I don't understand how people use the TER 1-10 scale. I was just browsing threw the new review area and saw a new review for myself, it was by maxkat and he gave me an 8/7 now that may seem ok but i read the review and i was like damn that does not sound like a 7 of a time. I was thinking that this is the nicest bad review i have ever seen. Now everyone is intitiled to there opinion and i guess i can't make everyone happy but his review of me just rubbed me the wrong way, Can some one tell me why? I don't know exactly the part i read where i got so disturbed, but i do know that i don't feel that the way he explained me pysically and sexually are accurate in any way. and also he said he wondered why i had so many specials? probably no repeat clients? that is soooo not the case, i see AT LEAST 50% of the same people regularly. I just know that by my rates being $300 it isn't as easy to swing for some as $200 and why should i miss out on someone great just becuase they aren't as well off as the next man, i grew up in a middle class home and my dad worked hard for his money that $100 made a big difference in our house. Anyways i just read it and just needed to vent if anyone can tell me why it rubbed me the wrong way so bad please let me know. And i did not mean for this post to be rude or mean in any way shape or form. Thanx eveyone!  XOXO Kali

Looks like Max has some issues based on his other masterpieces. He's probably one of those guys that can't bring himself to be honest with what he wants or observes in front of you & then goes and meticulously writes everything down. He does seem overly mindful of yours & other girls' business sense (really, who cares? Must be an accountant). I would pay him or the review (hey, a 7 is still a 'hot time') no mind and move on...Thanks for venting, though

your my favorite!  Some people just like to complain.  johnny

Impossible for us to know what transpired in your meeting, but looking at your reviews by other reputable reviewers, I personally would not be deterred by that review.  I may ask a few questions, but you have enough good reviews to justify your high ratings.

Maybe it rubbed you the wrong way because it is in conflict with so much of what other people have said about you and you don't feel it is indicative of what you bring to a session.  If this is the case, one good way to erase its memory and impact is keep up whatever you are doing to get your usual reviews.  You seem to have been doing something right.

I personally respect your attitude towards specials a lot, BTW.

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I know several providers, at varying degrees of closeness, so I've gotten to see the "dark side" of this business.  One aspect is that it can be brutal on the ego.  Quite aside from possible effects on business, negative comments just plain hurt.

Unfortunately, for anyone with a spark of human emotion, knowing that you can't possibly please everybody doesn't help.  It still hurts.  I can only urge you to 'let go' as quickly as possible and get on with your life.  And, believe me, I know that's a lot easier said than done.  But it's the best I've got to offer.

I cannot tell you how moved I was by your comment "...my dad worked hard for his money that $100 made a big difference in our house."  That kind of understanding and compassion is all to rare in this business and I honor you for it.

Kali,
   Those of us who have spent time with you know what you are about.  I for one would not give this a second thought.  You are a true gem to most all of us.  Your specials allow many of us to share special time with you, when we would otherwise not be able to.  I for one am greatful for that.  Don't let this bother you and just keep doin what you do.  Thanks for being you.

His statements about why you have specials are unwarranted and inappropriate.  Keep being that sweet caring person you are and you will go far not only in this business, but in life.  Don't let his comments ruin other hobbyist's chances to see you.

--Ramone619

Well-said by Dionisios--don't let it bother you!  Funny thing, I read the review in question, also, and everything he said pointed to a "9", or at least an "8", from his comments, but his number was somehow lower.  I couldn't figure it out, either.   What I do know for sure is that I enjoyed my first time with you, have already repeated, and am looking forward to our next meeting, whether in San Diego or in Vegas.  You're both intelligent and attractive, and, although sometimes a bit passive (lol), once you overcome your initial shyness, I found you to be very, very energetic!  Don't let one person's negtivity get you down!

Que buena, mi amiga! If you read his earlier reviews, then you would see a distinct pattern emerge. So, forget about him!

You have plenty of fans here as well as fantastic reviews! The fact that his comments concerned you just goes to show all of us how much of yourself you put into it and believe me, we all appreciate & acknowledge your efforts!

To paraphrase P.T. Barnun,..."you can please some of the people all of the time and all of the people some of the time, but you can't please all of the people all of the time."

