No finances involved.... if you had time with a great looking lady. Would an hour still be good? Or a couple hours worth of time? Or would you wan it to go where ever it could all night long? No, not a dumb question not everyone is the same. Some are so busy everything is 'fast food' so to speak.
But just think on it fo r a minute....
What's your perfect evening?

If there were TRULY no finances involved, I'll take the overnight any day.  There are just too many things you can do if you can take your time and get to know someone, too many things to make what you eventually do share that much more meaningful.  

Now, as far as in THIS arena, it somewhat depends on the type of provider.  However, with most of the ladies I have met, a two hour is the way to go, because there have been way too many good things between the mental and the physical to address in a one hour span.  I am not a player that can do overnights, really, but sometimes it makes sense to save up for a better date and do a two hour with one of the best.  It is more fulfilling, IMO.

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That question all depends on the person you are with and the chemistry you have.  I had a young friend that would call me at the drop of a hat and we would hit it hot and heavy for an hour.  After an hour we were both satisfied and she would say "I'll get out of you hair now" and leave.  We had an age difference but we enjoyed sex together.

Others I have been with that a few hours or even the evenening isn't enough.  The chemistry is just right and you really enjoy each other's company both in the bedroom and out.  With those that you can laugh and have a good time with, a long weekend is the best.

I've had guy friends and girlfriends. Some you want to get out after an hour, others you never want to leave.
I feel you on that one 100%.
It's always good to day dream...

I don't understand the rate structure of alot of gals, in which one hour is say, $$$, and two hours is exactly double that.  This makes longer dates prohibitive for most of us, and it doesn't make much sense.  Sure, for an hour date you charge a high rate, because there is a huge amount of time involved in scheduling, getting ready, transportation, dealing with no shows, etc.  I appreciate that.  However, the second hour doesn't require any of this.  Also, in that second hour, more than half of our needs have been met......and if we are over 40, we are rather mellow and not a whole lot of work.  Finally, and gals let me know if I am right about this, longer dates bring in a better class of clientele.  If I were on the providing end of the biz, the first hour would be $$$, and every hour after that would be half price.

It's up to the lady. On a personal note I don't care much for fast food except when alone and if dining with a beautiful lady sometimes a 7 course meal is not enough to satisfy ones hunger.
In my opinion it's the ladies decision in all aspects - always be a gentleman.

I agree With MrSD and Mike but I also think it depends on what you're looking for.  If all you want is sex, than an hour (or two) would normally be more than enough.  But personally, I would rather have an evening or more of your company including some KKK (kissin', cuddlin' and carressin') even with minimal or no sex involved, so my ideal would be a nice evening and breakfast in the morning then see where it goes from there.

Great question!  My best experiences have been where money and time diminish in importance when contrasted with the quality of the "connection."  In fact, I wouldn't confine that observation just to "hobbying."  To make a friend, meet a kindred spirit or recognize a fellow traveler - those are the very best of times.

The touchstone for me is an open mind.  If I confine someone to my expectations (i.e., a janitor, a secretary, a whore, a biker, a lawyer, a CEO, etc.), I'll miss the creame of the crop.  The BEST people are people first.  Their occupation is secondary, in my experience (if not completely irrelevant) to the connection I may establish with them...

And that may take a few minutes, several days or much longer.  That's why I admire your question; 'if finances are not important.'

Thanks Jai for great food for thought!

I've always felt that an hour was not enough; it takes time to get to know each other, and the process is just too good to rush through in an hour.  Further, the second is always better than the first, so I've always enjoyed the build up to the second cumming, and, at my age, that takes more than an hour.

For the first date...one or two hours is preferred..but for the ultimate date with a lady I have seen before...is a nice dinner out   and then retire to a nice hotel for the evening...there probably is not much more sex involved than on a two hour date, but the relaxed atmosphere and the gentle interaction is much preferred to me.  I can take the time to please the lady as well as myself, if I am not watching the clock.  But only if we get along, I would not want to do it with a total stranger.

Nice question Jai. To begin with, an hour is never long enough with a lady, great looking or otherwise if the chemistry is right between us. Hell you've just gotten through catching up, settling in and foreplay in the first hour and that "first round" is still just to get reaquainted.

