This is a serious question for the wonderful providers on here:
You girls (you know which ones you are) make things so natural, unrushed, and memorable for the gentlemen here in San Diego.
My question to you is, what can we do as men to make the overall experience better for you?
I don't mean the physical aspect of the dates, but the overall experience.
Do you like to meet for dinner or drinks first to get a better connection with someone?
Is it better when you we (men) smell like dove soap and not smoke or cologne?
Do you like the sheets in the bed to smell like fabric softener?
Do you prefer to set up dates a few weeks in advance?
Do you prefer incall (being in your own environment) or outcall (get to move about faster)?
What makes you feel most comfortable and safe when walking in? Better lighting? Candle light?

I am sure all of you have thought "if the men could just do..........things would be much more pleasant for me"
Well, I'm sure a lot of us would like to make it a better overall experience for you as well. Maybe not all the guys, but I am sure a lot of us would.
So, please take the time and be completely open and serious because we would like to know.
Thank you wonderful ladies of our wonderful city.

Thanks for the question. I figure if he pays for a nice dinner, I can find the time to get to know him better.  No further donation needed, unless he decides he does want to take me home.!!  I prefer Outcall since so many people are coming from out of town.  I just prefer references, so I feel safe.  So far my experiences have always been great!  I would love it if they had time to watch me swim a few laps in the hotel pool!! I have a kitchen in my timeshares and I have even cooked dinner for my good friends.  They always appreciate a home cooked meal.  That all takes time, to get to know me a little, but great fun for me.  I must say that most of these experiences are when I am out of town. I'll be in Vegas in October so I look forward to some of my friends there,  treating for a gourmet meal.  Plus I get to dress up!  Some are afraid of being seen, so that is not always possible. I prefer having a few days notice since I am only avail. Mon-Thursdays these days.  There seem to be too many things that come up if plans are made weeks in advance. Hope you all find the experiences you are looking for! Kalina

A man whom exemlifies chivarly. Ladies want to be treated as the goddesses that they are. Wining and dining to forge a more intimate connection is always an acceptable way to woo a woman. However due to hectic schedules the perfect dinner and playtime romp is not always possible.

I respectfully request my suitors be clean shaven, with trimmed nails, and have good general hygene. My ideal lover would ask how I liked it in the bedroom. As I would do the same for my lover. We all have our own ideal date but mine is simple.... true, loving worship, kindnesss and opennesss to a real connection, not just a porno fantasy.

Thanks for asking
Xoxoxo
Roxanne Trump

Great Question! Have an AWESOME day

Thank you so much for even caring about your companions, in fact you would be the "ideal" person I would "date".  Too many people get stuck in the fantasy world of "I just want to get it on with a pretty body."  When realistically that "perfect experience" is created through a mutual attraction that is not always on a surface level.  Through screening and requesting phone conversations prior to dates I am able to get a good feel for the potential companion. Like I told one client, "lets see if we GEL" haha and now thats our inside joke, no we are "gellin" (thanks Dr.Scholls).  
It takes the whole awkward "hey stranger how are you?" "oh shit I just bumped him in the nose" "Lets dance around the door and see which way to go...do I kiss her...does she kiss me..." AKWARD!!! The key is to approach this as if you are creating a friendship that will last, a place where you can escape and be yourself.  It is very hard to explore yourself if you are always going 100 miles an hour and you dont take the time to sit back and feel.  True pleasure comes from releasing all control, holding nothing back and at that point you can achieve amazing enlightenment.
Hygiene is a given, come on would you want me to put a smelly armpit or butt in your face? LOL NO!  Cool, so we should all take care of ourselves.  
"Treat others the way you would want to be treated"  All of us wonderful ladies are very intuitive and know how to make you feel like a king BUT I always have a really amazing experience with a person who respects, my wants and needs either physically or emotionally.  I'm not a rag doll and I surely will not be treated like one.  What I provide is special (not that it is anymore special than anyone else but it is mine to give).  My companions are my friends, lovers and sometimes just a quick passionate explosion.  I do not always desire candlelight, sometimes whips and nipple clamps are in order or a quick romp in the bathroom of the place we are dining at.  Don't forget guys, we are just as expressive as you in that department; at least the good ones are.  I love getting to know people, it's a hobby.  Conversation is key to connection in the beginning.  Going to dinner, dancing or even a cup of Joe and a nice walk on the beach to get to know one another is nice.  The biggest turn off is a "one & done" kind of hobbyist the one that acts like I am a piece of meat.  Damn right, I'm  Kobe beef but you have to treat me like a lady to woo me into giving you the experience you desire.
To some guys & girls, this may not be your style and I completely respect that.  I think everyone has a different WHY in this industry and that is the beauty of it.  There are a ton of sexy fish in this sea, that is for sure. Fast swimmers, aggressive predators and graceful exotics.  You pick and choose... We pick who to keep in our circle of friends.

