Hypothetically speaking of course, if a gentleman's name appears on a blacklist, EVEN if he claims he has 10 fantastic references, is it worth running the risk? I've been advised that it's not. Suppose I don't fit the individual's preferences and now I am a target of a misogynist? Suppose I prefer to not participate in an activity that is perverse, unsafe or unpleasant and now I get a decidedly biased, perhaps even a punitive review? Maybe someone caught you stalking, or taking video, and the others did not. How am I really to know?  

Saying that you gave someone a "bad review" might be a clever response. But from my point of view, I have just as much to lose as everyone else does.  

Would you see a girl with all 10/10's but one reviewer claims she left a half hour early?  Showed up drunk? Refused to shower? Or what if she had a reputation for being a drama queen?  

Tell you what.... I'm confused. Saying I won't see you because you've been blacklisted is just common sense. Saying you've been blacklisted for giving a bad review is exactly what I would expect you to say.  

Just saying.  

 

 

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well being the number 1 provider in San Diego, you can certainly be choosey on whom you see-blacklist or not. It is good to be the Queen!

How you screen your clients is and should be a matter entirely in your control.  I assume you posted this here because you're looking for some feedback and that's all I mean to provide, you should, of course, ALWAYS do what makes you happy and feel safe.

Blacklists and bad reviews are both very useful things when people behave responsibly, they form a means of warning others of a person's bad behavior.  This is known as a good thing.  Unfortunately not everyone uses these things in the manner they were intended.  When I consider a bad review I often look at details.

For bad reviews to be useful imho it needs to have the following:

1) a source (known users have more value than unknown users)
2) a statement of the offense or problem with reasonable specificity
3) corroboration (one account from one person is less reliable than many accounts from many people)
4) Some methodology to contest the information.

For example if some brand new account put a ROB report up on you here, you'd contest it and any sane moderator would support you.  Even if they didn't support you, most users would consider the history of the reviewer for good or ill.

My understanding of blacklist sites is that none of this is true, the sources can be completely anonymous, the statement can be fairly vague, there may be no corroboration, and at least for some places there is no way to contest the information or post an opposing story.  With all that in mind I would give it even less weight than a bad review here, but that's me.

If the site you use doesn't have these flaws then I would of course revise my opinion.

I appreciate that sweetheart Some people seem to feel otherwise... I kinda just needed to vent about it.

which of course leads me to rate every woman I see as a 10.

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But you're the #1 Provider in San Diego charging more than a car payment for an Audi S6; shush! zip! Nicht! Shhh! Sh! .... shhhhhh.  Good girl.

I know what is behind national blacklist. The person that thought it up is a friend of mine. She was nearly murdered during a session when she worked for an agency, thus it made sense for criminal acts and to expose LE. Please do not ask me who this, I won't answer so, don't waste your time.

But that site is open to any comments that any providers want to post about any guy for whatever reason. And there is nothing there for any rebuttal from any guys that remarks are made about. And there is no way to remove any thing that has been said.

I have told by a well known and highly reviewed provider that bad reviews don't mean anything if you are viewed as stable member of this community, i.e whitelisted or just known by others.

Bottom line, the site should be used to expose guys that are a threat or LE and nothing else. Frankly it is not American to accuse someone of something without giving them some vehicle for them to defend themselves. Which make sense with National Blacklist because it is not operated in the USA.

I could go on with more details but I will leave it at that.

Lol! But what? I'm not sure I understand how being #1 has anything to do with my post? My rating is subjective, just like everyone else's. BUT my love, a few things if I may...
1) All San Diego gentlemen are grandfathered into my original rates for incall, which are LESS than some of the other ladies in town.  Well one seems to have disappeared, but there are still a few who are more. Everytime I post that I am hosting, I mention that there are *special* considerations for my hometown loves.  
2) Being #1 only means that some people really liked me. It doesn't "mean" anything else. There are plenty of beautiful and talented ladies in SD.  
3) Now, being "#1" tends to attract "tourists". They only wanna visit for an hour and see what the hub-bub is all about. I am not really attracted to someone who is less than genuine; in other words "I just wanna see you once and review you so everyone knows I saw so-and-so." This is a personal diversion for me, not a contest or a full time job. I don't want to be available to everyone, just a few good ones.  
4) To respond to your closing statement "Good girl"....you have no idea love 😉😘

Not sure what else to say ...

Exactly.

MfSD>>>>

it's all just personal diversions hon ... nothing more

No drama here AWJ, just starting a discussion. The only drama I can think of is from the guy who won't accept my many polite declines. BL or no BL, the post is just a part of the story. This post is really a venting of frustration that someone can't take no for an answer. I think you know what I am talking about.  

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I totally appreciate your view on this. There is more to the story, but I'm not about to air dirty laundry. It's just a little venting and really posted to inspire discussion.

Carly,
I would guess there many of us who appreciate how you handle your buis...you have represented San Diego well and we appreciate your care for the locals.

I completely understand. I vented heavily this week on a series of bad stuff and it was not met with much understanding. It even slightly pissed off a good provider friend of mine. And she doesn't get angry much.

I keep my laundry to my self also.

There is more to my story as well, but I keep it under wraps. It's called discretion. A two way street.

It's a slippery slope on both ends. No guaranteed funds for providers with the way the system is supposed to work. If a hobbyist spends $1000 on a gal that is more like $1700 to him with taxes and all...and throw in a hotel room and some guys can be spending over 2G for an hour of fun. Although I understand that most girls, even if they charge $1000/hr (I am not saying you Carly, I don't know your rates) it may not be enough to pay the bills if you are very selective (and you should be!) So thus the slippery slope analogy.  

NB is f'ed up. I would not trust that site for screening unless the guy comes off as a serious weirdo or LE.

I think I just vented again

NB is good for an initial screen of the number but like you said, Todd, it's a warning sight, not for reviews. I found a [potential] client's number on there and saw him anyway (gut feeling) and it turned out the poster (provider) was on the wacky side. He is a terrific person.

Good topic CarlyD

is that I found out THE Carly Dahl has grandfathered us local boys in.  OMG I had noooo idea!  Fantastic.

That my friend is the very best thing about living in San Diego!