being new,, how do I overcome,, the women
asking for references?
Straight out,, I have none..

Not all providers ask for references.  It's usually the more established that do.  You may be able to persuade a provider to take a chance on you since you are new and have to start somewhere...

let us know how that works.

That was just plain rude.  I wouldn't assume everyone who asks a naive question is LE.