Thanks
XOXOXOXO
Eyva Ferrari

I ENJOY being a man and opening doors, making sure she has everything she needs, and has my complete attention.
I ALWAYS bring a small gift that has her in mind , NEVER have had a "date" without one . I do it as a "thank you" from ME , me personally !
Never have done a clothing request ."Babe , I just want you to be comfortable". When shes comfortable and relaxed then so am I .
A lot of times the conversations I usually have are genuine, and are one of the best parts of the entire evening ! One thing I learned from this wonderful "hobby" ......If there is no great conversation and some kinda foreplay then I won't have a "happy ending"! I've even had a few that noticed I did'nt cum and stayed past the time and tugged and sucked and never were successful Gotta' have some kinda "connection" to make it happen for me !
Many women LOVE when I ask what they like and I ALWAYS do ! Seems strange to be the one paying, and you REALLY do care about her enjoyment !
I have had more than one session where I stayed the entire hour licking her pussy !  God , I LOVE that !
I LOVE to be a respectful , fun , gentleman and guess I will stick to my current plan

A great woman makes me WANT to be a better man !

You know the way to a womans heart! You made me smile with both of my lips!

Xoxoxo
EOM

this sounds like a guy trolling for providers.

I can't speak for all of us girls but for me ... Everyone is different so I won't script a session.
The best thing to do is to act natural, Don't overachieve or second guess yourself.
Definitely be well groomed, a gentlemanly trait.
Please have fresh breath because I love kissing!!
I enjoy the scent of cologne so wear your favorite.
I like when a man is rested and has the energy to keep up with me, eat your Wheaties.
The sheets should smell like sex when we are done!
I love a man who can surrender as well as take control and knows when to do either or both.
I love the 'art of the flirt' so the earlier you reserve your time the longer the teasing can go on and that way we don't need to meet prior to a date.
I prefer that we undress each other, slowly with lots  of tickles and kissez.  
I am not picky as to where we meet - your place or mine - even outdoor
Ambiance and atmosphere are very important to the whole experience so don't hold back.
I could go on but I think you get the gist of what I am saying!
Kissez that send shivers down your spine,
Chloe

What you are describing is exactly how I have approached my encounters with providers.  And it has totally blown up in my face with 3 of 4 providers I have seen in San Diego.  

My approach and comfort zone is to treat women with respect, kindness, and generosity.  I have expressed my desire to have a passionate experience where we like each other, enjoy each other's company, and can get into a state where we can get lost in the moment.  And be able to talk to each other as people.

And I have 3 women whom I have seen multiple times who will no longer talk to me.  With such odds, readers will naturally think that there must be something very wrong with me or with what I am doing.  That thought burns in my head, and I spend a lot of time in self examination over it, believe me.

