no need for anyone to call anyone racist. just looking for advice.

so i have this thing for white chicks but im black and have been turned down 5 times this year trying to set up a session with a white chick (a majority well reviewed here) over the phone after being asked what my ethnicity is (i guess i dont sound black). today i drove 30 minutes to meet and got to the door, and the chick text me saying that she doesn't do black men. i guess do i just disclose this first so as not to waste anyones time?

That way you can waste your time driving there and their time for taking an appointment with someone they're not interested in seeing. Plus that awkward moment when you show up and they tell you they have an NBA policy is priceless.

C"MON MAN!!

To each their own, but I see nothing wrong with entertaining respectful individuals regardless of their hue.  Check out me website I have several pretty white providers who LOVE African-American men, so do not waste your time with lames who have black daddies at home that are not allowed to see real men.  LMFAO!  


They should disclose this information, and you should move on to a provider who appreciates your busine$$.  Keep your head up & get back in the game. xoxo Smile 4 me!

Sorry this happened.

With proper screening there is no reason to turn anyone away.

I thought a woman was supposed to be able to decide who she will and won't see. Silly me for thinking a woman has a choice.

Some call it preference.

Mate, sorry for what happened.  A person's skin color shouldn't matter but unfortunately in the world we live in it does.  If you're a decent guy, treat providers right, and act like a gentleman, I'd suggest asking a few well respected providers to white list you here (no pun intended).  This board is about exchanging information and making good choices.  We all have our personal reasons for seeing or not seeing certain providers.  I'm thinking it works the other way around too.  Why not just state who you are (i.e. black) and ask if anyone is willing to see you?  Ask them to send you a PM if you want.  Build up some regulars and have fun.

Cuz you know what they say about a black man's penis ...

(Giggle giggle)
Just keep trying darling .. There are providers who see a brother!
Good luck hunting!
Kisses on your mushroom tip,
Chloe

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..... ehhhhh *sighs* yeah i guess you should mention it when booking. Better to be rejected before you go wasting gas and time....again.
TBH if a provider has a race preference she should mention it just like many make note of age preference in their ads/sites.

thats what I was thinking. shouldnt the girl post it? i guess it could go both ways, but if theres no mention of it during the conversation, it doesnt cross my mind to bring it up

i was really just looking for a nice release .. so i think there was more to it than that..

mmmm... thanks for the kiss tho

good advise from my brother from down under lol

While it's sad that racism exist today and it's not something I condone. It is however, ones personal choice (in this adult lifestyle) to see/or not see someone, be it for whatever reason.

Now with that said. It would be best for men to indicate their race upfront. So as to forgo the nonsense of driving to a providers incall, or her coming to you. ONLY to have her tell you she won't see you because of your race.
It saves you time & money (because you may not only get turned away because of your race. But that particular provider may try to get you to compensate her for the so called *loss of time*.

So my advice. Be upfront from the initial point of contact and let said lady/girl know, your race.

Let face it, basically this advice applies to black guys right, or am I missing something here?  I find racisim disgusting, but no one at least around here, has ever turned me away because I'm white.  Not sure what happens if you're Asian or Latino.  I remember years ago being turned away from a nightclub in Singapore because it was "Japanese only."  Also I've found in some parts of SE Asia there was a "no foreigner" policy, especially when the Aids epidemic was hitting home.  Here in SD I've only seen one agency website that asked for your race, to as they state, let them know what to expect.  Basically if you're a person of color, hobbying particularly with white women, you need to represent yourself - is that the rule around here?

I love gentleman of all races, sizes, ages, etc.

I'm white and would love to meet!

I dont care what color size or shape you are as long as your hygeine is up to par 100% & you MUSt have 2 recent verifiable references  

PS: EEERRRGGG why would someone talk about someone else when thier actually the ones paying managers lol

alot of girls wont see black men bc they cant stand managers who slay women and they dont want to risk being set up in a bad situation.(happened to me in the past b4 checking references)
..AND Mostly "if a girl is managed i think the guy will make her see ANYONE ..regardless of race shape hygeine reference ect
...just my 2.

