Please allow me to take a moment to vent on a topic that has been bothering me for at least a year now.

With the introduction of the internet there has been pros' and cons' to the profession.

For the ladies: There is greater exsposure and growth potential. For the men: Greater variety. Not to mention an overall chance to share information.

On the down side: Ladies are exposed 24/7 on the web. Greater compeition and pressure often turns one to do things they wouldn't typically do. (Either to compete or get better reviews)
Men have to give out more information for screening. Have a greater chance of getting ripped off. As well as, take a chance of expectations not being met.
All escorts no matter what their appeal or skill have been grouped into "providers". Men mostly reffered to as "hobbyist" whether they intend to hobby, or seek on-going companionship.

The old terminology for different types of escorts and ground rules of discretion seem to be slipping away. Old school word of mouth or personal referrals are pretty much gone.

Along with this the definition of "community" has been blurred with the online community. Just because we are all "providers" doesn't mean we know each other nor want to.
I have found that information shared behind closed doors isn't always staying there. (In certain circles) Ladies assuming discretion are sharing personal information and it is being passed on by clients. A ladies real name, family situation, performance, or substance abuse issues are not my buisness. It is a bit like a grown up game of Post Office. Whose to say whats even true?

Gentlemen should know that ladies don't share anything other then then basics when asking for referrals. It's strictly a safety issue. Not to mention sometimes hearing about other encounters can be a turn off during a date. A women may be wonderful with you. However, her true self may be catty, jealous or self serving. So sharing someones private information just isn't a good idea. I never even ask my duo partners about their personal life. It is up to them to trust in me and want to share.

Ladies, I hope in the future you keep this in mind. Don't share anything from your private life you don't want repeated down the road. Most likely it will be. The "community" isn't that large. This lack of discretion can be very harmful in both mental and physical ways.

This has nothing to do with my decision to leave the net at this time. It was a personal one. But I will admit the gossiping/info. sharing hasn't helped. If I have been told anyone's private buisness. You can rest assured the buck stops here. I try hard to "do unto others". I hope I can expect the same respect.

I'm sure there will be different views and comments. I can only call it like I see it. I have seen too many ladies hurt this way. I don't understand this "need to know".
I feel very strongly discretion and safety should still be priority!

I wish everyone a bright future.
Have FUN............but stay safe!

Always,
Jai Loren


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