Hey There All,

I had an incident with a hobbyist that has left me with what my gay chiropractor calls "a hot mess".

I have been in severe pain for a week now and crying everytime I move... Writhing in pain. I will need some time to heal so please don't be upset with my lack of response lovers! My lowest two ribs are most likely fractured with a bunch of muscle damage and strain on my spine. It hurts to breathe, cough, go to the bathroom, laugh, anything .

This all happened due to lies from a hobbyist about being educated in tantra. I so wanted it to be true that I didn't listen to my intuition telling me he was full of it.

Please don't lie about things you don't know how to do. It could turn out to hurt people.

When it is you that has no family close by laying naked in pain on your couch and you can't bare to do anything wondering how long it will be until you can be normal; it sucks.

Be honest people!!

XOXOX
Big Love to All!

Back issues can go away in no time or linger. I wish you well.

I have been in occasional severe pain for 2 1/2 years due to an incurable auto immune disorder (not cantagious, always gotta say that here ) It's quite a slide from being a pretty exteme athlete 4 years ago.

What I have found is that family, friends and co workers will care for awhile, for the most part, although there are people that still care...people begin to not care so much if it lingers and you can't make it to work, events etc..

I felt bulletproof until this happened, but I learned much about being compassionate towards others and have grown from it. The bottom line is that I feel that I can make it through this, but it is up to me and no one else. i could go on for awhile about this, but pm me if you want more advice, or at least, my experiences with extended illness.

You will learn about fighting through adversity...it seems weird that it could be a positive, but that is the way you HAVE to look at it.

Sorry that this happened to you.

Roxanne,

That Lucky Dog comment was meant for a different thread, obviously.

After 3 back surgeries 2 back surgeries one month apart in bed for months months alone I identify with you.

I know that each back problem is different.  I didn't like very well meaning advice, although some was helpful.  I still rather not have had it unless I asked for it.

If I can help I'm not far.

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Sorry to hear about that. I bet most guys are respectable and honest but there's always that one. I hope you make a speedy and full recovery!

so that he is blacklisted...he should be sued....

Let's think on this suing first.   If you do think about this route you want to be careful!  You DEFINITELY want to talk with a PROVIDER FRIENDLY & EXPERIENCED attorney first.  Too many sue always no matter what it does to the client lawyers around.  Lots of ethical ones as well.   Start with who you can trust.  

First heal.  Worry about other things when your better.

So sorry to hear about this -- hope you mend fast and get back in the swing of things! I don't know anything about tantra, so nothing to fear with me.

ThighHighLover - Get out.  Seriously??  Are you an ambulance chaser?  Go Away please.  Look - I have no clue what this is all about and I suspect nobody else does.  Why the itchy trigger finger?  Provider = ALWAYS Right and hobbyist = ALWAYS WRONG.  Sorry I dont see it that way.  I see now why nobody posts on this board - because it is so pussy dominated and influenced.  What a bunch of ass kissing guys (if you can even call yourselves guys).  Whats a matter 'hobbyists'?  Afraid to respond with how you really feel?  Afraid of a boogey man black list?  

Joe

I am so sorry to hear this!
I find it simply kind that you would extend your bounds of comfort to cater to someone. It shows a lot of your character but if someone is hurting you and not in good way tell them no! Its okay to say no if the situation is not good!
now i need to google this tantra to make sure i do not hurt myself too!

poor thing! if there is anything a tiny little danish cupcake could do anything to help or wharves please let me know!

get well!!!!

Fellow Hobbyists-

Anyone who knows me, is aware of the fact that I practice tantra as a way of life and my spiritual path. This person had been speaking with me for over a month and had all the right things to say about being open to the universe and was the first person to sound "truly educated" in my arts.

It happened in 30 seconds. He was going to massage my back- Left hand was to the middle right of my spine (on ribs) , right hand pulled back on my right shoulder, too much force, and craaacckk.

This person has been told he hurt me.

The original post was posted to alert the people whom have e-mailed, called, txtd with no response.

I find this all very disturbing because in no way shape or form do I want to be the center of drama on these boards EVER.

Please be nice to each other.

XXX
Roxy

Sorry you had to be manhandled by an untrained tantra practitioner. Unfortunately a lot of people in the world claim they are something that they are not.. Guess you had a hard lesson. Be wary of letting someone work on you whom doesn't have proper training.
I'll work on you to help you get better!!
Kissez,
Chloe

Always post ALL the info in the initial blog.
Posting general info or vague info leads readers to come to their own (often wrong) conclusions.



HUGS
Feel better!



XO

I have a partial spinal cord injury...  which has caused many falls!  The falls did not help my pre-existing back problems.   My last big fall was beyond a contortionist...  x-rays amazingly showed no fractures but the recovery was very long...  around a year.  

Getting a massage is one thing...  forcefully being flexed is very unwise without medical training.  I have had a chiropractic treatment FAIL...  despite his considerable education, I ended up crumpled on his floor.  He REFUSED to touch me or give assistance (ecept willingness to call 911) undoubtably fearing adding liability.  I eventually got myself up & left, never to return.  I now use a different chiropractor who uses a different technique.  

You might want to consider a back support with stiffeners as a stop gap.  I can't do any harm, just relieves stress in your injury so you can heal.  The one I like (can't find it now, looked to see the brand) has stiffeners (important) and velcro fastens around you.  Them there is a second layer of elastic that you can tighten & velcro fastens to the first.  (The outter layer can be relaxed when you're not active.)   I bought mine from a chiropractor but they are available online.    Similar to this http://www.braceshop.com/productcart/pc/Breg-Back-Support-with-Side-Pulls-20p127.htm



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Right now you are hurting.  There might not be anything "broken".  The bones of the back wear & sometimes the natural spurs can "lock"...  what an DO or DC do is manipulate the back by position to unlock them.  If your back has shifted & locked...  the muscles will be spasming & complaining.  One side it stretched beyond normal while the opposite is now slack.  Of course, the muscles hurt.  This is a time when good drugs might help...  My doctors wanted me briefly on a serious narcotic...  I voiced my concern despite my pain.  The doctor explained that the deep relaxation would allow the problem to clear up & combined with other treatment it did.  Dr also said, "This is why God invented narcotics, take it!"  I don't suggest an ER (takes forever) but you should touch base with an MD.  

I find that just laying flat on the chirpractor's table, I can feel if my back is "out" of place.  Sometimes if will go back on it's own.  I have a lightly padded but stiff exercise bench which I use to help my back reorientate.  But if an injury is fresh, the is probably deep swelling.  It might take a couple of months for the swelling to go down.  I fell very hard & dislocated a shoulder...  despite 2 cortisone shots, the swelling remained...  shoulder remained dislocated.  PT did not help.  Eventually the shoulder popped back in when I least expected it.