreet,
A woman who knows how to connect in a loving way, even for a brief moment in time, is a gem. She is good at what she does, and through her reviews she will know it is a valued part of her service and will grow as a provider and as a person because of the feedback.

You are right in that reviews typically are not "Dear Diary" truthful. Often men are caught up in "locker room boasting" - she gets more amazing in the re-telling. But hey, knowing that we can still learn things from reading the review.

Many men subscribe to the "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all" philosophy of reviewing (or not reviewing in that case).  We can learn to read between the lines on that as well -- If she has no reviews, maybe it is a little risky to see her. (Or, she's new, and you are an adventurer and willing to TOFTT.)

Asking for reviews, or writing reviews - that's the nature of the game. We all rely on them - men and women.

Reviews are not all a pack of lies. The truth can be in there too. And it is VERY helpful to everyone involved when a gem is revealed.

As my handle suggest, I am a very discreet and private guy. In the years I have been doing this in have never written a review. I also have a healthy skepticism for what I read in reviews. Some folks write them in hopes of being perceived by the provider as a good guy and expect something in return. Some providers ask for them. Having said all of that, I just had a session where the provider, not full service, created for a special moment, a real connection. So now I know it, and she knows it, but is there really any value is writing about it for her? How does a reader ever know if what is written is credible?

However IMHO the reviews are scrutenized only by the most sceptical of review readers and the clever will PM the writer for the truth.  I am very careful before believing a review from somebody I'm not familiar.  However, when I hear things like you mentioned with one provider and not others you reviewed, you will eventually review more, I'll tend to believe it.  

I suggest you write it.  If it's the truth  don't worry about doing it.  Connecting is always something that YMMV.

Dear Discreet,
A woman who knows how to connect in a loving way, even for a brief moment in time, is a gem. She is good at what she does, and through her reviews she will know it is a valued part of her service and will grow as a provider and as a person because of the feedback.

You are right in that reviews typically are not "Dear Diary" truthful. Often men are caught up in "locker room boasting" - she gets more amazing in the re-telling. But hey, knowing that we can still learn things from reading the review.

Many men subscribe to the "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all" philosophy of reviewing (or not reviewing in that case).  We can learn to read between the lines on that as well -- If she has no reviews, maybe it is a little risky to see her. (Or, she's new, and you are an adventurer and willing to TOFTT.)

Asking for reviews, or writing reviews - that's the nature of the game. We all rely on them - men and women.

Reviews are not all a pack of lies. The truth can be in there too. And it is VERY helpful to everyone involved when a gem is revealed.

I believe that you shouldn't feel obliged to whip out your...
pen and write a review every time you see someone. :)

But it can be very valuable once in a while to be sensitive to the power you wield with that thing. I mean your PEN, silly. :)

Jillian, I appreciate your response. It helped me see things a bit differently.

Posted By: Jillian Roberts
I believe that you shouldn't feel obliged to whip out your...
pen and write a review every time you see someone. :)

But it can be very valuable once in a while to be sensitive to the power you wield with that thing. I mean your PEN, silly. :)

Jullian

Your question came from the heart and it already affected one man.  If you can keep your review honest and from the heart then thats what we want.

Posted By: Jillian Roberts
Dear Discreet,
A woman who knows how to connect in a loving way, even for a brief moment in time, is a gem. She is good at what she does, and through her reviews she will know it is a valued part of her service and will grow as a provider and as a person because of the feedback.

You are right in that reviews typically are not "Dear Diary" truthful. Often men are caught up in "locker room boasting" - she gets more amazing in the re-telling. But hey, knowing that we can still learn things from reading the review.

Many men subscribe to the "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all" philosophy of reviewing (or not reviewing in that case).  We can learn to read between the lines on that as well -- If she has no reviews, maybe it is a little risky to see her. (Or, she's new, and you are an adventurer and willing to TOFTT.)

Asking for reviews, or writing reviews - that's the nature of the game. We all rely on them - men and women.

Reviews are not all a pack of lies. The truth can be in there too. And it is VERY helpful to everyone involved when a gem is revealed.

So if you write one or not, it is all in the eye of the beholder whom reads it.
What is a 10 to one man may not be the same for another, one man's trash is another man's treasure.
The reviewing process is flawed and will always be that way ...
For more than just the reasons you've already offered.
And not only in this hobby either.
Bottom line ... you and she know how you feel, so it doesn't really matter if anyone else knows :)
Kissez full of passion,
Chloe

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