I'm new to this hobby and am looking to optimize the amount of time spent getting to know each other prior to intimate contact.  I realize and respect that we’re all human here, and I want both of us to be comfortable prior to the clothes hitting the floor.  But in an effort to maximize both our comfort, I think I tend to spend more time than may be fair to me.  Obviously it’s a balance, with both people bringing their individual styles and personalities into the situation.  Don’t get me wrong, I often enjoy the conversation in its own right, but 20-minutes before even LFK, out of 60 seems a little excessive.  I always appreciate those providers who have moved things along.  (I’ll never take it as a sign that I’m boring someone if they put their hand down my pants while I’m chatting about the weather.)

I wouldn’t have such a shallow attitude if the meter wasn’t ticking the moment we meet, but I don’t make the rules. I only know of one provider who has created a solution: she has two rates: public and private.  Public is getting to know each other and is one-quarter the price of private.  

On a related note what’s the best way to navigate the over talkative provider telling me about such not sexy things as her landlord raising her rent etc. in the first ten-minutes of ever meeting each other?  Yes, it’s happened.