Sometimes I find myself with with unexpected free time and a desire to go out to dinner.  Is it rude to post something like ... "I find the idea of being alone tonight unpleasant.  Is anyone else feeling the same way and looking for a dinner companion?"  

Is this acceptable to post in this forum?  Even if it's not a solicitation for business is it tacky?

I think it would be refreshingly new! Because I sometimes feel the same way. Often as I travel all over the world and enjoy the physical pleasures of a provider, I then talk to them and find some girls that I think "This would be a really interesting person to just spend some time talking to..."

No fun going to a nice restaurant alone nor going to a theatre play (or that great Sushi alternative place you guys have in SD). SO I think that dinner companionship is (and posting for it) is not rude.

I'm visiting San Diego to sell some artwork the last week of January - if you feel like it, and have free time, contact me and I'll buy you dinner and take you to a play!

MM

I do not think it would be tacky or inappropriate.  There have been many things offered in the past from concerts, sporting events or other activities.  Most of the time it is a gentleman doing the offering in the hopes that a woman will accept as as social instead of business arrangement.

If you are asking a gentleman or lady to be a companion for dinner which is intended as a social meeting that should be fine.  I am sure most of the gentlemen will offer to pick up the tab to spend some time with an attractive woman.  It can also be a good screening opportunity for both parties.  Posting every day might be a little questionable.  After a short period of time you will probably establish a list of several people that will be dinner companions and you can just contact one of them directly.

I occasionaly would like to get out of the house and experience a nice meal with a nice female companion.

Thanks Nctyguy,

You articulated perfectly ideas I was having a hard time expressing.

...that has been presented in one form or another in the past.
As one post suggests it is most often a gentleman who takes the initiative to offer to share some sort of social engagement with a provider. Thanksgiving or Christmas dinner for example.

I must admit that I have felt a twinge of skepticism about the true motives behind some of these offers but that does not mean that they were not offered sincerely, and in a no strings attached manner.

Actually I am only aware of such offers being proposed by gentlmen and find it refreshing that a provider would make such a suggestion. My sense from your post is that there is a bit of concern on your part as to how it might be perceived. Since you have the integrity to be concerned about the perception such an offer might elicit from others I can only believe that you would be GENUINELY interested in sharing time in this way with someone else who might find himself in a similar circumstance.
That to me would be a win/win for both parties concerned.

I find it intriguing and attractive, and have often thought that I would like to share a bit of time outside the business in a purely social activity, such as dinner, with  a provider,
particualrly one whose company I enjoy for reasons that go beyond the obvious.

Of course both parties have to be on the same page. It is not the women I would be worried about in that regard but perhaps some of the guys. I suppose it could cut both ways actually
but considering the nature of the business, well I think the point is obvious. Having said that I believe most guys would not seek to take unwarranted advantage of such an offer, not if they expect to enjoy such company again in the future.

The idea adds a little personal warmth to what can be perceived as a purely business arrangement between those of us who participate in what is colloquially referred to as the "hobby".

Notice I said, can be perceived as purely business. I have been fortunate to share a bit of time in this way and I have been fortunate in having something of a connection with a provider that goes beyond the mere "business" aspect of the provider/client interaction.
I would not be interested in continuing with this activity if that "connection" was not there.
It is someone that I have that "connection" with that I would be most interested in sharing a social activity with. Or, if I have not met her before but somehow sense that she is someone
I might likely have such a connection with then I would also find it intriging, if that makes sense.

I'm not trying to make it too complicated. I understand that the basic idea is just to have a dinner companion in such a circumstance, and the idea is a nice one.

There are some factors to be considered and I wonder what your own personal concerns might be with respect to this beyond those you stated regarding perception.

In essence I think it's a great idea and a good way to get to know someone a bit better even if there never is a client/provider relationship or any expectation of such a relationship.


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I have offered this both Thanksgiving and Christmas Eve.  My offer is open any evening that I'm free.  Any provider who would just like to go to dinner, take a walk on the beach, catch a movie, or... without any expectations or obligations beyond that, feel free to contact me at [email protected].  If I'm free when you want to go, we'll do it - even the same evening if I can.

Sounds OK to me.  It's not really a "discussion" topic, but seems squarely within TER's charter for the boards ("a great resource for information and meeting new friends, as well as an engaging platform for intelligent, humorous, sometimes wild debate").

Of course, I'm assuming you'll call me first....

..or better yet, just contact me directly.... : )

I like the idea and wish it would become a custome among providers.  I've found tremendous variation in this area among providers.  Some will spend time socially--I supose they figure they have to eat sometime and its nice to have somebody else pay the check.  Others seem to have the attitude that they could have been making money so they should be compensated for any time spent with a man.  As I say, I like the idea--it sounds like a win-win to me.

 I think you comments bears merit. There is allot of times I am looking for something to do and don't have the answer. Dining alone is the no fun. How do we bridge this gap??

June,

I don't know about the powers to be, but it sounds cool to me.

Good luck.

Everyone gets lonely from time to time. It's nice to be able to have a nice dinner with someone just as friends, and particularly nice to be able to talk openly about things that you wouldn't talk about with ordinary civilians.

to have an offer of time spent with such a lovely lady as yourself.

whether you are just asking for someone to join you, for company, or whether you are hoping that they will offer up covering the time and/or the expenses.

Since it wasn't mentioned, I presume you mean just asking for company to join you! Sounds good to me!

Heck, when I'm well enough, I'm calling Alarmin1 - let's hit the town, babe!

personally. Hello guys!

And let me just say, ANY of these guys would be a lovely dinner companion and each and every one of them is certainly pure of heart and would have no other expectations in mind than just enjoying your company for dinner.

Highly recommend all three of them, either as dinner companions or as clients. If you have questions, you can PM me!

disappointing 10-15 guys every time you posted this.

As you can tell from the response here in just a brief period, there would be numerous guys who would take you (or many of our TER ladies...no offense, LJ) up on this type of scenario.  I mean, was this a trick question? :P

I'd go out to eat anything with you, anytime, anywhere.  You're 100% genuine and a "class act" if ther ever was one.

Harry

As a constant traveller (soon coming to SD) I can tell you there's another perspective here from this side.

I usually arrive in a city on Sunday nite, check TER, call a couple of girls and set up appts. on Monday and Thurs. and fly off on Friday.

In between I love to explore the city, and in San Diego never miss a visit to your fine arts museum followed by some gallery hopping, also that cool brewery place by LaJolla, or a nice long stroll around PB ending in some seafood restaurant and always a visit to the theatre or that most unusual performance place called Sushi.

Those are all fun things that I would love to share with anyone - not just one of you girls, but because one flies in and out there just isn't anyone available to see the city with fresh new eyes.

Arriving SD at the end of the month!