SORRY again Tone..Hope you find someone to help you forget that day..Id LOVE to be that Naughty HELP Baby  hehe

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It also happens to an Asian guy if he wants to meet an Asian lady from the ASIAN*** agency. They do not want to meet the asian guys I do not know why...

haha.. thats funny. ur own people turning their back on u

obviously there is no obligation for any provider to see a client. just like i can be selective in my provider, a provider also can be selective. what annoyed me was driving up there, getting there early too, and getting turned away without warning. and personally (kind of a tangent) im not a fan being grouped by association with a particular set of people. clearly all black people (or any race or ethnicity for that matter) are not all the same and dont all think and behave the same. i mean i didnt vote for obama in either term. but i digress. i guess i just wish i was given a chance before getting turned away but given that i have been contacted by some very lovely ladies i will stop complaining now

I second that!!!!

In reality we all should always focus on character, and our safety! To be safe to enjoy a great time is priceless.  Best of luck, I also agree when someone on here mentioned "to get whitelisted"

We're all different in what we seek in our clientel... Respect is one!!! for me. Then we have what we attract. I myself have a thing for doctors and business men, and the ones that are married that seek no drama.

best of luck!
Viv

yeah... it really sucks. i don't know why... i've never been kicked out by the other girls whoever they were any race, but those agencies do not like the asian guys...
u better try them!

He never said she has no choice..Just stating what happened to him which is what this board s about - sharing information on providers...But that is my preference...

If you're trying to show you aren't as black or follow that crowd b/c u didn't vote Obama (or don't talk ghetto, etc), save it when it comes to pay for play b/c the ladies who don't want to see blacks don't care if you are as straight as they come or dare not vote for a black dude, they won't see you.

When it comes to race and exclusion in this realm, no one cares about politics as if someone isn't as black or white for voting for someone. Really? wtf

I'd advise letting women know your race before the meeting b/c this won't be your last experience. Search any board and it happens all the time.

PS. I have SEVERAL black friends who voted for Bush, so what?!

Posted By: tone3

obviously there is no obligation for any provider to see a client. just like i can be selective in my provider, a provider also can be selective. what annoyed me was driving up there, getting there early too, and getting turned away without warning. and personally (kind of a tangent) im not a fan being grouped by association with a particular set of people. clearly all black people (or any race or ethnicity for that matter) are not all the same and dont all think and behave the same. i mean i didnt vote for obama in either term. but i digress. i guess i just wish i was given a chance before getting turned away but given that i have been contacted by some very lovely ladies i will stop complaining now

My first contact with a provider always begins with a little description: " I am x years old,  y.y ft tall, weigh  z lbs, of ...... origin and love to make people laugh", where .... is my race/ethinicity.  That takes care of this issue of whether they will see a certain BMI or color that day. Or just send a picture of myself, as some providers request. I also fail to understand why the provider wouldn't ask such basic questions before setting up appointment.

Exactly!

And while it should be screening protocol for all ladies to get a description of the hobbyist and confirm it with the ref. (for SAFETY sake).
Some gals simply don't screen. As such, if a man partakes in this adult lifestyle and cares about his safety & the nature of wanting to truly enjoy the company of the woman he's contacting. Then, (he) would/should in his initial contact, state his description/race age etc as a means of not just screening, but introduction to the lady.
At which time, she can reply with wanting to meet or choose to decline.
And there would be NO unnecessary 30min drive to blue balls and cold showers for him.

Well played, my friend.

Not only have you stated the issue, but now you have had all your research done for you!

The young hunter chases the game.
The wise old hunter sits by the waterhole and lets the game to come to him.

Now, contact each of the ladies who have commiserated with you here.
That should keep you happy for some time!
Bravo    

I find it interesting that it's okay for the original poster to say he has a thing for white women yet some of your are bashing the girls who don't have a thing for black men. I have seen some black girls post "no black men", so what do you say to that? Personal PREFERENCE? To each their own? Why see someone you're not into? That doesn't make for a very good session.  

You're right, there is no need to call anyone racist because I don't believe having a preference is being racist. I think it's good that some providers list "no black men". No time wasted on your part.  Maybe she's just intimidated by a big 8====>.That's what hear anyways. :p  Her loss...

As long as you're clean, respectful, a gentleman, and pass the screening process...give me a call. But you won't, because I'm not white. I'm not offended either.  

To answer your question.  Yes, disclose the info first.  Should you have to? NO. Unfortunately, that's just the way it is.  Be safe!  

xoxo

T