When you have a first date with someone, it's not uncommon for negotiation to take place.  That's fine.

Now on the second date with the same lady, I think that the "rules of engagement" from the first date have set the tone.

Here was an experience I just had, and I'd love to hear comments from the ladies on this.  On the first date, we agree that FS is going to be 600 (the time is not important), which was more than the hourly rate we talked about on the phone.  But that's cool, I expect a little bumping.

Now, on the second date, the lady takes my 6, get's the little guy all excited and after we're all sweaty, says FS is going to be 200 more.  Not only is this bad business (I won't call her again) but it's just darn mean.  Usually ladies stop this kind of game in high school.  After she left and my brain came back, I knew I should have thrown her out then and there ... and I will the next time this sort of nonsense happens.

Ladies, what do you think?

m
 

Post a review.

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First of all, I wouldn't have seen any lady with rates like that a 2nd time.  2nd of all, if her fee were that big, the rules of engagement would be, the money is on the counter where she could see it, but she would not be taking possession of it until the session were over.  And pulling a stunt like that just wouldn't happen under those circumstances.

I did not think it important in my first post, but it was for 2hrs, so the rate was reasonable.  Having the money upfront is also not a problem with me, although by the second session, I'd rather she'd trust me enough to wait

My issues regarding etiquette were:
1. the expectations from the prior meetings
2. the timing of the bump

m

I am not a lady, but first and foremost, you owe it to your fellow hobbyist to warn them about a provider who uses bait and switch, and to do this, you should post a review.

All I can say buddy is that you must be livin' large to not flinch when a woman you have seen before increases your price for the same service by $$ during the transaction.  Most of us would have needed Viagra at that point.

I posted a review before I posted to the discussion board.  I thought they would have been approved at about the same time, but the review is taking longer.

No one has to tell me that it was stupid for me to agree; but at the time there had been enough action that the little head was doing the thinking.  No Viagra was needed.

I'm still hoping to hear from some ladies as to whether they think it is reasonable that the first date should set the expectation for the second date.

And, BTW, I certainly will not be seeing her again.

m

I think you should post the name in this thread.  I wish we could all somehow end sessions as soon as this type of behavior begins--it is unwarranted.  (How would a provider feel if at the end of a session we subtracted money for some bs reason?  Yet many of them think there is nothing wrong with upping the price after the session has started.)  

I'm curious, was this an agency girl.  I've encountered this type of behavior more from agency girls than independents, which one of the reasons I won't see an agency girl anymore.

I did not post her name, because I was hoping to get some responses from providers and did not want to put anyone in an uncomfortable position of directing their comments against/for any particular person.

Also, to support TER, I have posted a review of my completely fictional encounter with this imaginary lady.  If you're a VIP member, you can read the whole thing after/if they approve it.

m

p.s. no, she was not an agency girl

Based on his review.

-- Modified on 2/2/2004 8:56:34 AM

You are an idiot. $600.00 for a piece of worn-out ass -- reasonable? Why you sick bastard, get help or just cut it off!

from which I infer that, for the most part, they think that the behavior of this provider was acceptable ... (?)

When she asked for the additional $200 it would have been appropriate for you to have thrown her out of the room and then tossed her clothes, purse and shoes out after her.

Isn't it amazing how the ladies have nothing to say on this subject.  They seem to stick together on almost every subject on the boards.

-- Modified on 2/2/2004 10:25:45 PM

What can you say? He got ripped off, that's too bad. Now he knows not to go back. Try sticking to well reviewed providers. These things are bound to happen in this business. There has been a few times I've been short changed. Count your losses and move on. Sorry this happened to you.

Maybe she thought since you were idiot enough to pay 6 bills for the first session, you'd be idiot enough to pony up two extra bills for the second.  Seems she was right.