What is the criteria judges used for figuring out alimony, been married for t years and the soon to be EX and I make close to the same amount of money.
Look for "Support Calculator" on Google, you can find several free, downloadable programs that allow you to plug in all relevant data (CA Guidelines) for both Spousal Support (what you call Alimony) as well as Child Support. Couldn't tell from your post whether you have been married for (t)wo, (t)three or (t)en years, but ten is the biggie. "Long Term" marriages call for far longer duration of support payments, short term marriages "typically" see spousal support lasting for 1/2 the term of the marriage. Child support is generally paid until the child's 18th birthday.
For what it's worth - assets, support issues - ALL of this shit is pretty easy to figure out. If you and the future Mrs. Mak are on speaking terms - see a mediator rather than a lawyer. Lawyers get paid for starting and prolonging fights - a great way to quench one's thirst for revenge (that nasty rejection thing) - but VERY pricey. Mediators process the paperwork at a fraction of the cost.
Good luck, stay calm. Anger is just too damn expensive in a divorce. TIP: Swallow your pride - let her see how much you're hurting, lonely, missing her, regretting the loss - even if you're not! Works wonders.
My ex tried for spousal support and lost. Reasoning by the judge: short term marriage (7 years), and no loss of skills that she brought to the marriage, ie. she was a nurse prior to the marriage, continued to work as a nurse, and was a nurse at the end of the marriage.
If she lost skills ... different story. Her argument: she lived a lifestyle much nicer than that of a nurse during her marriage, therefore, she was used to the lifestyle and should continue to enjoy it. Judge disagreed, and stated that there was no responsibility on my part to turn her into a neurosurgeon so that she could enjoy the lifestyle.
Judge was divorced and very rational. I love that guy. Yours may not be so kind.
i was married for 19 yrs, divorced last yr thru a mediation. it was quite simple. i sat down with a pen and paper, listed the assets, divided by 2, continued to give her the monthly allowance, as i always did ( she never worked ) continued the care of the teenagers. took the one page agreement with both signatures, to a mediational lawyer.... and 6 months and $2500 later.... the dissolution showed up in the mail. no fights, no lawyers, kept a friend and wooosh... i am single! my council.... don't fight, don't get lawyers involved. do the right and sensible thing. thats what judges will do, after the circlejerk!!! ps goodluck
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