I'm fairly new to this hobby and seen eight or nine providers in this time. I've settled on one and seen many times. My question is now I'm starting to really like this woman and am concerned it may effect my personal life. I just don't see how we could have a future considering her line of work, but I enjoy our time together. I just spend too much time thinking of her let alone the cost.

Any thoughts from providers or the veterans out there?

Since she is still charging you, it sounds that you are the only one falling....

Been there, done that.
Believe me, you lose.
I tried it twice.  Unless you are
very well off financially and/or
emotionally, you aren't going to
enjoy the experience.

You stated in your own message that you see no future because of her line of work.  If that is your true feeling, you already solved your own dilema. Just enjoy your time together in the manner it is suppose to be enjoyed.  You have to remember that a good provider can make a session very memorable and should make you feel that you are the only person in her life. It is sometimes hard to separate the truth from the fiction. Many of us that participate in this hobby are looking for more than just the physical satisfaction and easily fall for a good provider.

You can always ask her if she would like to do something like going out to dinner, movie, concert or similar activity.  If she says yes you know she likes to spend time with you as well.  If she says no you have a good idea it is just business to her.

This is a difficult decision to make for both parties.  If she says yes, where do you go from there. Do you go into the no mans land of friends with no sex, spend time together but still schedule an appointment or move into a relationship.  I have gotten myself into that "I like you to much to charge you but do not love you enough to give it to you for free."

Some providers will not want to see you any longer once things become a little too friendly. Each provider approaches this area differently so you never know what the response will be.

As you have stated that you see no future together, just cut back to an affordable level of sessions and enjoy your time together.  With time you will refocus your thoughts to more normal activities like work as you will find out that the bills still keep coming and have to be paid. It is sometimes hard to seperate the act of love making with the emotion of love. With time and more experience you will learn that much of of what you have fallen in love with is not reality but a well scripted fantasy.

I like your answer. So true.

Warmest,
Sedona

SEE OTHER PEOPLE. I KNOW FROM EXPERIENCE. YOUR HEART WILL BE GRATED TO A FINE POWDER AND YOUR BRAIN WILL BOIL. FEEL FREE TO EMAIL ME FOR SUPPORT AND REMEMBER ONE THING, THIS IS A BUSINESS TO THEM. THAT'S ALL IT WILL EVER BE.
Compassionately,
TBS

Suggest you visit the General Discussion Board which has had extensive comments in this area.

Thank you all for your empathetic support. Yes, I have allowed the lines to blur as this was never to be anything more than a hobby. It is what it is, a business. I'll heed the wise words and enjoy the moment for what it was intended to be - a moment.

I had an answer for Cardguy ready in my mind, then I read your post and you stole all my thunder!  Well said.

What about it? Have you fallen for a client before?

Excellent, Vianca.
Glad to see you present this side, also.

Here's a welcome back xoxo

Sedona

I had the honor of seeing  one of your providers on a regular basis for the last 2 1/2 years. In fact I stopped seeing other ladies for the past year and a half. I spent a minimum of 4,000 a month and upwards of 10,000 on her.Not counting the expense of trips to Cabos,Newport,RI.Key West and others every month. I honestly felt love for this woman. I, like most men, wanted to be her stud.Not just sexually but as a means of financial support. Now it is clear I was her "cash cow".I was told she was only seeing former clients and only for over nights.  I read her reviews and I realized that what she had been telling me was part of  milking me to the max out of  our relationship. Great actor. Beware! This is a business. I dropped over $150,000 on this highly regarded Sandiego provider.  Until I read the reviews,emailed clients and realized I was totally being taken I thought she was the ultimate lady in the world.
While I aspired to be a stud, I now realize I was just a cash cow. She milked me dry, slaugtered me and replaced me with  a number of other hobbiests. Part of the game. Part of the the reason escorts don't want their reviews posted.
Not only were there issues of cost, there was the realization of of sexual preferances,performance and pleasures in the reviews that destroyed any semblance of respect as to honesty.
Guys this is a business and nothing else. This woman destroyed me emotionally and financially and walked away smiling.
Enjoy the moment but don't for a second think that providers are honest. It is just a business.