I won't go into a bunch of details,  but the worst thing I have done with any of them is to mis-interpret one of them who called me darling and lover and said she missed me when I hadn't seen her in a couple of months as possibly opening a door to possibly interacting outside of the client relationship model, and going to dinner OTC, followed by a paid session.   That misunderstanding (the dinner never happened, it was just discussed) resulted in her apparently being insulted and thinking I was a waste of time, so she no longer responds to emails or texts.  There is a little more background to that story, but the point I raise is the only thing I can figure caused her to get so torqued at me.  I even conceded I made a mistake and apologized, to no avail, and left it at that.

In return for my generous donations and respectful treatment, I have been subjected to disdain, ingratitude, and worst of all, blackmail.  As a result of the blackmail, I dumped my previous identity, my P411 and DateCheck accounts with their positive references and OKS.

It has been very confusing to me.  I see evidence that there are kindred spirits from postings like yours on TER.  But my personal experience negates this.  Maybe I have been extraordinarily snake bit.  But I am chastened and gun shy about seeking pleasures that entail sentient behavior by both parties.  

I have taken to finding sensual experience with beautiful women in Mexico.  My Spanish is very limited, and the women I am seeing don't speak English.   So we don't get into advanced discussions and just relate on a physical level.  But it is sensuous, I feel welcome and desirable, and my generosity always returns genuine gratitude.  I find that to be very rewarding.  

For now, it fills a void, and though I still like the thought of connecting with someone to have the more cerebral connection to accentuate the physical, I have to recover from my war wounds before I will be ready to try the waters on home turf again.

Perhaps the women you have seen are not Hetaera and therefore this is just a job to them ...
Maybe you did not research them well enough before beginning your connection ...
There are many reasons, all different, for why a person acts with certain behaviors.
I would like to offer an apology for your circumstantial disappointments.
It is my firm belief that in this hobby we are truly lovers, friends and confidants.
I believe we need a deeper connection to really take advantage of the wonder and bliss available to us here.
I'd suggest that you build your connection via email, text and phone conversations before actually meeting a new girl.
I like to create a camaraderie where we can flow easily and fully when we are together.
Just like in the dating world - there will be hits and misses with providers but there are women out there who truly do love you and love being with you.
Good luck darling!
I know you'll find one or multiple women that fit you one day!
Yours undeniably,
Chloe

I love meeting for drinks & a snack to converse prior to play.  Flirting accross the table is fantastic.  I enjoy outcalls, or an incall depending upon the place advance planning makes the event a true delight.  Emailing to discuss the likes & dislikes makes everything much better!

What if I'm not a drinker...?

You could drink coffee or tea or a smoothie etc. being a non-drinker we can be creative ...
Kissez,
Chloe

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For me and my ventures, I found that sharing a few minutes to talk and really engage in inner and outer chemistry. I always say if you take even ten minutes to share, connect, offering beverages, just the small little things make the big thing wonderful!!!! I know many men oppose lol or find it unnecessary which is okay ,  but when someone brings flowers, or wine, water something just thoughtful takes the date to a more romantic level. Not everyone seeks that, but I love it.

There are some cultures that are big on hospitality and I find those values very good to have. Something so simple as offering a water....etc shows alot of someone. Just the basic human kindness goes a long way in both the bedroom and out!!! Giving a towel, turning the water on for someone, making sure the temperature is just perfect, asking if they prefer more or less light.... can you tell I love to accommodate. lol

I am open about setting dates but I personally feel if it is to far in advance something could happen and it would be terrible to let someone down and no be able to make it. So check ins are nice of course a  48 hours, and one 24 hour email, text or call is good for both people. To confirm and stuff

I personally enjoy both outcall and incalls. Sometimes outcalls can be fun, new and exciting and thats never a bad thing. With incall I get to be the hostess and know where things are and do everything i can to make it a better experience. I love to be hospitable and everything I say if men can do... a lovely women could do just the same!

When you say creative, exactly how creative? In what way?

I would share the juice of fruit with you in the form of a kiss ..
Or we could do body shots with a soda ...
Maybe make a virgin daiquiri and serve each other ...
And of course we all make our own fluids ..
LOL
Just a couple ideas off the top of my head,
Chloe

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