Hi everyone  

I kinda have issue, with some things.
I obviously left for a year or so and I came back to looking a bit different.
I do not like to be very intrusive to my personal life but I am a bit different now.  
I'm forced into doing two things.........
Saying have you seen my current pictures? No I'm not 100 pounds anymore....... It makes me seem like I have low self esteem which I do not. However many sites have posted my older pictures and I can't keep up with all of those sites. I don't even know what they all are
Or I simply decline because I do not want the constant explaining myself or disappointing anyone.

Is there a way to avoid this? I'm on p411 currently and sometimes Ter. All that have my new pictures.
I don't know what I'm asking, I just need guidance because this has certainly become slightly heart breaking and tumultuous.  
I don't want to miss on meeting someone awesome because the confusion

5' tall, no weight listed and in your description of yourself it says tiny little package.  Maybe list your weight or change your description reflecting your current situation.  Some of us guys won't get it even if you do.  (I always thought my wife was 110 and she's 150, so what do we know...lol.)   If they don't like your physical appearance, then they aren't worth seeing, you don't need someone who doesn't make you feel good about yourself.  As far as the other copy sites, good luck with that. I'm sure it's a pain responding with letting them know you're not 100lbs anymore.  Don't let it get to you, take comfort in knowing you are beautiful inside and out.

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Do you have a website?  You could keep current photos on your website and suggest they go to there to view your current photos.

You could also ask everyone where they saw your ad.  That way you'd know if they saw the current photos.

I think Bad Kitty takes awesome photos and they are really good at making us look our best without excessive photo shopping, if you need some nice new photos.  The finished photos are 30$ each.

You are right to post current photos on all of the sites you know you have ads on, but there are SO many!  And they get our info from other sites and put our ads up without our ever knowing it.  I don't mind because it saves me time not having to do it myself, but I know some ladies hate that.  

I hope it's true that you don't have low self-esteem about it.   There will be many guys who will not only love you look right now, but who will prefer you with extra weight.  You're a beautiful lady.

The important thing is that they do know what you look like right now, and you already know that.  

Also, I just recently got access to the providers only board.  I've known about it for years, but I didn't ask to join it.  I still don't go there often, but it's nice to be able to.  Maybe you wanted to find out how the guys feel about this, but if you ever want to discuss something with just the ladies, that's a good option.  I've found that the ladies that participate on the providers only boards are pretty knowledgeable and supportive.

Good luck

Your photos on the 411 site are really cute

first, your new pic on 411 = WOW. What a gorgeous face. If I was only going on the P411 info, I'd say you meet the fair and accurate standard. Nice pics, no weight or proportions listed, but describe yourself as "curvy." Personally, if I have a pretty good mental picture.  

maybe some ladies who have gone UTR or retired could give advise regarding getting rid of old pics on other sites.

as far as your TER description, while you may not be "athletic" right now, I personally find both average and baby fat almost demeaning. Maybe that's just me, and no offense to gals who consider themselves either of those build types. It may be time to lobby TER to add 'Curvy" to the 'build" description.

Not much help here, but best wishes. You seem like an honest, thoughtful girl.  

Lacey, I certainly don't want to single you out, but as you've shared this, I'd say that provider honesty is something that hobbyists really appreciate.  Having met you once a while back, I can attest to your sweet personality and skills.  I'm sure that hasn't changed.  Being up front in your advertising will certainly win hearts and minds.  Yes, we guys are very visual, as I noted in a previous thread.  Pics are the first thing I look at when I follow the link from review to website.  But physical attributes are only one side of this hobby.  There's more than one "hot" provider around who in reality displays about as much personality as block of ice.  On more than one occasion as the door opened, I've inwardly sighed and wished I had the cajones to do a 180.  My ATFs haven't been 10s, but they have displayed personal characteristics that have been engaging and fascinating.  When combined with a genuine eroticism, I've found them irresistible.  I appreciate that providers must work various angles to attract clients, and one of those is obviously physical appearance.  On the other hand, nothing beats a well-founded reputation for being a genuine sweetheart

Lacey I agree with most of the comments. Your pictures on p411 are very nice and I think anyone can obviously see you are not 100 lbs, but have a very nice figure. A website with current pictures was also a good suggestion. Your reviews obviously speak for themselves. I don't think you have anything to worry about many awesome will seek you out!!

I google myself, and contact the websites directly asking them to help secure my privacy as a mother.  I have had many life changes during my time in this industry & always try to update my photos on a regular basis.  I would just be honest.  Your not 100 pounds, so what are you?

If you leave weight blank it is a red flag for some, but most men love curves real women have them, and after having kids you will have more.  lol  If your in transition just state the facts.  I just lost all my baby weight & am back to my normal weight.  Yes, I had a personal trainer & diet plays a huge part.  

The best thing about this industry is all women sell regardless of weight, or extra pounds.

All your input was greatly appreciated
I'm going to change a few things!!
Have a super day

Perhaps someone that has seen you before should see you now and give an updated review....a stellar one of course  You are one hot lady!!

Your very very sweet thank you! I never ask or try to bother men for reviews. I hate to trouble anyone! But I will say I can't wait to get one so maybe I can be in the cool group again....... Lol plus the things I do are just unexplainable lol

Lol I am now under baby fat! That really was the only option lol 😂

Thank you for pointing out I had not put my weight now. I don't even know if I realized it, or just though the pics I just took would be ok. I changed it now

... so you can get back on the top 100 list for San Diego. I think you are in position number 10 or something like that.  But since it's been more than 6 months since you've had a review you're not showing up on the top 100 for San diego.

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