Que Pasa brought up an interesting point in a pervious thread regarding reviewing or posting when girls no show. There was a point brought up that if a girl was flaky enough to not show. One might not know what she would do with your personal info. if you decided to post negative about her on the boards. I found this interesting, because it hadn't occured to me. One, I'm not sure how it would be different then giving her a bad review, had you met. Two, I would think it would be much like the girl shooting herself in the foot. If she no showed and then used information against you for a negative posting. Perhpas in the "old days". But with the microscope of the net, it's hard for a girl to change her identity without changing towns, if she ruins her reputation by such actions. In many cases even changing towns and names, someone from the boards will recognize you. I'm sure there are ways to fly under the radar. But for example, I had changed my name for safety reasons, but the names still show up on my profile. I have been unable to change it. In my head it just seems like a forbidden line to cross. Let's face it. Even a flake is trying to make money. I see the chances of someone crossing it and making themself look even worse is slim. How much concern do men have when giving out their personal information?
To your question "How much concern do men have when giving out their personal information?"
I personally would rather not give out the info if I don't have to. My reason is that I have been held up (read between the lines - threatened), that if my review was not very good, that this loose cannon may come after me. I never wrote that review and held my breathe for two weeks hoping that the angry bitch would not show up at my door or at my business.
That being said, of the 20 or so women that I have seen in this hobby, I've only given out personal info 3 times. Backchannel info between girls, the white list, and I guess just being a nice guy have sufficed for the rest.
The rest is academic, you are putting yourselves in harms way physically and legally, we are risking losing everything to see you. If I got flaked on, would I go on a rant on this board if the flaker had my info? No. Would I let people know about it in other forums where I was more anonymous? Fuckin right I would...
I give as little as possible out. I never give an employer or work phone NEVER! If that is something she needs to see me then we were not meant to see each other. I understand for safety issues that the girl has to protect herself and that is fine but I have to protect myself as well. It just is not worth it to me. It is just sad that we have to live like this.
I have only given private info to highly reviewed & respected providers. Since I am self-employed & the person who answers the phone, less chance of them threatening my work. But this has also caused 2 providers to question me because they were unable to verify who I was. I missed out on 2 of the best (Asian Ashley & Jenni of SD) because they could not verify my employment.
Honestly, I am sadden to hear that. I've heard of girls doing alot of things for good reviews. (Freebies, discounts, no rain coat :O ) But threatening to use your info. to not get a bad review or make you write a good one. WOW! That has to be lower then the guys who just leave paper in the envelope and stiff the girl. Would trusting in a system like Date-Check or 411 Preferred be of more comfort? I've found them reliable and less invasive, outside of the fist time sign up. But at least it's not the young lady with your info. Plus girls can add on to your referral. So, if you don't like giving out referral names. It helps with that too.
Like Jai, I've heard about the various things girls have done to get a good review, up to and including using your personal information against you. Lucky for me. I've never experienced that. I would prefer not to give out too much personal info, but I also understand the need for a provider to verify who you are, so, if after doing all my research, and determining that the person I'm interested in has an excellent track record of reviews and a good reputation on the various boards I visit, I'll provide the information that she asks for. While I've never used Date-Check, I've heard about it, and I like the sounds of it.
Yes, men...you need to delete the phone call from YOUR phone to protect us women from receiving those calls that start like..."Who is this? what do you do?" Venus just got one today and hopefully, she handled it well enough to keep the poor soul who was careless with OUR phone number. I've had calls like this in the past and just treat them like....who wants to know?
when the "SO" Googles the phone number(s). At this point there is no question who the number belongs to (and no good way out). Remember Guys, delete early and delete often or better yet, use disposable phones.
YES! This happened to me!! Want to know what I said? In rapid fire business tone. "Oh- hello! Yes- you have reached Ava at Conroy Flowers. Is this about the order placement? has there been an address change?" She went silent and then said "Oh my this is a florist shop?" I said "yes", "How may I help you?" She said with a giggle "oh- nevermind" and hung up. I emailed "Mr. Discreet." right away. I gave him a heads up and a warning that he better ship off some FTD arrangement ASAP. He thanked me for saving his booty, and being quick on my feet. Thing is- I was having a pedicure at the time, so the background noise of the salon was perfect!
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