Kali,

This review would upset me too but like you I sure wouldn't want it to.  I think it reflects more on him than on you and is typical of someone with low self esteem.  He needs to pick you apart to feel better about himself.  

I find the reasoning behind your specials, "not missing out on someone great..." sweet and refreshing.  I can totally relate.  Unfortunately though it also puts you within reach of guys like this which makes your job harder and takes a toll on you.

You are wise to know that you can't please everyone.  But I'm sure that like most providers you really want to.  And I know how those comments can hurt.  ::HUG:: Take a bubble bath, feel pretty, kiss yourself in the mirror and make a date with someone who makes you feel good.  And think about all the people who DO KNOW how beautiful you are.

I appreciate Kali and I know she is busy but I have had no luck getting an appt.  The last time I talked to her she was going to sleep.  It was 9:30!!  Actually, I dig you Kali and can't wait until we can finally hook up!!  Keep up the specials.  That $100 makes a big difference, it really does.

Certainly I agree with you that the review sounds a little strange and the verbage does not match the ratings.  In looking at a few of maxcat's other reviews it seems that he may be a bit of a nitpicker.

Assuming that maxcat has actually seen you on a "few" occasions my perspective is that you must be pretty good.  In this business men vote with their wallets.  I do not know of many hobbyists that would see a lady a few (3+) times if they were not at least reasonably happy with the service.  That is why it seems to me that part of his review may be nitpicking.  Of course only you and him know what transpired between the two of you.  If in your mind he has made any valid criticisms on any areas that you can improve then by all means work on them.  Just remember that whatever flaws he thought he saw could not be that great or he would not have kept coming back.

Thank you all sooo much! In reading all of your replys, opinions, and advice i feel soooo much better, it is great to know that people care and can relate as well and of course nobody likes to hear negative things about one's self but that is why i belive in treating people how you want to be treated(dosen't always work out that way but it's a good place to start.) In addition i did read his other reviews and kinda saw a pattern, all i have to say is maybe he should go call mag! LOL! i'm just kidding! Have a great day everyone and thanx for listening!  XOXO Kali

I don't know you but the guy who wrote the review seem to  to thnk, every one owes him somethin. May be legen in his own mind.

Good luck. May be I will catchup with you and find out for myself when I am there. Do you travel Irvinee?

Kali, You KNOW you're a very caring, lovely person. I am a very hard working construction type and I apperciate your gift of a reduced rate. I would'nt take advantage of it very often as I respect you ability to earn a living. Kali you are very kind. I'll always be a big fan of you.

I can never get an appt. with her either. I called both numbers and left messages, emailed her and filled out the appt form. But I never heard from her and it's been over 3 weeks. Also read her most recent review ... She's just fair.

Kali -

It's simple.  Some guys have tricked themselves into believing they are having sex with someone who actually cares about them, so they have come to expect that every girl they pay to have sex with, should trick them into believing it as well.  Therefore he expects that you act like a girlfriend or wife by showing intiative, being aggressive, being into it, being 100% perfectly and newly shaven and clean.  

He is in denial of the fact that he is actually guy # 5 that has had sex with you that day, and he therefore has no way to comprehend that such a lifestyle could take a toll on you emotionally or mentally and maybe sometimes you're just not into it.

Every single guy here needs to remember what these girls do for a living and stop expecting so much.  It it is probably the second highest risk of engaging in this activity:  Lackluster performance.  Why?  Because! You try having sex with 40 women a week, half of which are physically disgusting to look at.  See how you feel at the end of the week.  Imagine having to have sex with saggy old women, obese women, women with bad hygeine whose crotches smell, etc etc etc and you have to smile for them and act like you love them?  Lets get real.  

Thats why he wrote what he wrote.  He is one of many guys who has deluded himself into thinking that this is a "special" occasion you should be prepped and eager for.  

Like I said, lackluster performance is the second highest risk of engaging in this "hobby".  The first highest of course is HIV and other STD's.  When you engage, you better expect that these are real issues.  Thats why we have reviews though.

Sometimes, familiarity breeds contempt.  This could be one of those occasions.