I'm always open to trying somthing new and exciting. I think I'd be comfortable asking both my ATF and someone new to experiment. In fact, Jai, since we're getting together in July, and we've never met before, if you're willing, I'd love to experiment with you!

I think you always need two types of provider. One is a pse,one is a gfe, depending on your mood. AS always ymmv.

As a beginner raquetball player, my mentor told me the best way to improve techniques and skills was to play with someone more experienced and better.  Although reserved, I've found it rewarding to ask what works best for her in a session. Some innovative techniques, positions and experiences for me has been the result. I am still looking  for good mentors/teachers.

I've felt comfortable asking a ATF to experiment it is only when she is not comfortable doing those things do I then look elsewhere. Yes, love to try new things, if not why play?

Hi Jai- interesting questions.  I for one don't feel comfortable asking for new things from my ATF. I fear blowing a good thing.  Hence, I tend to seek others who might meet those needs.  I do think it is exciting to try new things.  For me, I love it when someone does something new and wild- some who have suprised me (in a good way) are Kladia, and Asian Ashley.