: San Diego Discussion : Get Over It

raincoat 30 Reviews 774 reads

posted 12 years ago

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So I've noticed that I have a weird hang up the last few years. One of my favorite positions is missionary. To me it is the most intimate position, but I've found that I am really uncomfortable doing it anymore. I'm afraid I'll make my partner uncomfortable by having my body and everything that close and tight to hers. To be honest I'm afraid I'll gross her out- cross a boundary I shouldn't cross. Yeah I know that is probably really weird, but am wondering if anyone else feels that way. Should I just get over it and go for it?

-- Modified on 6/28/2014 1:29:44 PM

ChrissieDahl2 561 reads

posted 12 years ago

2 / 15

missiopnary position

Posted By: raincoat

So I've noticed that I have a weird hang up the last few years. One of my favorite positions is missionary. To me it is the most intimate position, but I've found that I am really uncomfortable doing it anymore. I'm afraid I'll make my partner uncomfortable by having my body and everything that close and tight to hers. To be honest I'm afraid I'll gross her out- cross a boundary I shouldn't cross. Yeah I know that is probably really weird, but am wondering if anyone else feels that way. Should I just get over it and go for it?

-- Modified on 6/28/2014 1:29:44 PM

If you mean an SO why not ask if this is comfortable for you? If you are older, gained weight, have anything medically related like arthritis, knee replacements she would know and perhaps welcome a conversation. As we age things change, for both parties and what is beloved is still loved but the way we accomplish it is sometimes in need of an "update".

I agree, nothing more intimate than to look into the other's eyes and share than special moment.

zgjsmhdgk 53 Reviews 494 reads

posted 12 years ago

3 / 15

Get Over It

It's a wonderful and intimate position which allows great eye contact, DFKing and mutual rhythmic actions. I say get over it and enjoy!

PabloNeruda 435 reads

posted 12 years ago

4 / 15

You have to read your partner ...

It is the most intimate. If it's someone you've developed chemistry with she may enjoy it. First time out, she may prefer something less engaging. You just have to become a good read. There's a reason they all say they like doggie - it's like we're not even there. But for someone you've seen time and time again, there's nothing more intimate than missionary.

raincoat 30 Reviews 431 reads

posted 12 years ago

5 / 15

Re: missiopnary position

thanks Chrissie Dahl
I was thinking more in the hobbying context, but do suffer from many of the maladies you discussed. Yep nothing like looking into each others eyes at that special moment

Posted By: ChrissieDahl2

Posted By: raincoat

So I've noticed that I have a weird hang up the last few years. One of my favorite positions is missionary. To me it is the most intimate position, but I've found that I am really uncomfortable doing it anymore. I'm afraid I'll make my partner uncomfortable by having my body and everything that close and tight to hers. To be honest I'm afraid I'll gross her out- cross a boundary I shouldn't cross. Yeah I know that is probably really weird, but am wondering if anyone else feels that way. Should I just get over it and go for it?

-- Modified on 6/28/2014 1:29:44 PM

If you mean an SO why not ask if this is comfortable for you? If you are older, gained weight, have anything medically related like arthritis, knee replacements she would know and perhaps welcome a conversation. As we age things change, for both parties and what is beloved is still loved but the way we accomplish it is sometimes in need of an "update".

I agree, nothing more intimate than to look into the other's eyes and share than special moment.

raincoat 30 Reviews 374 reads

posted 12 years ago

6 / 15

Re: Get Over It

thanks Cobraa1

raincoat 30 Reviews 363 reads

posted 12 years ago

7 / 15

Re: You have to read your partner ...

ah Pablo very insightful. Yes, i hear doggie is my favorite position often. And maybe that should be my read. I have always suspected that meant I do not want to do missionary. Thank you

zgjsmhdgk 53 Reviews 411 reads

posted 12 years ago

8 / 15

Re: You have to read your partner ...

Well stated Pablo. Also, they don't have to look at old or unattractive guys having sex with them. (Different if it's done with both of you facing a large mirror.)

Posted By: PabloNeruda[/ ... There's a reason they all say they like doggie - it's like we're not even there...

ChrissieDahl2 323 reads

posted 12 years ago

9 / 15

Re: missiopnary position

Posted By: raincoat

thanks Chrissie Dahl
I was thinking more in the hobbying context, but do suffer from many of the maladies you discussed. Yep nothing like looking into each others eyes at that special moment

Posted By: ChrissieDahl2

Posted By: raincoat

So I've noticed that I have a weird hang up the last few years. One of my favorite positions is missionary. To me it is the most intimate position, but I've found that I am really uncomfortable doing it anymore. I'm afraid I'll make my partner uncomfortable by having my body and everything that close and tight to hers. To be honest I'm afraid I'll gross her out- cross a boundary I shouldn't cross. Yeah I know that is probably really weird, but am wondering if anyone else feels that way. Should I just get over it and go for it?

-- Modified on 6/28/2014 1:29:44 PM

If you mean an SO why not ask if this is comfortable for you? If you are older, gained weight, have anything medically related like arthritis, knee replacements she would know and perhaps welcome a conversation. As we age things change, for both parties and what is beloved is still loved but the way we accomplish it is sometimes in need of an "update".

I agree, nothing more intimate than to look into the other's eyes and share than special moment.

Ok, then the lady you see can be told what you limitations are and ask if she can accommodate you. Often the women will say in their narrative "I see people of all abilities" of something like that and can be open to most problems. I have even heard of some providers that are nurses or PTs and are trained to accommodate disabilities. I wish you well in this endeavor!

ChrissieDahl2 337 reads

posted 12 years ago

10 / 15

Re: You have to read your partner ...

Posted By: cobraa1

Well stated Pablo. Also, they don't have to look at old or unattractive guys having sex with them. (Different if it's done with both of you facing a large mirror.)

Posted By: PabloNeruda[/ ... There's a reason they all say they like doggie - it's like we're not even there...

Not to belittle the OPs situation but I have heard girls that text, talk on the phone or watch TV while dong the session doggie. What is the point, you are almost literally phoning it in. If it is that distasteful you should reconsider your career choice.

raincoat 30 Reviews 350 reads

posted 12 years ago

11 / 15

Re: missiopnary position

Thanks Chrissie
I think they way I wrote my question was confusing. I can perform missionary fine, I was really wondering if providers minded doing the position because of its intimacy. Thanks for the good wishes, though. I can always use those.

ChrissieDahl2 319 reads

posted 12 years ago

12 / 15

Re: missiopnary position

Posted By: raincoat

Thanks Chrissie
I think they way I wrote my question was confusing. I can perform missionary fine, I was really wondering if providers minded doing the position because of its intimacy. Thanks for the good wishes, though. I can always use those.

Ok, and thanks. I can be a little obtuse at times myself. I think, like you know it is very individual and like kissing...so do and some don't. That being said it is always the chemistry.

GoldieKnox See my TER Reviews 476 reads

posted 12 years ago

13 / 15

I very much enjoy missionary no matter the hairiness or size of my lover -E-

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PabloNeruda 333 reads

posted 12 years ago

14 / 15

Re: You have to read your partner ...

Quite honestly, I once caught someone watching TV during missionary so I don't think the position really matters. If they're not engaged they're not engaged.

travelerone 7 Reviews 398 reads

posted 12 years ago

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Re: I very much enjoy missionary no matter the hairiness or size of my lover -E-

And so does your lover!!!!

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