The second is always sweeter since some of the urgency is now past and it's more about pleasing your partner instead of yourself. After a break to snack and drink round three goes to whoever wants to be the agressor and is there anything better than dozing off curled in each other's arms?

And of course if middle of the night had to do it again sex is your thing then there is that to consider and yes, wakeup sex is always a good thing.

I guess that puts me in the camp of a long afternoon and overnight as my preference. Then again I'm all in favor of take the whole damn weekend for hedonistic bliss. Great sex with great company is a rare thing so why rush it when you can savor every minute of it and have it last as long as possible?

And before anyone says something about.. 4 or five times in a day is not realistic who said I have to cum all of those times...It's amazing what you can do with both hands and a talented tongue and maybe a few toys used at the right time.

Call me a romantic at heart but my life is busy and hectic. My playtime shouldn't be.

If no finances were involved then I would choose an entire weekend or more than one day.  For that matter, I would be a frequest guest at cat69 in the bahamas.  

That really depends on the mood. At this instant, I am quite in the mood for a quickie with an unpreviously visited provider. However, I often find myself seeking the companionship of providers I have seen before. Though repeats my lask the whole 'thrill of the unknown' aspect, I find that I sometimes prefer the 'comfort of the known', and enjoy developing our 'history'.
At still other times, I have pondered an all night encounter. As they are WAAAY out of my price range, I do not ponder much. But, beings that in this scinario, cost is not a variable... I feel that I would very much enjoy the cuddleing in the afterglow... The close presence of a lovely person sleeping with me on a cold night (The sound of rain would be nice also... So I'll be sure to scedule my fictonal all-nigher during the winter/wet season.) and lastly, having quite the wake-up call...To conclude the encounter... Breakfast as the golden sun rises into a sky dotted with the few remaining clouds of the previous nights storm, the air still fresh from its  rain. A kiss, a bow, then fade to white... Back to the real world.

Whew! A bit mushy at the end, but, there you have it.
I suppose the quick answer to the question of long time or short time if money wanst a factor would be: "Yes."

 Hope that helps,
                  -Das

An hour or all night would be great as long as she doesn't no show. I have had trouble with that lately....

perfect evening? Perfect evening with a beautiful provider is something I'm very limited in doing. However I think to enjoy a woman, it takes several hours of talking, flirting, touching, pleasing then talking and pleasing some more. Actually it depends on the chemistry between the two. After all, at some point, you need to have a conversation.  If you are a beautiful woman who doesn't have an ounce of intelligence, then I'll enjoy the hour and leave. If on the other hand, you are not only beautiful but interesting and intelligent I wouldn't want the session to end.

one to two hours max! or the coming of xrist whichever comes first.

Always drinks -conversation, dinner -conversation and an aperitif- conversation. From there who knows - no time limits!

I'm a pilot and I have my own aircraft. My favourite is to take a friend for her first flight and make love afterwards. Usually takes about 5 hours total but given the 'rush' of a first flight, can take longer. Whatever, it's fabulous!

some of the responses. Thanks for your honesty. I was mostly interested in seeing on  average if men are looking for one thing, or more of a "well rounded" experience. Some of you are real romantics I see. But, I also see some points of view I hadn't thought of as far as the males comfort level. The things you think about before hand.
I myself am old fashioned GFE myself. I perfer to get to know someone. And hopefully become an ATF. It's good to know some feel the same way. But no judgement on those that are for looking for a little "to go".
It all works....

I feel your pain about providers that no show, sometimes they don't even call or totally ignor you. Why do they do that????

If she's $$$ for 1 hr., and $$$$$$ for 2, then she's NOT interested in the longer visit.  The reverse of R.H. Macy ("make up in volume what you give up in price").  

What's she REALLY saying?  Easy: One hour is all she can tolerate with us.

Hey!  At least she's being honest about it.  Check out the link, I'm not kidding.  People, even escorts, will always act in their own economic self-interest.  One hour is enough for her.  We need to pay her double to put up with us for two...